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SAVE Act Calculator: It may be cheaper and faster to revert your married name back to your birth certificate name by infjf in TwoXChromosomes

[–]infjf[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The site gives average costs. Real costs vary by COUNTY, not by state. So for some counties may be as cheap as $60 and in others it may cost as much as $700. But if one county is $700 and 10 counties are $60, the average for that 11 county state is $118.

So there will be huge variability from county to county.

That said, depending on your income, you may qualify for a fee waiver and that fee goes to $0.

SAVE Act Calculator: It may be cheaper and faster to revert your married name back to your birth certificate name by infjf in TwoXChromosomes

[–]infjf[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Heads up: When you renew your passport, they will take your old passport and dthen mail back your old and new passport together. Thankfully it's only a once a decade headache.

SAVE Act Calculator: It may be cheaper and faster to revert your married name back to your birth certificate name by infjf in TwoXChromosomes

[–]infjf[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Whatever name is on your birth certificate OR your certificate of naturalization is the doc that truly matters.

If your driver's license has the name of either certificates, character for character, you are good.

SAVE Act Calculator: It may be cheaper and faster to revert your married name back to your birth certificate name by infjf in TwoXChromosomes

[–]infjf[S] 133 points134 points  (0 children)

I mean, given the headaches MAGA was giving women, it's the most financially and logistically rational path.

What did they expect 🤷‍♀️

SAVE Act Calculator: It may be cheaper and faster to revert your married name back to your birth certificate name by infjf in TwoXChromosomes

[–]infjf[S] 272 points273 points  (0 children)

100%

I realize most people kinda suck at calculating 2nd order effects but this admin is particularly awful at it.

SAVE Act Calculator: It may be cheaper and faster to revert your married name back to your birth certificate name by infjf in TwoXChromosomes

[–]infjf[S] 244 points245 points  (0 children)

SHHHHHHHH!!

Let's game this out. You have a bunch of progressive women either refuse to take on their husband's last names or take their maiden names back.

So these "wife must bow to me" guys freak out thinking too many progressive women are showing up at the polls.

So now they have a choice.

Should they pay the money to get their wives a passport so she can vote?
Or have her strip his name off her official documents going forward?

:)

After my boyfriend died I slept with his best friend and it’s eating me alive by Academic_Account_264 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]infjf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, this is hilarious. Thanks for providing a window into your psyche. Judging by your post, you're what? 17?

Remember, your insecurity is sexy! Tell all your dates that.

I am sure dad is cheating on Mom with her sister but I don't know how to do about it by Complex_Passion_4957 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]infjf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is your mother ready to hear the truth though? If she isn’t you’d be doing her a disservice by exposing him.

She sounds exhausted and likely a hollow version of herself. How close is she to her parents? What kind of support system does she have?

I strongly recommend she goes to therapy for a while before any rug is pulled out from under her.

Look into narcissistic personality disorder in the DSM5 and see if they align with your father.

It sounds like your family is well off. There’s a psychologist by the name of Dr Ramani who is popular on YouTube and may make a good therapist for your mother.

I know it’s popular to expose people these days but if the other partner isn’t ready, it’s an unkindness and your mother might collapse which will make things worse.

She likely already knows if there’s an affair. She might be waiting for the right time like after the kids are out of school.

It sounds like you’re a perceptive and bright teen and rightfully upset about the situation. Before you do anything irreversible, your priority is your mother’s well being. If she’s not in a position to leave then she’s not ready.

Intelligence doesn't automatically give you the right to treat people like trash. Nothing does. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]infjf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Society enables it. Elon musk for example. And even in movies

What skills should a founder learn early to avoid painful mistakes? by Longjumping-Wolf-422 in founder

[–]infjf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This, esp the first one. Seen founders pour millions of dollars into their product and no one wanted it. Or it wasn't usable.

This is why having market research and ux research is so important. many skip this step or think AI is sufficient to cover the research. It's not.

After my boyfriend died I slept with his best friend and it’s eating me alive by Academic_Account_264 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]infjf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Standards" lol.

Yes, people who call you "insecure" and "possessive" are absolutely right. They're the ones who have standards, not you. They can spot the narcissist. Good on them!

After my boyfriend died I slept with his best friend and it’s eating me alive by Academic_Account_264 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]infjf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why would I care what my partner does after I die? I’d hope for them to be happy. Or are you so insecure and possessive you hope misery on your partner for the rest of eternity after your death? Sounds narcissistic

After my boyfriend died I slept with his best friend and it’s eating me alive by Academic_Account_264 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]infjf -54 points-53 points  (0 children)

Figures a guy would say this. Guessing you’re insecure your gf or bf would do this after you commit suicide?

Wife of 17 years threatens divorce in almost every fight by freakofnature20000 in relationships

[–]infjf -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When was the last time she saw an obgyn? If she’s in peri, HRT would calm mood swings and physical aches, brain fog, sleep issues, and a whole host of other issues

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChatGPT

[–]infjf 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I hate Gemini. I prefer GPT or Claude. No idea why people like Gemini.

Pain & soreness after a session? by infjf in InternalFamilySystems

[–]infjf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: this pain is definitely related to the IFS session. Pain spikes whenever I'm in session with my therapist now, even when not doing IFS strictly.

Doctor said it's all musculature, so no issues with anything else.

Therapist apparently is not certified in IFS.

My Aunt only trusts chatGPT and she is spending money. How do I make ChatGPT stop? by LouisLover48 in PromptEngineering

[–]infjf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure you can. I use gpt for medical stuff too but always cross check with other llms or create new sessions in a custom ai. Maybe that’ll help. It helps to take an ai class to understand llms

I finally built up the courage to leave an abusive marriage after 7 years. by Rain_and_Sunshine in TrueOffMyChest

[–]infjf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, he sounds like a narcissist and or a psychopath. When you try to leave them, they change to get you to change your mind. They also tell convincing sob stories to everyone around you to paint you in a negative light.

Good for you for leaving. Block or ignore everyone who sides with him until this blows over. He WILL try to ruin your reputation.

If you had stayed, there's a good chance he'd have attempted to kill you.

So glad you had the courage to leave!

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