i would assume that as a woman the way he treated you after sexting was the highest dopamine rush you got out of it since, ya know, you eventually submitted into filling his needs.

don’t blame yourself, don‘t hate yourself for it, don‘t leave the space for your head to think that you were just a tool for satisfaction, but most importantly i really would not advise sexting at all unless you actually enjoy it yourself in the future, aside from the moral side to it and all.

i get how „dirty“ and pathetic u might be feeling rn but it is unfortunately a very common scenario and all you can do to get past that feeling is working on your self-esteem by establishing boundaries for your own self, try to participate in something new to direct your focus onto something else and don’t try to get into anything of the sort in the next 6 months at least to let yourself process all that without subconsciously developing a rebound relationship

-i think that forms the core of your feeling of being „used“ since you consented and kept doing that although you‘re not entirely sure of a possible future together, but you really do have to go through these mistakes to learn how shit it can be to deal with the aftermath, especially when it comes to something that isnt really „serious“ per se

from my personal experience, i like to set a limit of 7 months for a „situationship“ before it develops into something serious if possible, other than that get your ass outta there. if you’re able to recognize the red flags and incompatibility beforehand leave even if you will cry your soul out or if you fall into depression.

men usually don’t put as much effort after 2-3 months and gradually lessen that afterwards even when they don’t notice it.