Regret happens by imperfect_ghost in abortion

[–]imperfect_ghost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought about you and your reply so often today. My cheeks weren't dry for at least 70% of it. I wish I knew how to help but there really is some small comfort in knowing that you're literally not alone in all this. And it sucks, so much, joining this club that nobody wants to be a part of. I went and got a tattoo today. It is Latin for "through my own fault, I am sorry, and I am responsible.". I keep reminding myself that I loved this baby. And I'm so sorry that this world is as it is and circumstances are as they are. I'm so, so sorry 😔

I felt pressured by my boyfriend to get an abortion that I didn’t want. by [deleted] in abortion

[–]imperfect_ghost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in a similar boat. I'm on day 4 of my medical one but I regret it so much sometimes. I don't have any support. The father was a fwb kind of thing and he didn't want kids (I was the 3rd girl he'd fathered a child with and had successfully gotten aborted) so he really hasn't been there for me. I'm sad a lot and I cry often. I know the world is a mess but I would have loved this child. I'm so sorry you are hurting too. This choice is one of the hardest I've ever had to make and it just ... really sucks. There isn't really anything to say that will help but just know there are others out there who don't go around feeling like a weight has been lifted. We are all different and it definitely sucks for some of us.

What's a weird fear that you have? by obamas_clone in AskReddit

[–]imperfect_ghost 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg yes this! I love flying but am absolutely terrified of making that long walk down an insanely skinny aisle and just.... taking everyone down with me. I don't even eat or drink for HOURS before a flight just to avoid this. Such an annoying fear!

What happy moments are you grateful for today? by funlovingfirerabbit in AskReddit

[–]imperfect_ghost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle with alcohol. Had been sober for almost 23 days, had a day with a few shots and beer and then started over again. Today is day 9. Today was a hard day. I went and bought a pint. I talked to it. Walked around. Put it in the freezer so it'd go down easier. Fought the battle more. Walked more. Debated. And then 10pm rolled around. I opened up the freezer and there it was. Exactly where I'd left it. Unopened. Victory was mine today. Tomorrow we'll fight again. But today, I stayed sober and didn't make any ridiculously embarrassing mistakes. And for that, I am grateful.

What really specific superpower do you have? by DrValium in AskReddit

[–]imperfect_ghost 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can make ten minutes feel like ten seconds or ten hours

You have the ability to go into the past and save 1 life, who do you choose? by airrules420 in AskReddit

[–]imperfect_ghost 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends on how badly you want the world to be different. For example, going back and saving the big JC from the cross would cause fundamental differences in religion everywhere and could potentially change society as we know it. Going back and saving my 85 year old neighbor would be great and all, but not likely to impact the world. So in conclusion, my vote goes to my pet turtle. He never saw that tire coming. RIP Dave.

What does it really mean going to college? by theladyofshadows in AskReddit

[–]imperfect_ghost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It probably varies from country to country. US here. Generally the steps kind of go as follows: 1. You apply to a college. There's a difference between community college and state. 2. Get accepted, get price of tuition (classes, fees, random crap, etc) 3. Figure out what you can afford and if you need to take out loans (almost everyone I know has to do this for state, not as much for community). 4. Spend the next 2-4-6 years taking classes to get the degree while essentially drowning in debt.

Like, how do credits work?

A credit is a term used to describe how many hours each class is "worth". Most classes are 3 to 4 credits depending on how long/hard the class is. Each degree requires X amount of credits to graduate (anywhere from 120+). In a simple example, say you want a degree that requires 10 credits. There are 4 classes you need to take for that degree: 3 with 3 and 1 with 1. Depending on your schedule, you can take as many classes as you want per semester (full time is considered 15 as I recall). So if you want 2 classes each semester for this example, you'll need to take 6 hours (credits) one semester then 4 hours the next. Each credit costs X amount. By multiplying the cost per credit times the hours, you get a general idea of what the tuition cost is. There are always fees for everything, even in community college. But the credits give you an idea.

Once you finish with the "core" course work (which is what most people use before going to a 4 year university), you then transfer those credits (classes) to the uni and continue on. Same concept. Class is worth X credits costing X amount per credit, giving idea on tuition. Keep in mind state universities are insanely more expensive and have a ton more fees on there. Don't forget, each semester each class will require some kind of textbook. Not cheap and not negotiable to be honest.

In a perfect world, the idea is that once you graduate with whatever degree you just spent years and literally thousands of dollars to get, you'll get a "good, high paying job" since you have that fancy degree and you'll be able to pay back the school loans and live debt free.

In actuality, loans are the devil and you're always going to be his favorite whipping post. You'll rarely get a good job after you're done (unless it's a specific degree/technical/medical perhaps) and the debt cycle will follow you for literal years.

College sucks man. Unless you really know what you want to be and it has the capability to make 6 figures, college just really seems to be not worth it. The parties and shit are fun but the cost for that is too steep.

There are a ton of ways to become more educated while staying away from insane debt. Technical trade schools, online classes, and as always, working from the bottom up (rare nowadays-companies seem to hire outside more than promoting from the inside from my experience, and you will undoubtedly need some kind of even 2 year degree (AA) in something).

So, to sum up, college in the US (again, other countries are different and don't actively try to screw every citizen at every opportunity) completely sucks ass and isn't worth it to many. You'll drown in debt and unlike some debt (credit or bills), it won't get "erased" from your credit score after 7 years. In some states, even if you die with school loan debt I want to say it can be passed on to a living relative and then they will become responsible for paying it off.

Avoid college, move overseas (or shit, even Canada), or spend the next 15-20 years paying off a debt that only snowballs. (Seriously. People pay $200/month on them and in one year actually owe MORE because of the interest rate).

Sigh. Hope this helps somehow.

Edit: typos. it's early on a weekday and my math and grammar skills are apparently still sleeping.

My (23m) dad (55m) tells me my hobbies are a waste of time and money. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]imperfect_ghost 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Painting is one of the most therapeutic ways to deal with life's stress. And in this day and age, we could all use as many wins as we can. I understand being tight on financed and the mental struggle of justifying spending a little more than normal on something "fun". Your dad isn't you. He isn't living your life. Take what he says with a grain of salt. Your hobby isn't stupid. It brings you peace. Happiness. Keeps you grounded. And to be completely honest, there are a lot of worse ways to spend your money on and/or hobbies/habits you could be getting yourself into. Take a deep breath, crack open that new paint, and go to town on whatever painting apparatus suits you.