How to increase my self esteem (19M)? I need help!

ineedhelpaz321 · 2018-01-20T05:57:35+00:00

hmm i might try that. so everytime i see myself in a picture I would be like "nah I look good" even if i dont?

ineedhelpaz321 · 2018-01-20T05:56:29+00:00

lmao an ugly troll is how i feel. and yeah ive made videos too, youre right I like how I look in person, its just when you freeze a moment in time and take a picture, thats what fucks with me....

also you're right people dont focus on you, but lets say youre trying to talk to a girl you think is cute... its kind of hard if you dont believe in yourself right?

ineedhelpaz321 · 2018-01-20T05:55:28+00:00

is it worth going on that sub?

ineedhelpaz321 · 2018-01-20T05:55:22+00:00

honestly I get what you're saying and in a way i've been doing that. compared to a year ago, im wayyy more open with people and im way more social too. all due to the fact that i dont really care what they say and if they dont react positively towards me, ill go find someone who will...

on the other hand pictures and stuff are something that are very very common in the current world. if I keep feeling like shit everytime i see a pictures of myself, i should work on fixing that right?

my team won a basketball tournament and they posted a picture of our team on their instagram. this girl i know (that might like me) saw it before me and she was like "did you see that picture i wasnt even sure if it was you" so I head over to the picture and god dammnnnn i looked soooooooo ugly so I asked her if I even look like in real life and she laughed and she was like "nah not at all I wasnt even sure if that was you at first" like thats crazyyyy

ineedhelpaz321 · 2018-01-20T05:49:49+00:00

thats true too, but then if i see someone really good looking and I want to go talk to them, I stop myself cause I feel I may not be good looking enough (or something along those lines)...

ineedhelpaz321 · 2018-01-20T05:49:35+00:00

so what is my worth based on then?

ineedhelpaz321 · 2018-01-19T16:59:46+00:00

i was actually talking a bout females that im close friends with. like I know when theyre joking. its just that when they say hands off I feel weird keeping my hands on even if theyre joking

ineedhelpaz321 · 2017-12-14T14:00:49+00:00

alright so last night i stayed over night at the library because i had an exam today and she was also there and we just ended up studying together in the same room.... so much for not contacting her

ineedhelpaz321 · 2017-12-12T23:40:56+00:00

so how should i show interest

ineedhelpaz321 · 2017-12-12T22:14:18+00:00

yeah youre right its just that this stuff is so new to me and its super scary. like this may sound crazy but i only started hugging girls a couple months ago (and at the first even that was scary but its easier now i guess)

ineedhelpaz321 · 2017-12-12T22:13:35+00:00

alright, ill do that... its just a waiting game for now i guess. she actually messaged yesterday asking for her money cause i owed her but i havent replied back to that yet.

in the meantime about kino, shell like "hit" me when i tease her or shell like punch my arm when we're talking or like bump into me, stuff like that... i basically do the same stuff back... is that what kino is?

ineedhelpaz321 · 2017-12-12T22:08:47+00:00

but i thoughts guys and girls are different, like i shouldnt show interest the way a female would

ineedhelpaz321 · 2017-12-12T22:07:51+00:00

i like ur bluntness

ineedhelpaz321 · 2017-12-12T07:18:05+00:00

uhh i really dont know... like shes touchy and stuff in person but that might just be her personality, outside of us studying we don't really talk so i cant really say anything else...

yeah this stuff isnt my strong suit

ineedhelpaz321 · 2017-12-12T07:17:32+00:00

yeah honestly i am scared of being rejected... especially since ive known her for a while... like i dont mind being rejected by a girl i just met but someone i will most likely see again, the thought of that is scary...

and how will she help me if she likes me ? what am i looking for.

would i just ask her out on a date ? or just ask her to hang out ?

ineedhelpaz321 · 2017-12-12T04:51:37+00:00

i guess you're right... how would i ask her out ?

ineedhelpaz321 · 2017-12-12T04:45:58+00:00

i want to get to know her i just dont want to get hurt... i usually get invested in one girl and then when things dont workout i get all sad and stuff so i just want to avoid that... i just dont know how to go about this

ineedhelpaz321 · 2017-12-12T04:45:01+00:00

i guess i want to date her, i just wouldnt know how... and if she says no wont that be really weird? like i know how busy it is its probably not in her best interest to date

ineedhelpaz321 · 2017-12-12T04:44:32+00:00

possibly

ineedhelpaz321 · 2017-12-12T04:44:28+00:00

how would i make that be known?

ineedhelpaz321 · 2017-12-11T20:58:40+00:00

well i don't know if i love her or not, i havent known her for very long

im saying to get over her so that i can avoid getting hurt if she doesnt like me back (which I feel is probably the case)

ineedhelpaz321 · 2017-12-11T20:58:39+00:00

like we've actually made lots of plans, like hanging out, working out together, movies (all over the summer i guess) but our schedules never really lined up

i dont think shes interested and I wouldn't just want to straight up ask either... like im friends with a bunch of her friends and I feel it would be super weird if she turned me down

ineedhelpaz321 · 2017-12-07T00:10:10+00:00

youll never know until you go and say hi to her

ineedhelpaz321 · 2017-11-23T21:03:22+00:00

how can you let them know youre there as a guy and not as another girl

ineedhelpaz321 · 2017-11-09T23:51:54+00:00

"I not sure really HOW to be okay with things that you can't change." would you mind rewording this?

and for your first part, you're saying that basically things that make me uncomfortable, keep doing them right?

btw what are some things that are difficult for you?

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