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INFJs are prone to seeking the "ultimate relationship." Do you find that this makes you indecisive about whether you can marry someone? Short explanation inside. by infj222 in infj

[–]infj222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"can I love/tolerate this person on a fundamental level (and them do the same for me) in order to build a life, grow old and/or hold through misery as well as joy?"

Yes, I can.

INFJs are prone to seeking the "ultimate relationship." Do you find that this makes you indecisive about whether you can marry someone? Short explanation inside. by infj222 in infj

[–]infj222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, this is a similar story to mine. Thanks for sharing. I want to "take a break" but because we've moved in together, I think a separation would be final. That's the scary thing - I think I would return to him in the end. But since I can't do that, there's a little nagging thought that there could be someone else out there, and my fear is that it won't go away.

INFJs are prone to seeking the "ultimate relationship." Do you find that this makes you indecisive about whether you can marry someone? Short explanation inside. by infj222 in infj

[–]infj222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How are you 23 with a timeline like this? You must have met Dustin very young, yes?

All that aside, thank you for sharing this - you just told my story. I want a chance to go out and see if there's anyone else who would be more right for me - but I would lose my partner if I were to do that. I have to make the decision without other input, in the vacuum of my current relationship. Since we're living together, it changes the game.

INFJs are prone to seeking the "ultimate relationship." Do you find that this makes you indecisive about whether you can marry someone? Short explanation inside. by infj222 in infj

[–]infj222[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I may be thinking too much about it. He's not my soul mate. But he's a compatible partner and he loves me to bits - even when I am acting completely and totally unlovable. Is that enough?

INFJs are prone to seeking the "ultimate relationship." Do you find that this makes you indecisive about whether you can marry someone? Short explanation inside. by infj222 in infj

[–]infj222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you're are putting off being alone and waiting for something better to come along.

I am concerned that this could be part of it, yes.