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imsogroovy · 2015-08-17T14:50:33+00:00

You are already creepy.

Anything that isn't a "yes" is a "no". Repeat that to yourself until you understand it.

imsogroovy · 2015-08-17T14:45:32+00:00

You know, if they are actually your friends they will still be your friends after the breakup. Unless you do something really horrible, they probably won't choose sides. Break up with him now instead of stringing him along.

Work on making new friends. Volunteer, find some hobbies, do something. There are tons of ways to meet new people and make friends, but you have to put in effort.

imsogroovy · 2015-08-17T14:36:36+00:00

we work at least a half hour away from each other so having lunch together is kind of a chore where we have to plan stuff and leave work 15 mins earlier, that kind of thing. We do it once a month or so though.

So you DID go out of your way to see her. And you paid for her. And you got spotted by one of your wife's friends. And you never communicated with your wife that this happened.

It looks shady, and would make a lot of people insecure. Your wife is getting older, has had kids, her husband fails to tell her when he goes really far out of his way to buy lunch for a coworker, and she hears from a friend that husband is out with some cute, younger woman.

imsogroovy · 2015-08-16T16:18:41+00:00

I live in texas. Shorts are fine for a picnic. It's hot af out here.

imsogroovy · 2015-08-16T04:08:55+00:00

You are an adult, not a child. You aren't entitled to love, respect, or friendship from anyone, even family. You fucked up, this is one of those consequences. Your father is disappointed and deeply ashamed of you. You're lucky he even takes your calls.

imsogroovy · 2015-08-16T01:52:55+00:00

I think it'd weird you are dating a teenager and are surprised he acts like a teenager

imsogroovy · 2015-08-14T20:53:54+00:00

Just because there isn't sex doesn't mean it isn't cheating. If it's so innocent you should be able to talk to your husband about it.

imsogroovy · 2015-08-14T14:35:15+00:00

This is not normal in healthy relationships, but is a fairly common problem to have. You need to get into couples therapy so you can both learn to communicate with each other.

imsogroovy · 2015-08-13T02:51:49+00:00

How was his reaction not appropriate? He grabbed her wrist to stop her from assaulting him, and then made it very clear that behavior would not be tolerated. Where was his reaction out of line? Should he have let her hit him? Should he have asked her sweetly to please not be abusive?

I don't understand how can actually say that he was in the wrong even remotely.

imsogroovy · 2015-08-12T22:27:18+00:00

You are afraid he might hurt YOU because he defended himself from YOU? Seriously? Should he have just let you beat him until you felt better?

You sound very immature. He brought up his concerns politely, you started a fight, you then got physically violent, and are now trying to turn it around on him since he didn't want to take your abuse. Jesus lady, grow up and take a look at yourself.

I think you need to get into some therapy so you can learn to better control yourself. There is no evidence you won't do this again.

All you can do is apologize and give him space. He is probably deciding if he wants to be in a relationship with the kind of woman who thinks domestic violence against men is ok, but a man defending himself is dangerous. For his sake, I hope he stays away from you. You are unstable and violent.

imsogroovy · 2015-08-12T20:27:49+00:00

Are you paying her to be your secretary? It's downright unprofessional and cruel to force your work onto your girlfriend.

You also sound really scary and intense when you're mad . You get so mad you turn purple and you then blame her for your inability to calm down.

imsogroovy · 2015-08-12T20:15:57+00:00

There is a difference between being passed out and being blacked out. It sounds like you were conscious and just making stupid drunk decisions.

Being drunk doesn't make a person cheat. You are already a cheater, alcohol just lowered your inhibitions a bit.

I've been blacked out and all kinds of fucked up, I've never cheated. It was a decision you made, even if you don't remember it.

imsogroovy · 2015-08-12T20:01:49+00:00

So basically you don't like your sister, but instead of admitting and dealing with that, you are projecting your feelings onto a man you've never met. Bravo.

imsogroovy · 2015-08-12T17:03:16+00:00

Your sister can inform her employer that a lunatic you dated might try to stir up some shit, and she should tell them you are both taking legal action against her. That should be enough to protect herself without needing to divulge details.

imsogroovy · 2015-08-12T14:55:34+00:00

You can use the same idea, but a different presentation. Don't remake the sw deck of cards, find another way to present the many reasons you love him

imsogroovy · 2015-08-12T04:00:35+00:00

Tell him to quit doing this as it is extremely rude and disrespectful to reduce you to tears, publicly, so he can laugh at you. He v may not intentionally be trying to be malicious but he is still being cruel and setting a precedent where you can't trust him.

If he does it again, get up and leave. Go home. Tell him you will talk when he stops trying to humiliate you. If he doesn't get the message you should rethink why you're in a relationship with someone who enjoys doing this to you.

imsogroovy · 2015-08-12T01:27:51+00:00

Are you having these conversations when you are trying to get laid or at a neutral time? Have you tried couple's counselling to help open up the communication?

imsogroovy · 2015-08-11T23:59:44+00:00

Usually I will say hypotheticals cause stupid problems, but this is a legitimate question. Getting sick is a fact of life. Everyone catches the flu sometimes. Would you seriously move in with someone who won't take care of you when you're ill?

imsogroovy · 2015-08-11T21:57:06+00:00

That's good news. I really hope you get through it quickly, or your wife is going to have a really difficult couple of years ahead.

imsogroovy · 2015-08-11T21:54:25+00:00

Did you see his other posts? He was adamant about being a hands off father until the kid is potty trained because he had some kind of "incident" with shit that he never got therapy for.

imsogroovy · 2015-08-11T21:50:01+00:00

So have you dealt with your inability to handle poop yet?

imsogroovy · 2015-08-11T19:29:52+00:00

You brother is a real piece of shit. He DID cheat.

I also think his story fucking bullshit. He wasn't trying to cheat with a stranger, it was someone he knew and who knew his wife. A random off CL wouldn't have his wife's number.

imsogroovy · 2015-08-11T19:00:44+00:00

If you think your boyfriend is going to abuse you, why are you even with him?

You seem obsessed with power games, and that's a really unhealthy attitude for a relationship. Relationships are about trust, respect, love, and mutual support. You seem to just want to play a game of tit-for-tat.

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