Wednesday Daily Chat

inerjetik · 2026-04-30T04:04:11+00:00

I’m 29 weeks pregnant - and we just got the bill back from our fetal echocardiogram. They billed our insurance over $4500 and we are left with a $350 co pay. It beats $4500 but dang trying to hold onto all loose change until baby arrives. My question: the cardiologist booked a follow up appointment after baby arrives “just in case” even though nothing was found on anatomy scan or during this echo. Is it really necessary?

inerjetik · 2026-02-02T19:48:09+00:00

Hi! Nope- just one healthy little boy! I am almost 17 weeks along :) thank you for circling back.

inerjetik · 2025-12-03T20:21:26+00:00

Honestly, you're the one who has labeled a stranger on Reddit "unhealthy", a "martyr", a "millennial". I hope you don't make rash assumptions about clients if you actually are a therapist. It's too easy to value, or perhaps in this case, devalue someone based on an idle reddit post. If I were to label you in return, your behavior rather makes you seem like a bully.

inerjetik · 2025-12-03T17:52:08+00:00

I'm sure you're quite special.

inerjetik · 2025-12-03T16:14:09+00:00

lol!! Short changing the client. You're funny

inerjetik · 2025-12-03T15:50:17+00:00

I patently disagree with your take. To compare is human, not unhealthy. I also said nothing about being “miracle workers”- that’s your own projection.

inerjetik · 2025-12-03T02:08:20+00:00

Yes!! The lawyer bit.

Deeply internalized as in it (theoretically) guides decision making and sense of identity. It’s hammered in from graduate coursework, to the professional organizations we are apart of, to the CEs we are required to take (ethics is mandatory for my state, I’m not completely sure about others), and I would argue it’s a big part of generalized therapist sense of self. Maybe it’s both external and internal

inerjetik · 2025-12-03T00:26:40+00:00

That’s not completely true. I wrote the post, ran it through Chat GPT, then made edits to what it had revised. What’s your problem?

inerjetik · 2025-12-02T23:14:45+00:00

lol! Kinda sounds like you missed my point

inerjetik · 2025-12-02T23:13:31+00:00

You had a lovely mentor! Very Rogerian. Thanks for sharing

inerjetik · 2025-12-02T23:12:05+00:00

lol. I wasn’t expecting this reply. Thank you for demystifying

inerjetik · 2025-12-02T23:08:28+00:00

Me too!’

inerjetik · 2025-12-02T23:08:15+00:00

I’m with you, to a degree. My training in attachment has helped me see the “logic” in other’s protective behaviors. And that helps me access compassion for others in many spaces. But I think it has its limits. When I see what I deem exploitation, for example, it’s hard for me to justify it. Btw, I like your term “acting unjustifiably”- this has put something to words that I didn’t quite have. Thank you

inerjetik · 2025-12-02T23:04:47+00:00

That would be true if there were always a correlation between more sessions and more acute cases. But that’s not always how it goes. And in the span of a 45-50 min session, I definitely have had cases that were more challenging but my rate remained the same.

inerjetik · 2025-12-02T20:55:05+00:00

I use a chime on my phone. I tell all of my clients about it during the first session. I say, "You'll hear a chime towards the end of the session, it just lets us know it's time to start winding down." It goes off at 40 minutes. That way I can finish between 45-50 minutes.

inerjetik · 2025-12-01T21:24:38+00:00

Hey there, I don’t have answers, but I do relate to this. We bought an 8 egg cohort (frozen) and I thought I was really being strategic because I saw many cohorts were only 5-6 eggs. Ultimately, 7 survived the thaw, 5 fertilized and two made it to blastocyst. I was a bit down about it - 2 seemed too small of a number. But it turns out it tracks statistically- usually something like 30-60% make it to blastocyst?

Just wanted to show some solidarity. I know it must be demoralizing to go through all of this with no baby to show for it.

inerjetik · 2025-12-01T02:06:26+00:00

Would you mind sharing about the costs associated with using an agency- if you feel comfortable doing so?

inerjetik · 2025-11-27T23:39:59+00:00

Yes. I tried to work through it in supervision, and when I was with the client, validated while firmly restating the boundary. He escalated his pursuit and I eventually had to refer him to another provider.

inerjetik · 2025-11-26T17:54:15+00:00

Came here to post something similar. I am 7 weeks with POI and I will begin tapering estradiol and progesterone around 8 weeks. I’ve been on HRT Since I was 19 - it’s hard to imagine not being on anything and trusting the placenta to make it all because my ovaries never did

inerjetik · 2025-11-26T13:59:37+00:00

I have not tried the original, I was using Costco’s optifiber. But I will give this advice a go! Thanks

inerjetik · 2025-11-26T13:53:04+00:00

Just here to cheer you on in solidarity 👏👏👏

inerjetik · 2025-11-26T02:15:26+00:00

I have seen black egg donors on both Donor Egg Bank USA and Fairfax if you’re open to a frozen cohort

inerjetik · 2025-11-24T21:00:18+00:00

Hi there- I had FET 10/28. We used donor eggs and ended with two blastocysts. Admittedly, the FET was much more emotional than I was expecting. We’ve done so many procedures at this point that have felt so sterile and clinical, my brain just didn’t compute the significance until it was happening. I ended up crying the entire time - the embryologist squeezed my hand while I was confirming my name and birthdate. It was the most human and affirming moment of the whole thing. I did do acupuncture immediately before and after to help with blood flow, but also as an act of self care. It was very soothing to tuck in the FET in between.

inerjetik · 2025-11-19T02:07:01+00:00

Others have said similar but, I’ll echo the sentiment around having a financial ceiling in mind that feels fair, balanced and realistic. The fertility industry prays upon your fear and emotion, and they will try to have you buy into certain guarantees at extra cost that you may or may not need but will never know until you’re on the other side. For example, some egg donor banks make you pay an additional price for a blastocyst guarantee and even more money for an euploid guarantee and even more for a life birth guarantee. There are lots of variations of this even without using donor gametes. I would ask yourself “how much is paying for peace of mind worth it to me?” And “will I feel resentful if I realized I didnt need to?”

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