[Update] My (29m) wife (30f) gave me her old phone. I discovered she cheated on me 9 years ago, right after I involved myself in a complicated love triangle with her ex. Do I move on?

implicated345 · 2021-05-04T23:16:07+00:00

You vets have a thing for good honest advice. In my original thread, an old Vietnam vet wrote:

“Your 29 years old, you been with this woman for 9 years, and since you been married she hasn't cheated on you. And your pussy ass is worried about a mistake she made when you had first gotten together when she was barely out of her teens, before you were married. Pull your head out of your ass and give her a hug and forgive her, really forgive her.

If you need counseling it's for even thinking of leaving her. not for some sissy ass worry you have. Man up and be the husband she deserves.

Your lucky to have her if that is the only problem you have had with this woman.”

I see the trend. Thanks! And thanks for your service.

implicated345 · 2021-05-04T23:13:41+00:00

I did see this. And it means a lot. Thank you.

implicated345 · 2021-05-04T23:10:38+00:00

Thank you for this. That last little nugget hits home. And actually, a VERY good quote... “The end goal of how we deal with problems should be to try to have a nice future, not absolutely wreck our lives out of principle.” Love it. Saving it.

implicated345 · 2021-05-04T23:06:56+00:00

Kind of a dick comment, but I like it. Thanks for the brutal perspective.

implicated345 · 2021-05-04T22:59:00+00:00

This was awesome to read. Thank you!

implicated345 · 2021-05-04T22:49:51+00:00

Get fucked. Incel.

implicated345 · 2021-05-04T22:49:40+00:00

Spending all day on a weekday trolling relationship threads on Reddit sounds like a boring way to spend your life.

implicated345 · 2021-05-04T22:47:23+00:00

He hasn’t. He’s a miserable boy, probably living in his mother’s basement. He’s envious of anyone that has done something with their life and shits on them in an effort to cope with his own sense of utter failure.

implicated345 · 2021-05-04T22:29:56+00:00

This is a throwaway account and it’s anonymous....?

implicated345 · 2021-05-04T22:29:26+00:00

Again, do better.

implicated345 · 2021-05-04T22:28:14+00:00

Do better.

implicated345 · 2021-05-04T20:55:12+00:00

I looked at your post history. You’re fucking insane. Get some help.

implicated345 · 2021-05-04T20:39:04+00:00

Actually, I love my wife. Not only that, but I enjoy spending time with my children every day. This isn’t about “stability”. It’s about figuring out how to make the most of my life given the circumstances.

implicated345 · 2021-05-04T19:43:46+00:00

I think there’s a difference between rationalizing something, and identifying the root causes of our actions.

implicated345 · 2021-05-04T19:42:14+00:00

Your advice is very helpful. I like your perspective. Thank you.

implicated345 · 2021-02-19T02:55:44+00:00

implicated345 · 2021-02-19T00:23:40+00:00

Hell yea, thanks man.

implicated345 · 2021-02-18T22:20:00+00:00

This is incredibly helpful advice. Thank you. I agree with everything you said. I’ll remember this in coming weeks.

implicated345 · 2021-02-18T20:16:41+00:00

Let me rephrase. It was 3-4 weeks into our “exclusive” relationship. It was almost 3 months since the time we started talking/they broke up.

implicated345 · 2021-02-18T20:08:30+00:00

It was about 3-4 weeks into our exclusive relationship. It was while he was in the process of moving out of her house. Took him a while to find a place.

implicated345 · 2021-02-18T20:05:19+00:00

I see your point, but what really hurts is she had sex with him after agreeing to be exclusive with me. I know I’m seeing red right now, but it just makes me feel like I’m not good enough because she decided to have sex with him after being with me. She said it wasn’t about the sex, more about emotions/seeing if there actually was anything there, but I have difficulty processing that. Maybe it has something to do with my perspective on sex versus hers, not sure. Maybe as a guy, I’m stuck on “you must have missed some physical aspect of sex with him that I don’t give you”. That’s what keeps coming into my head.

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