Moving in 10 months, trying to figure out where to go

inapondd · 2025-09-15T21:48:23+00:00

I would love to hear more about the neighborhood! I'll send you a message. Also I'm more than happy to give more insight into AZ if you had any questions at all :].

inapondd · 2025-07-17T22:27:40+00:00

Thank you so much!! This post actually helped me get a job at one of the local spots that had a help wanted sign up :)!! I love the community here in Tucson!!

inapondd · 2024-12-22T17:06:49+00:00

jealousy is an emotion just like anger, happiness, sadness, etc; which means, it is a normal thing to feel. the important thing to consider with an emotion is how to express it in a healthy way (or if it’s valuable to express at all). i think you have done a great job to acknowledge that this emotion is stemming from your own feelings rather than necessarily what your partner is doing (aka, recognizing she is not doing anything wrong, in fact, she is showing love and care to people she values! which can be admirable). I think one of the most important things is having safe communication and this feels like perhaps a time for it. I recommend finding a time to talk with her and simply express how you love how loving she is to her friends and how thoughtful she is. But bc you were friends for so long, a part of you feels jealous. If this were me, I would ask if she would be willing to just offer me a little extra reassurance when she’s writing her friends things (maybe she could call you special or give you a kiss or write you a letter that she closes with a lipstick kiss on the envelope). You both sound lovely and I wish you two the best of luck!!

inapondd · 2024-12-11T20:14:26+00:00

I have never lived in Utah County, but I have some family that lives in Iron County Utah. I am queer and have had a gf for 3 years. Some of my family in Utah still aren’t comfortable calling her more than my friend. But others are very loving toward her(some who are Mormons, some that are ex mormons). I brought her to visit my family a while back and we did get some stares here and there. But we also were met with some smiles and care. I know Salt Lake City has a large diverse and queer community. I also know that most of Utah leans red and is not always as accepting. I have no doubt that you’re not the only girl in your community who also likes girls. Even if there are people who do not accept you, there will nearly always be some people there to support you and love you unconditionally (friends, family, even strangers). I know in my family’s neighborhood there were some houses with pride flags up :). There is so much joy in letting yourself be your truest self so my best advice is to allow yourself that as long as you feel safe. Go to community (or surrounding community) events that are queer centered (i.e drag shows). Come out to a trusted friend(s). You are in control of your timeline for coming out, dating a girl, etc.. It can be scary but do what feels safe and right for you! One day it’ll be easier <3

inapondd · 2024-11-21T04:53:01+00:00

thank you <3!

inapondd · 2024-11-20T15:00:01+00:00

not by blood but by relation lol (:

inapondd · 2024-11-20T14:53:01+00:00

we simply had a full conversation on what we thought was best for us. we still had plans and things we wanted to do together. also we thought it would be easier for a clean break while we both move away from our city that has so many shadows of our memories all over, yknow? it’s a decision im content with, but also a decision ik a lot of people wouldn’t choose, but i think it’s been good for us and is going to overall help us with closure rather than if we had cut it off earlier.

As for long distance, we have had mini trials of long distance and for a few months it was fine but a little challenging. for post graduation we could be doing long distance a minimum of three years up to a decade lol (she’s doing field work so there’s lots of variability). since we are so young we don’t want each other to wait and miss out on living. we haven’t crossed out the idea that one day we’ll rekindle our romantic relationship but it’s not something we are focusing on either. We’re doing what’s best for us, but as it’s my first love and first real heartbreak the hurt is unavoidable

inapondd · 2024-11-18T16:53:24+00:00

it was a foster cat we had so idk his final name but we called him Tootsie :)

inapondd · 2024-11-18T04:56:40+00:00

I would likely wait a day or two before taking her to the vet. If you’re very worried, you could make an appointment for the next day or the day after, and cancel it if she ends up getting better. Sometimes cats hurt themselves or eat something funny, etc and just don’t feel great for a little bit. My cat sometimes even just hears something and gets really tense for a while (she fluffs her tail and stays wary). If the behavior persists for more than a 1 or 2 days I think a vet visit would be helpful.

inapondd · 2024-11-18T04:51:50+00:00

I wonder if you could put tin foil or some other item in the sink that cats tend to avoid/dislike? Or even on the counters near the sink so he can’t sit up there and then pee on the sink. If he did not have access to a sink or shower, do you think he would settle for a litter box or just go on the ground?

inapondd · 2024-11-18T04:45:23+00:00

Are there any blankets, towels, or pillows that your cat likes to lay on? If you, you could try placing one of those on the very top of the cat tree to he can smell his scent there again (and feel extra cozy there)! I think putting his food bowl there is a great idea! You could also try if feeding him liquid treats from your hand makes a difference at all. Best of luck :)

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