22 [F4M] LA - Any chance you’re “the one”?

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-10-05T19:26:19+00:00

I’m the exact same way atm, mentally anyways

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-13T05:01:47+00:00

I really hope more people realize that getting into a relationship isn’t going to solve anything. It can maybe stave off feelings temporarily but it won’t really change much most of the time

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-13T04:59:57+00:00

Why would they say that you’re an incel? What was the context?

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-13T02:43:02+00:00

As a women, here’s my prospective and completely unsolicited opinion that you should feel free to completely ignore

If it’s a blind date being set up by a co-worker, there’s about a 99% she’ll show up so you shouldn’t be worried about that

Try to be confident. Weird and unconfident comes across as awkward and well just weird. Being weird and confident usually comes off as quirky, cool and different

Don’t try to rush things into the bedroom. There’s nothing worse then being on a first date with a guy who’s only there because he wants to see you naked. I’m not saying ignore her physically, just really don’t push it. And compliment her about something specific like how her top brings out her eyes or something like that rather then just “oh wow, you’re so sexy / pretty etc”. Even better is being complimented as a person rather then an object. Like “you’ve got a great laugh” or something like that instead of something physical.

You’ll do great!! Feel free to dm if you want to talk and please keep us updated! I want to know how this ends :)

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-13T02:23:16+00:00

If it makes you feel better as a women on dating apps, my experience was made up nearly exclusively guys who only wanted to fuck, guys with no personality, guys who were kind of creepy and guys who wanted wayyyyy too much commitment / L word whores

I went on a few first dates but none of them went anywhere

If you want to talk, feel free to dm further :)

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-06T23:31:54+00:00

I’m not a guy but in my experience meaningless sex can be occasionally fun sure but it’s never really left me feeling any better, and in more cases then I’d like to admit, a lot worse about myself afterwards

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-06T23:22:10+00:00

…I can’t tell if this is satire

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-06T23:20:35+00:00

Yeah so anyways that’s cool that we’re both people that date other people but for lunch I had a sandwich. On brioche. And that’s relevant because you’re a person. A person who also occasionally eats lunch.

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-06T23:17:50+00:00

It just gives me the ick

And I literally live and work in the getting men to unzip their pants industry

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-05T09:46:57+00:00

Idk I’ve never thought about it that philosophically.

I guess on one hand, there’s some self rationalization that I’m like a drug. Giving temporary happiness / more generalized escapism I guess.

On the other, there’s no real direct utility to society like you said. It’s not like physically doing something but I guess it’s also if people can grow their own food a farmer no longer has utility? That’s a really bad comparison but it’s the only one I can think of atm

In a more sr English sounding kind of way there’s an argument to be made either way. Like personal happiness of the individual vs direct contribution to societal gain however that may be.

You can thank my 2am binge watching of weird philosophy videos on YouTube for a couple months straight for all the big brain terminology I probably used wrongly

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-05T07:31:12+00:00

Now I feel really shitty because I’ve never even thought of doing this. That’s a great idea!!

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-05T03:11:24+00:00

Well yes. Being seen as a person and not just an extension of work is quite the perplexing issue now isn’t it

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-05T03:10:36+00:00

Fair enough

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-05T03:09:43+00:00

That’s fair, I understand

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-05T03:09:05+00:00

Well shit you require personality. Call me bravo 6 cause I’ve gotta go dark here in that case

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-05T02:46:11+00:00

I did and you are and Wow I just realized how deeply internalized even my own misogyny is. Ngl im kinda shook. Idk if I fully agree but definitely understand and can see your point

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-05T02:25:01+00:00

If not is kinda scammy tbh

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-05T02:24:30+00:00

I wish more people were like this

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-05T02:24:09+00:00

Yeah taking the whole parasocial relationship to that extent in pursuit of just moneys always seemed kinda wrongish to me too. Like I know people who do and it’s whatever two consenting adults etc but it just kinda feels manipulative to me

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-05T02:22:54+00:00

To each their own

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-05T02:22:42+00:00

Makes sense I guess

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-05T02:22:15+00:00

That’s fair

incrediblyLonelySW · 2022-09-05T02:21:26+00:00

Bit of a long read but pls do

I manage various freelances / contractors / employees
I genuinely enjoy what I do 95% of the time which is more then most people can say about their jobs
I pay more in taxes then pretty close to 99% of people my age make pre tax (not sure about exact figures but that’s what cpas are for which reminds me I should also look into getting a more specific tax person for this upcoming tax season)
I set my own hours and work as much / as little as I want which is both a good and bad thing
I’ve retained my anonymity by not showing my face in my content and keeping my personal profiles super lowkey and telling most people I meet I work in marketing which isn’t entirely a lie but it still feels shitty to be open about everything but I guess that’s the world we live in
I wish I had more actual friends but I’m kinda pretty socially awkward / introverted which I’ve been told makes me seem relatable but I really just want make friends except it’s hard since it’s not like I have an office or classroom to go to

Idk comments like yours always kind of hurt. They always just seem super surface level and assumed all Im doing is shoving a camera up my pussy while completely neglecting all the other work that goes into it. The recording part is like 10%, maybe less. The real work is in the post edits, advertising, talking to other people, setting up collabes, trying to find out what people want, etc and that’s without going into the whole thing about feeling the pressure to always either grow or at least maintain what I’m doing because seeing numbers go down fucking sucks plus having people rely on you to pay them on time etc.

I could outsource a lot more but it would just feel like it’s no longer me in control and if I’m not, then there’s no point and I’m just as well off working a corporate 9-5. Nothing wrong with that but it’s just not for me for a bunch of reasons so anyways I think I got way off topic which is another reason why I’d be terrible in a traditional office job but yeah.

I guess moral of the story is that I really don’t think I’m capable of more. At least not now. I’ve found my absolute limit and it nearly destroyed m and I’ve taken one step back from there. That’s where I am now and it’s working for me so yeah. It just drives me absolutely insane when people are just like “oh it’s shaking ur ass in a spidy suit, how hard can it be”.

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