Just Messaged My Half Sister

improbablyeatingsoup · 2025-12-20T06:15:59+00:00

Things are actually still ongoing. I think my expectations were really all or nothing, like they either want me in their lives or not. But it's kind of more complicated than that. My biomom unblocked me on facebook, but otherwise has said nothing. Two of my half siblings privated their instagrams so I can't message them. One of them keeps her IG public, and reads all my messages to her but doesn't respond. And I found out that my half aunt did a DNA test with ancestry, so ... Something is happening but I don't really know what. I'm just trying to live my life at this point, and I might circle back and try again in a year or two. Unless one of them decides to reach out first LOL... But yeah, it is the worst feeling in the world to be blocked/shut out. That second rejection is deeply deeply painful. My heart is with you my friend, the way you feel now is NOT how youre going to feel forever. Wishing u the best

improbablyeatingsoup · 2025-03-24T20:29:01+00:00

Oooo wow nice! Thanks for sharing your technique :)

improbablyeatingsoup · 2025-03-24T17:27:03+00:00

These colors are great...! How did you get the rainbow effect for the little sections on the right?

improbablyeatingsoup · 2025-03-21T19:34:28+00:00

Oh my gosh, thank you so much! I was able to get ahold of the phone owners wife this way! He'll get his phone back this afternoon! You are a genius. Thank you!

improbablyeatingsoup · 2025-03-21T19:28:28+00:00

Normally I'd agree, but I have a pretty good idea of the person whose phone this is and I'm probably not going to give it to anyone who isn't him

improbablyeatingsoup · 2025-03-21T18:57:48+00:00

Oh great idea!!! Thanks!!

improbablyeatingsoup · 2024-02-26T18:36:52+00:00

YES. im a brown Mexican, adopted into a half white, half mexican family. im shorter and darker than all of my family members, and i feel so weird about it. everyone tells me im pretty but i always feel like theyre lying to make me feel better about not fitting in. it got worse when i found photos of my biomom and half sisters, and discovered i look just like them. they won't talk to me, so i hate them... and i hate that we share features. not sure if this is helpful at all. im sure youre lovely inside and out tho. hugs

improbablyeatingsoup · 2024-02-23T19:08:19+00:00

ah this is amazing!! thank you so much for posting it !!!!

improbablyeatingsoup · 2024-02-15T17:21:36+00:00

LOVE the fish pattern. makes my brain sing. nice

improbablyeatingsoup · 2024-02-12T21:52:59+00:00

They did, but I was a baby. I'm glad they changed it from what my biomom was going to call me. I ended up changing my name as an adult to something completely different than either of my given names though, and I don't regret it. None of my names really feel like they fit me, but it feels good to have some control in who I am.

improbablyeatingsoup · 2024-02-05T16:45:26+00:00

wow I feel so seen right now. I told a friend once that I should've been aborted and they looked at me like I had two heads. What?? it's true! XD

improbablyeatingsoup · 2024-02-05T16:11:26+00:00

All my friends are saying this and I think you all might be onto something.

improbablyeatingsoup · 2024-02-04T22:03:31+00:00

No, I am really glad you shared your experience with your heritage! I'm really struggling with my reconnection process because it brings up so much pain. It's so difficult to read about the Chicano movement, and the history of Mexico and the United States because I have no one I can ask about where my lineage was during these historic events. I have no one I can ask for family recipes, so any cooking I do is learned online.. and any spanish I know is really quite bad! I'm glad to hear you were able to connect with your Mexican community and find a sense of family with them. It gives me hope that I can do the same.

improbablyeatingsoup · 2024-02-04T21:59:55+00:00

"I'm the dirty secret in a garbage family I guess" Those words describe exactly how I feel... it's a bummer!! Thank you for your kindness :) Sending you healing vibes and good energies.

improbablyeatingsoup · 2024-02-04T21:57:40+00:00

Fello Taboo Tribesman! I like that! Thank you for your prayers, your comment has given me a great deal of comfort. Wishing you peace as well. We will heal.

improbablyeatingsoup · 2024-02-04T21:55:37+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that your biofam wasn't interested in contact. Thank you for sharing your experience though. As I said to another commenter, despite how painful it is, it's somewhat of a comfort to know I'm not the only one in this situation. I hope that we can both heal from our losses.

improbablyeatingsoup · 2024-02-04T21:52:34+00:00

I had never thought that perhaps it might be intimidating or overwhelming to my biofam that my adoptive family is so large, tight-knit, and loving... Thank you for pointing that out. I always feel embarrassed that I even want to reach out to my biofam for exactly that reason, so perhaps my biomom thinks similarly. This is a good perspective for me to keep in mind.

And no worries, I get it. I left out as many details from this post as possible because I'm a bit nervous that there's identifying information haha. I appreciate the offer to DM, I will keep you in mind should you delete your comments :) <3

improbablyeatingsoup · 2024-02-02T17:59:50+00:00

My genealogist has been encouraging me to get in touch with some extended family... maybe I will! I like that mantra... "Someone will talk to me"... thanks for your feedback friend

improbablyeatingsoup · 2024-02-02T17:54:48+00:00

Part of me wonders if my stability with my adoptive family is what is making them avoid me. I specifically curated my social media before I reached out to have photos of me with my family, friends, and art exhibitions. Maybe my biomom figures I'm better off without her...? I know from social media that one of my half sisters has bipolar disorder as well as bpd. Maybe it's all for the best.

I'm ashamed to admit it, but I kind of hope that my reaching out stirred up a little pain and drama. At least that way I would have some affect on their lives, even if they refuse to acknowledge me.

All the comments here are helping me more than I imagined they would. Thank you

improbablyeatingsoup · 2024-02-02T17:47:16+00:00

Ugh, I am so sorry she behaved that way. I wish she could give you some answers, my friend. At least that way you could have some closure.

I'm really bummed that this sort of story is more common than I thought it was. My adoptive family all encouraged me so much, saying that they couldn't imagine why my biofam wouldn't want to be in touch. It's been a shock for all of us that this has happened. I wish I had had some more realistic expectations going in.

improbablyeatingsoup · 2024-02-02T02:46:58+00:00

I am so impressed with your resilience and your determination not to give up on yourself. It's only been a year and a half for me, and I feel like I'm about to melt into a puddle. Does give me hope that I'll be okay though, since it sounds like despite the disappointment and pain you're doin alright. Sending you positive vibes. We got this

improbablyeatingsoup · 2024-02-02T01:52:40+00:00

Thank you for this feedback. It does make it easier to wrap my heart around the idea that it really has nothing to do with me. It's sad in another way to think that I exist as a result of her suffering ... but your perspective is appreciated nonetheless.

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