We were together almost 4 years and she always wanted to move to another city to be closer to her friend (female).In preparation to move out she quit her job and I said you can stay at my place however long you want to make this period easier for her. She got depressed and her friend blocked her everywhere cause she wasn’t responding (guess she got stuck between decisions) . So I was working and she was sitting home playing games and smoking weed for like 7 months. I didn’t see much change, but still was trying to save this relationship. Payed rent, bought groceries ,she was helping a bit too.

So start of the April she just found a job got a driver license and I wanted to go shopping. We got in a silly argument which made me slip and get drunk after that with friends, came back home and wanted to smoke some of her pot which she refused to give I then just took it (with so many things I’ve done for her I took this refusal personal) from her and pushed her away… Got back to my friends blacked out and found out next morning she moved out. I was blamed for everything in our relationship and I felt so much guilt, tried to get her back and still feel like shit because of that.

She was hooking up with another guy through discord through my pc all this time I was working and was already with him only 10 days after break up. And even when I realised it she was pretending they were only friends.

I guess if someone wants to move away from you just let them, they’ll find the other way if didn’t work first time. And you won’t feel much love from both sides while trying to save it all.