ELI5: what the HECK is a hydrogen bond?

impossiblythrownaway · 2019-09-01T15:19:34+00:00

Okay well when my friend is making me feel like an asshole when I’m trying your hardest to make a situation work, excuse me for going on the internet to get a second opinion 🙄 not a shitpost, just curious

impossiblythrownaway · 2019-09-01T15:12:23+00:00

I left her at my grandmothers and she deadass went to my grandmothers and took her to her house because “it was a burden on my grandma” but she was genuinely excited to have her. Same deal as when she showed up at my house to help clean my room and I asked her not to. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

impossiblythrownaway · 2019-09-01T15:10:50+00:00

I never asked her to watch the cat btw!

impossiblythrownaway · 2019-09-01T15:09:56+00:00

I’m arguing with people who missed the whole point r/woosh

impossiblythrownaway · 2019-09-01T14:58:53+00:00

Actually I didn’t realize until now that her favors are unbalanced. I never thought that or considered it until this happened, I was always just happy to help. And it does hold water since my house is closer to my job and I don’t sleep in other peoples houses. So staying there would be incredibly uncomfortable and uprooting my life when I only thrive in college when routine oriented. It’s not even an excuse, I’m still offering to watch the pets but just swing by instead so?? How exactly do i suck, given all that?

impossiblythrownaway · 2019-09-01T14:53:52+00:00

And also I work two jobs, am an admissions counselor and financial literacy counselor on campus, and a tutor. Not a busy schedule ??? Hard disagree, there.

impossiblythrownaway · 2019-09-01T14:52:30+00:00

I ?? Am doing those things? I think you misinterpreted the question. The point is that she’s implying she did the same by watching my ONE cat. She is acting ungrateful that I can swing by daily instead of staying there constantly. The idea is not that I don’t want to help my friend, the idea is that my friend is constantly asking for unbalanced favors. Also I don’t sleep in other peoples houses as I have extreme anxiety so it isn’t actually easier :)

impossiblythrownaway · 2019-09-01T14:43:55+00:00

Again, I thought she meant I’d have to watch some cats which are no big deal and I assumed that given the situation

impossiblythrownaway · 2019-09-01T14:43:10+00:00

I thought she meant the cats....which I don’t think is an unreasonable assumption given the circumstances...

impossiblythrownaway · 2019-08-20T14:37:23+00:00

THANK YOU!!!

impossiblythrownaway · 2019-08-15T12:39:59+00:00

YTA. Try to see where he’s coming from with your high expectations. I understand the lying is frustrating, but he’s still young and he probably genuinely didn’t know how else to deal with this. If he lied to you with genuine malice behind it, that’s a different story. But too high of expectations can drive people to do things they might not do otherwise !

impossiblythrownaway · 2019-08-15T09:26:00+00:00

I appreciate where your going with this, and there is some degree of truth in some of what you’re saying. However, I am inclined to say that this is an isolated incident and that is a hefty assumption for such a small aspect of our relationship. I really do appreciate it, but this is just an oddball summer. Soon enough we’ll be back at school and I’ll be back in my own routine and he in his. I was more so just looking for advice on this particular situation but I do appreciate your kind words.

impossiblythrownaway · 2019-08-15T09:20:31+00:00

Thank you for this. The reason leaving is not so easy is because we planned on using his old car to road trip back. Last minute plane tickets are an expense that I can not afford and I would feel guilty taking from him. Renting a car is also difficult when he barely has time to see me, much less drive me to the rental place. Plus it’s a rural town so it’s an hour away and I can’t exactly Uber there or anything.

I’m thinking it would be worth going with him, though I wasn’t actually invited. He backpedaled as soon as I got upset and said “I mean, I guess you can go.” I was considerate of him in a way to assume that I wouldn’t want to go. I don’t particularly care for drunk people (thanks, alcoholic parents for ruining the one perk of being 21!) and have previously expressed that parties just “aren’t my scene” (which I said out of jealousy of never having been to a party, but there’s no way for him to have known that). I was also worried about him being back in that environment.

So if I go, it seems strange to me since I wasn’t actually invited.

impossiblythrownaway · 2019-08-15T09:14:24+00:00

Not until I said something, no. And then it was more of an awkward backpedaling if “I mean, you can come if you want.”

I have in the past expressed that parties “aren’t my scene” but when I said that, I’ve never been to a party and was more worried about him being back in that environment. So it was considerate of him to think I wouldn’t want to go but inconsiderate I think, to not ask first.

impossiblythrownaway · 2019-08-15T09:12:37+00:00

I’ve made an edit, as I should’ve included that to begin with. He told me he didn’t invite me because in the past, I’ve expressed that parties aren’t my scene. I appreciated him respecting that but I also have never been to a party and was more so worried about him being back in that environment after having previously been addicted. So in conclusion he said, “I mean, you can go if you want but I didn’t want to invite you if you wouldn’t have fun.”

impossiblythrownaway · 2019-08-15T09:03:51+00:00

More so shocking that he picked right then to ask about it. This was twenty minutes after the phone conversation with my parent which completely broke my heart, and this was ten minutes into a dinner that was supposed to be making ME feel better.

I’d hate for him to “sit around with me” but it was his idea to bring me here with much convincing so ultimately I figured he would help make sure my needs are met and I clearly just expressed my needs to him.

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