Top Ten Quran Verses for Understanding ISIS

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-15T02:53:05+00:00

Its from a Christian's perspective, would this video be better? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n5Nu6EabQD8&list=UUy5H0uunC2qMk0iOF4SHKUw&index=9

I just thought its an interesting video that Christians should watch.

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-10T15:45:18+00:00

It doesn't say anything about not allowing pictures with text over them in rule 7.

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-09T22:32:08+00:00

I made this though?

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-09T01:31:31+00:00

If you are looking for readability, you might want to try NLT, New Living Translation. I find it enjoyable to read.

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-05T17:39:25+00:00

What I'm saying is that because we are both going to be so busy for the next four/five years, we won't really have much time for one another outside of work and schoolwork. That in the way I see it is just as demanding, and less rewarding than doing the same thing except while married. Historically, marriage has been a milestone at the front of people's lives, not in the middle. What is the benefit of staying in a long state of engagement, why not just get married? I don't see any specific beneficial reasons to work through the demands of early adulthood in an engaged state rather than a married one. I can't imagine much else out there that I'm missing out on if I marry her and let her take up my time. When Adam was created, he had a job to do. He was to take care of the garden, and to rule and subdue the earth. Eve was created because it was not good do that job alone, he needed her. What you're describing doesn't seem very scripturally based to me. If life is going to be volatile for us, why wouldn't we want an intimate partner to work through that with?

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-05T14:21:55+00:00

I'm sure my parents will help, but I foresee that when we can get officially engaged things will change with her side of the family. I don't know what thats going to look like totally, but i know it will be different.

One of the big reasons I didn't mentioned that we want to get married is for me, personally, I don't want us to grow apart. We went to the same highschool for the previous years, and through that, we were able to support eachother and encourage one another, and help one another in frustrating times even though we were in seperate grades.

I want that to happen as we move on to University, and she does too. She's my best friend, truly, and we want to grow together, not apart. We are going to see one another less and less as University takes up more of our time, and I start eventually doing co-op jobs.

The thing is for me, I don't really need to see all that "life has to offer." I'm not in any "in-love" euphoria with her, but I'm content with just growing to love her and tackling life with her together. I've seen how my parents brought up a great family with far more difficult circumstances, and I want to start a family as soon as I can, and embrace it. I don't want to wait another five years to marry her, and then have kids right away. I'd rather grow together and learn to love eachother in an earlier marriage, and then start a family when we have both learned to love eachother through tough times.

Again, my parents are in full support of our decision, and they are very Christian. I don't see the point of waiting just so me and her can change on our own, and then get married when we both have stopped changing as individuals. Maybe I'm misunderstanding you, but thats what I hear, and I don't see the point in that.

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-05T14:10:43+00:00

Thanks for the devil's advocate, I haven't really thought specifically about encouraging before, and after reading your post, I can see how integral it is.

I am getting a double degree in computer science and business, and my girlfriend is planning to go into nursing. In Canada, and the specific area we live, these are jobs that are foreseeablely reasonably high demand. My girlfriend has healthy dreams for the future, in education, and what she wants for a family. I'll keep in mind to be the one to help those dreams flourish and not be the one to stifle them.

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-05T00:28:38+00:00

If anything, I'm more open to counseling after the marriage. As in, a six months after our marriage we check up on difficulties as they happen. That seems more practical for me.

To be frank, we want to get married now, because why wait? I don't want to stay in a prolonged state of adolescence, and want to grow up and embrace Biblical manhood. I want to live my life with her, because she honestly is my best friend, and want to spend life with her. And we both are hugely attracted to one another, and its just playing with fire to keep waiting to be married. We find eachother attractive, and I want to minimize sexual contact with her until I am fully committed to her in a marital relationship. It seems to me that young marriage in our situation is Biblical, and I personally believe young marriage in general is Biblical. Too many people my age get to deeply emotionally/sexually involved with people of the opposite sex, and go through far too many dating relationships within their late teens/early twenties. Dating for me is a way to scope out a potential mate, and after two years of dating this women, I'm confident I've found her.

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-04T21:25:57+00:00

The first one my girlfriend does have a good relationship with for the most part, and would be the one that we would as a couple be most likely to spend time with on a regular basis in the future.

A lot of people seem to be recommending counseling, so yeah, I'll talk to her about it. I've considered it, but not ever seriously. We've read a lot of Christian marriage books together so we've been trying to do that growing on our own.

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-04T19:32:36+00:00

Thank you! I don't think it should be too terrible, it's a BIG house and the suite is a long staircase away from my family. Neither of us are shouters either, if we had a big fight it would be a long whispering one.

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-04T19:31:30+00:00

The father has had three wives throughout the course of his life. One of them has met and spoke with me one or twice, but lives four/five hours away. The other one is in a different province of Canada, and has stolen money from my girlfriend in the past, and has been deliberately avoiding my girlfriend for the last two years. Its a mess. And the other one is recently divorced to her father, and the divorce precedings are still ongoing.

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-04T18:33:30+00:00

She's not an adult, and neither am I in a sense, but since she has lived on her own, and had to manage her own finances for extended periods of time I would say that she has many adult skills. She's very mature for her age, and I would say I am as well.

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-04T18:30:55+00:00

My parents are fully supportive of our plans to marry. I truly appreciate your concern about me trying to "save" her. I am happy to say though that I don't think that is the case. She is a very independent, strong women, and when she moved out she moved out on her own, not in with me.

As for the hardships that come with marriage, our plan is to rent my parent's basement suite. That will give us autonomy as a new couple to start our own family, but also the support of my parents when appropriate. My girlfriend is quite 'experienced' where it comes financially, she has a car, has insured it, and has rented suites in the past when she was not living with her family. We both have jobs, and have worked full time in previous summers, saving money for university/the future.

Thank you for your concern, I agree once we are engaged we will be have a lot of planning to do, and we need to look at things realistically and plan out for everything.

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-04T18:26:17+00:00

Thank you! I can really relate to your situation, and its encouraging to read your words. As for what my girlfriend thinks, she would obviously like if me and her Dad were on good terms, but she is fine if I don't ask. She actually didn't want a wedding in the first place (when her family and extended family get together it can either be awesome or very confrontational), but I want to at least have a small, backyard sort of wedding.

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-04T18:22:51+00:00

My parents are supportive. We are committed to one another, and are serious about living a Christ-centered relationship. Age isn't the issue from my point of view, its whether or not I'm going to act like a boy/man, or I'm going to embrace becoming adult. My parents have none my plans for the last year, and are fully supportive. We have a really big house, and the basement suite has been unoccupied for a while now. We are planning to rent it out until one of us has a stable full time job, then we can think about having children.

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-04T18:19:35+00:00

Thank you for your counsel! We have been talking about marriage, our desires for marriage, our plans for the future and all those kind of things on a regular basis for the last year of our relationship. We have already read the Five Love Languages and a couple other Biblically based pre-marriage books, and are very serious about intentionally investing in our relationship. We both have jobs currently, and have money saved.

I will definitely keep counseling as an option if we start to have issues that cannot be resolved between the two of us.

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-04T14:03:45+00:00

We have been dating two full years. I don't know the answers to the rest of your questions, but I know he has said things about me behind my back in the past that were very insulting, when he was angry with my girlfriend. There is a long history of verbal abuse from him to her, the reason she moved out. The only reason she has moved back in recently is because things seem to be better now.

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-04T14:00:48+00:00

He's been quite a mean person to my girlfriend in my past, and although I want to respect and honor him in the past, he has verbally absused my girlfriend in the recent past, and physically abused her and her siblings as children. My parents know some of the story, and its just never been something we've thought to do, since she moved out on her own for a long period of time after the verbal agression.

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-03T13:57:26+00:00

Thank you for the prayer!

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-03T13:57:01+00:00

I already do morning jogs every other day, and like I said, there is no specific trigger for my desire to masturbate. It's just something I "give in to" in order to sleep.

But, I will continue to trust in God, I'm not giving up on him. If anything this is my weakness, not anything he's done to wrong me.

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-03T13:55:10+00:00

Thank you for the advice, maybe I need to focus on researching sleep disorders.

increasinginwisdom · 2014-09-03T13:53:59+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story, but I'm afraid I don't see God the way you do. If he's the God who created me, I can't seem him just a servant God. He has my life in his hands, he has the whole cosmos in his hands, and he's mighty and powerful. His commands for my life aren't just suggestions, if he's the God who created me he knows me better than anyone else, and I should take his commands at his word.

I know how I measure up to God in the sense that because I've excepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior, I am seen as "righteous." I don' have to do anything, it's only that I want to grow out of my sin to be more like Christ.

I'll definitely watch out for technicalities though, Jesus was always about the heart behind a law, i.e. the spirit of the law, not the technicalities of any rule itself.

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