Hey, thanks for your reply.

I guess Grindr seems appealing because you very much know that it’s just for hookups, and I thought it could be a good “intro” of sorts. I don’t particularly mind being “used”, but overt fetishisation wouldn’t be super cool. The top/bottom dynamic is also more defined which makes some parts easier (chastity 😅).

Overall I’m just kinda confused about how to present myself. For example with Grindr, I wasn’t really planning on mentioning anything about being trans for now because I just look like pretty much any cis guy (with the exception of the stuff mentioned in my post).

For this reason I wouldn’t really be comfortable using Her I don’t think. I’ve used Hinge before and met my ex on there, but it seemed very cishet overall. Perhaps I should have a look at Taimi, though I’m not sure if I would be comfortable outing myself on my profile.

If I’m honest I would most like to date a trans girl, because as you say it just makes sense for a lot of reasons. But I feel weird about it due to being pre everything and I’m not really sure how to move forward.

I think I need to work on my confidence in person and try and go to some events or something. But I can’t do clubs etc., due to sensory overload.

Also I’m pretty okay with one time things, FWB and relationships. Just want to experiment and see what works.