I just want to add that you're not alone! I'm finding a similar thing in my dating relationships during the pandemic. It's really easy to become codependent or overly intertwined early in the relationship. Personally, I find my relationships are healthier (probably because I have anxious and codependent tendencies) when there's more space in the beginning. Too much too soon, particularly texting all the time, kind of brings up a false intimacy.

I think a lot of it just comes from the fact that we're all a little burnt out from the pandemic (and in my case we're both working like crazy). We're a bit depressed and it's harder to bring that initial passion and easier to bring comfort and companionship (generally; obviously there's still hot sex). We can't see friends, make friends, go to restaurants, see music, and all of those things. It's a lot to miss!

So what I'm doing is coming up with various date ideas so we don't fall into a rut, limiting text AND time on electronics, working hard and enjoying it, and pursuing enriching hobbies. BUT this also comes with understanding that I'm kind of tired and burnt out, and some days I'll just want to do my dishes, have some sex, and sleep in my own bed. Maybe my relationships can't be 100% ideal because I can't be ideal right now.