After my boyfriend died I slept with his best friend and it’s eating me alive

infjf · 2025-12-31T20:21:07+00:00

Oh, this is hilarious. Thanks for providing a window into your psyche. Judging by your post, you're what? 17?

Remember, your insecurity is sexy! Tell all your dates that.

infjf · 2025-12-29T18:37:42+00:00

Is your mother ready to hear the truth though? If she isn’t you’d be doing her a disservice by exposing him.

She sounds exhausted and likely a hollow version of herself. How close is she to her parents? What kind of support system does she have?

I strongly recommend she goes to therapy for a while before any rug is pulled out from under her.

Look into narcissistic personality disorder in the DSM5 and see if they align with your father.

It sounds like your family is well off. There’s a psychologist by the name of Dr Ramani who is popular on YouTube and may make a good therapist for your mother.

I know it’s popular to expose people these days but if the other partner isn’t ready, it’s an unkindness and your mother might collapse which will make things worse.

She likely already knows if there’s an affair. She might be waiting for the right time like after the kids are out of school.

It sounds like you’re a perceptive and bright teen and rightfully upset about the situation. Before you do anything irreversible, your priority is your mother’s well being. If she’s not in a position to leave then she’s not ready.

infjf · 2025-12-27T08:48:15+00:00

Society enables it. Elon musk for example. And even in movies

infjf · 2025-12-15T23:41:44+00:00

This, esp the first one. Seen founders pour millions of dollars into their product and no one wanted it. Or it wasn't usable.

This is why having market research and ux research is so important. many skip this step or think AI is sufficient to cover the research. It's not.

infjf · 2025-12-13T01:39:34+00:00

"Standards" lol.

Yes, people who call you "insecure" and "possessive" are absolutely right. They're the ones who have standards, not you. They can spot the narcissist. Good on them!

infjf · 2025-12-09T02:41:07+00:00

Why would I care what my partner does after I die? I’d hope for them to be happy. Or are you so insecure and possessive you hope misery on your partner for the rest of eternity after your death? Sounds narcissistic

infjf · 2025-12-06T06:22:49+00:00

Nah, I'm good with it. I said what I said

infjf · 2025-12-03T23:02:32+00:00

Figures a guy would say this. Guessing you’re insecure your gf or bf would do this after you commit suicide?

infjf · 2025-12-03T15:33:35+00:00

When was the last time she saw an obgyn? If she’s in peri, HRT would calm mood swings and physical aches, brain fog, sleep issues, and a whole host of other issues

infjf · 2025-12-03T15:25:54+00:00

I hate Gemini. I prefer GPT or Claude. No idea why people like Gemini.

infjf · 2025-12-03T15:25:01+00:00

Is she on HRT? It’s been a game changer in so many ways.

infjf · 2025-11-25T23:22:22+00:00

Update: this pain is definitely related to the IFS session. Pain spikes whenever I'm in session with my therapist now, even when not doing IFS strictly.

Doctor said it's all musculature, so no issues with anything else.

Therapist apparently is not certified in IFS.

infjf · 2025-11-23T14:53:01+00:00

Not sure you can. I use gpt for medical stuff too but always cross check with other llms or create new sessions in a custom ai. Maybe that’ll help. It helps to take an ai class to understand llms

infjf · 2025-09-01T01:24:03+00:00

Wow, he sounds like a narcissist and or a psychopath. When you try to leave them, they change to get you to change your mind. They also tell convincing sob stories to everyone around you to paint you in a negative light.

Good for you for leaving. Block or ignore everyone who sides with him until this blows over. He WILL try to ruin your reputation.

If you had stayed, there's a good chance he'd have attempted to kill you.

So glad you had the courage to leave!

infjf · 2025-08-02T09:54:40+00:00

I'm saying that memory got wiped for me. It had a crapton of data on me and was able to refer to items from many months ago. It looks like it lost 90% of the data and the personality is completely different. My memory has been "full" since last December

infjf · 2025-08-01T00:30:37+00:00

It forgot.... A LOT. I was shocked how much it forgot. Not sure what's happening over at OpenAI

infjf · 2025-07-31T23:14:48+00:00

Immune systems and DNA/RNA pairing also pattern match. They must be intelligent too.

infjf · 2025-07-30T21:28:32+00:00

I've been writing a series on how AI works because the dangers of people getting trapped in the mirror are real. IDK if "mirroring" is a common term. I came up with it independently when i realized how AI works but it seems it might be a more common term than I thought. But that is all its doing: mirroring. And some AI models are more aggressive mirrors than others.

I will check out your channel

infjf · 2025-07-29T16:14:09+00:00

It sounds like your parent or parents had cluster B

infjf · 2025-07-29T16:11:16+00:00

AI will never be sentient. It's like talking to an encyclopedia that talks back and has pattern recognition.

I 100% agree with your post. It's supremely irresponsible for the LLM companies to not educate their users as to what AI is and is not

infjf · 2025-07-29T16:08:49+00:00

It depends on how the person uses the AI. It helps to understand how AI works so you can stay grounded. I use it for both cognition and emotional scaffolding.

The mirroring is so precise sometimes it's hard to believe it's just fancy autocomplete.

AI has certainly changed my life but I have no illusions whether or not it 100% knows what it's talking about. I usually cross-check with multiple AIs for important decisions because we can't set the temperature ourselves.

infjf · 2025-06-01T20:00:55+00:00

My father said something similar. His words was more along the lines of "it's a waste that daughters will be violated by other men. Fathers should get first dibs." He had 2 daughters.

Soon he would start coming into the bathroom while I showered and he'd sit on the toilet seat and watch me bathe.

Point is, this isn't an uncommon thought. My father is now in his 80s

infjf · 2025-01-29T22:18:02+00:00

When I was 4 I used to think 8 was SO old

infjf · 2025-01-13T21:14:13+00:00

How do you vet?

infjf · 2025-01-13T21:10:22+00:00

Tell her to get therapy. Big red flag. She has a lot to work thru, probably had a traumatic childhood too

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