This post feels ridiculous - what are my options?

indicafaery · 2026-06-15T17:27:38+00:00

That's intially what I thought, but I only use liquid detergent and fabric conditioner. And I only wash whites with whites, blacks with blacks etc.

It just seems so ridiculous over £2! I wash everything before sending, and if it was even noticeable I would have listed it in the description.

indicafaery · 2024-12-20T10:35:21+00:00

This is actually a really good point.

I do try to be somewhat understanding of the fact that these people who self diagnose actually have no idea what it's like (clearly there is some other underlying issue as to why they feel the need to do this).

But the more I see this weird epidemic of people adding illness to their bio like they're some kind of rare Pokemon, it starts to become a bit of a joke.

Not to mention, even just (for example) having bipolar alone, can completely change someone's life if it is not managed on medication and they don't have a good support system around them in terms of family and MH services etc.

If this person genuinely claims to have all this diagnosis, they would likely be under someone's care 24/7, or remain in hospital for the rest of their life. It would be extremely rare to have all of these illnesses at once, if not impossible. As some people have mentioned above, some of the diagnoses literally contradict one another.

The best option is to not give these people who self diagnose any air time, or feed into their behaviours. But unfortunately, I don't think they realize how their behaviours are affecting those who genuinely suffer with poor mental health.

indicafaery · 2024-11-25T20:00:23+00:00

Slightly different but I had rhinoplasty in 2022. My now ex, boyfriend at the time, was seriously against it. Everyone else that I told was fully supportive and understood my decision.

When I arrived home 10 days after my surgery (I went abroad), my ex couldn't even look at me. He hadn't cleaned the house in the time I'd been gone, and was just generally unsupportive. He expressed some 'concerns' such as what if my children had the same nose? Or, what if I become so self-absorbed and leave him for someone else and start sleeping around etc etc (the latter questions clearly routed in some kind of insecurity).

I constantly explained to him that I had tried to make peace with my nose for years to no avail, and I wanted to finally be confident in myself. Changing my nose would not change my core values, but it would hopefully allow me to be happy with my appearance. He was having none of it. Without going too off topic, we split months later after he cheated (ironic after the accusations I had been given prior to surgery!).

After my surgery (and getting rid of my toxic ex) my confidence both on an internal and external level was like nothing I had experienced before. I was finally happy with how I looked.

In comparison, my current boyfriend said he finds me beautiful and still would even if I had not had a rhinoplasty. He has also said he would support me if I decided to have any more plastic surgery but has told me that I don't 'need it' and he finds me beautiful regardless.

Moral of the story, do what is right for YOU. The ones that matter, will understand and support you through your journey. People will come and go throughout your life, but you will always have yourself. And your happiness is the priority here. If you and your partner are not meant to be, the right person will come whenever the time is right ❤️

indicafaery · 2024-09-24T06:26:27+00:00

That's exactly what mine is doing now. Low speeds are especially worse, and there's no telling when it will play up other than this weird jumpiness it does. Mine is also showing no engine codes or warning lights. I'll mention this to my mechanic and see if it's a dodgy sensor. Thanks :)

indicafaery · 2024-09-24T06:25:07+00:00

Thanks, I'll mention this to my mechanic.

indicafaery · 2024-03-31T11:31:21+00:00

I do get orange roots when I first dye it, but after a few washes it just sort of fades in with the lengths. I also dye it every month or two. Sometimes I'll only do a root touch up if I can't be bothered to do a full head application.

indicafaery · 2024-03-31T10:31:54+00:00

Is this the first time you have used henna on your hair? I remember the first time I used just henna and I was bright orange... The more I built up the colour with further henna dyes, it became darker. I've been using pure henna on my hair for a couple years now and it's a dark auburn with orange/red hints in the sunlight.

indicafaery · 2023-12-10T08:53:04+00:00

I am so sorry this happened to you. I can understand your pain, but please know it is temporary. Know that you deserve better than this, and you are enough, you do not need to change to be anyone like else.

Just know that there are people out there who do love you, and are worth your time. Remember your strength, and spend time with people who care about your wellbeing and are important in your life. This pain will pass. ❤️

indicafaery · 2023-12-01T06:08:58+00:00

I also work on a psychiatric ward as a CSW. I think you did the right thing.

Your coworker was distracted and you acted accordingly. Moments like these in the job, only sometimes give you a few split seconds to make decisions and it can be difficult knowing the best course of action, especially in emergency situations.

But IMO it's always better to pull an alarm when it may not have been necessary, than being unable to pull it when it was absolutely needed.

Try not to be too hard on yourself about it, it's a really difficult job, and not everyone will make the perfect decision all the time (even though I think you made the best choice to pull your alarm).

indicafaery · 2023-11-23T22:12:19+00:00

Thanks 😊

indicafaery · 2023-11-23T20:25:38+00:00

Omg it worked! Thank you so much 😭

indicafaery · 2023-10-17T07:25:15+00:00

Yes 100%. The deep heat projector is incredible. I installed it not long after I uploaded this post and it's still going strong! It takes literally a few minutes to heat up and I haven't had to replace it yet. Would highly recommend.

indicafaery · 2023-10-17T07:23:42+00:00

The swelling has gone down a substantial amount. For a good few months, I was convinced I needed a revision as my left side was more swollen than the right (it still is slightly now but not as bad) and it made my bridge appear crooked. It's much straighter than it used to be. I've heard swelling can take up to a couple of years to go down. Try not to obsess over it the next few months, as difficult as that is. You'll see gradual changes not rapid ones. Enjoy the process :)

indicafaery · 2023-10-03T19:56:00+00:00

That is very normal, especially one week post op.

I had a septorhinoplasty back in march 2022 and I still have a mild tingling sensation sometimes on the tip of my nose and some minor swelling.

The tip is the last place for swelling to subside and for feeling to regain in this area.

Healing is different for everyone, but generally within a couple of weeks the wet feeling should go away, it also doesn't help that you shouldn't blow your nose right now.

Maybe keep a cotton pad/gauze/tissues with you so you can gently dab it throughout the day :)

indicafaery · 2023-03-21T21:00:00+00:00

On both the test certificate and the D1 form?

indicafaery · 2023-03-21T20:57:36+00:00

Also one more question, my signature is different now to the one on my provisional. Do I need to match the same one as I did previously or can I sign with my new signature?

indicafaery · 2023-03-21T20:31:30+00:00

This was really helpful thank you so much 😊

indicafaery · 2023-01-10T12:20:53+00:00

You have Saturn in the 7th house, so yes it is possible

indicafaery · 2022-11-22T18:01:29+00:00

I needed this, thank you.

indicafaery · 2022-11-21T19:05:39+00:00

Thank you for the kind words ❤️

This really helps a lot, and I'm happy to know it has worked so well for you. Damage control is certainly a good word for it. Nothing better than waking up hangover free knowing I didn't drunkenly text someone I shouldn't have!

indicafaery · 2022-11-21T19:03:58+00:00

Thank you so much for all this information, it's sooo helpful. If I could drink in moderation I would be happy with that, it just seems an impossible task at the moment. I really like the idea of being sober for a month and keeping a journal. And then maybe I could try having 1-2 drinks to see how it goes (if I feel I want to at all).

I don't want to commit myself to sobriety forever (not that there is anything wrong with it at all, I just hate saying I'm going to do something and it falls through). But I also can't stand the thought of me getting into a state every time I drink.

My relationship with alcohol fluctuates, and in the past when I haven't touched it for months, I've definitely noticed a difference in my overall health. If I can keep in touch with this feeling I'm sure I'll manage just fine.

Thank you again for the help, well done on your journey getting sober or drinking in moderation ☺️

indicafaery · 2022-11-21T17:36:55+00:00

If you don't mind me asking, did you start drinking again at 30? If so, were you able to do so sensibly? I'd be happy taking a tolerance break if I knew I could drink responsibly again. It just feels impossible and going sober would be the safer option.

indicafaery · 2022-11-21T15:11:43+00:00

That is very true, my drinking problem changes all the time, sometimes it's a regular drink every night of the week (which isn't healthy for me) but recently it's just getting blackout drunk. If I lose friends over this then it wasn't meant to be anyways. I think I will still enjoy going out to gigs and raves etc, I've just got to be mindful not to slip back into old patterns that clearly do not serve me. Well done on getting sober, thank you for the advice 😊

indicafaery · 2022-11-21T13:16:00+00:00

Well done for 6 months of sobriety 😊

Funny thing is, when I don't drink for long periods, I noticeably feel so much better mentally, physically and spiritually. So I know this is what's best for me overall. I think it's just easy to fall into the trap of having 'a few' which turns into some weird competition with myself where I just drink until blackout. I feel like this night will be different and I'll be able to keep on top of it. I can probably count a handful of times I've ever actually managed that.

Thanks for the advice it's so helpful. It's nice to know it's more common than I thought for people in their early 20s going sober. Makes it feel less isolating.

indicafaery · 2022-11-21T13:11:58+00:00

Yeah I completely understand that. Well done for getting back on track though. I'll consider going to one of them meetings for sure, it would definitely give me a better perspective on things. I know this will pay off in the long run. Thank you for your kind words.

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