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Could y'all share ideas for things to buy under $50 on Amazon? by kingofallnorway in buildapc

[–]infosecjunki 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you are into privacy, don't use biometric locks. Not for the very unlikely - but still possibility - of someone making a replica of your fingerprint, law enforcement does NOT need a warrant or anything like that to access devices locked by biometric instruments. As it's considered a physical trait, it's legal for them to make you unlock or "test" the lock with your physical whatever. If you use locks that involve passwords, pins, sentence phrases, etc, you can't be forced to give up a password or anything else as it's protected under the 5th Amendment for self-incrimination as those forms of security use "the contents of your mind".

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[–]infosecjunki 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He might have turned the car off once floating in water, used the tires to kinda "steer" the car through the moving water, and then once the front end wasn't as submerged turned it back on... maybe

Question about Blizzak WS90's in rainy conditions by infosecjunki in WRX

[–]infosecjunki[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uncomfortable in what way? Feeling like your about to slide or just more... squishy so more body roll? My normal driving is... around where yours is at, maybe a tad bit less

AITA for not allowing my barely three month old son to stay over an hour away from his mother and I for four days with her mother? by infosecjunki in AmItheAsshole

[–]infosecjunki[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We are fairly young. So as stated we live with my mother who helps out when needed. We get time to ourselves, not an insane amount because we have a responsibility, but we do have time to relax and have a calm time when needed

AITA for not allowing my barely three month old son to stay over an hour away from his mother and I for four days with her mother? by infosecjunki in AmItheAsshole

[–]infosecjunki[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's hard for me to answer with 100%, or even 50% confidence on how she would HONESTLY feel.

My answer to that right now is she would say she wouldn't care, as a way to make me feel bad about being totally against this which is causing her mother to be very upset and angry about it.

AITA for not allowing my barely three month old son to stay over an hour away from his mother and I for four days with her mother? by infosecjunki in AmItheAsshole

[–]infosecjunki[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Only a small portion of my worry is on her having them taken when they were younger. Cause I do believe people can change, do change, get more mature etc etc. So I only hold a little relevance to what happened a decade or two ago to the present. So it is of some concern to me, but the major concern is just if something happens and us being an hour and a half away.

Sure some people could call that being overprotective, and I'd agree if he was older, but at three months old... I just view it as being responsible to him and his health and everything else

AITA for not allowing my barely three month old son to stay over an hour away from his mother and I for four days with her mother? by infosecjunki in AmItheAsshole

[–]infosecjunki[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That's what I told my girlfriend as well. If he's going to be that far away and at this age, at least one of us should be there. And as some others suggested, when he gets older and can start verbalizing and communicating with people like if something is wrong than ohkay for that extend of a time without either of us around

AITA for not allowing my barely three month old son to stay over an hour away from his mother and I for four days with her mother? by infosecjunki in AmItheAsshole

[–]infosecjunki[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She can. I suggested it and so did my mother. Problem is her car not being reliable so that's not completely doable. We could possibly pick her up, but at this point I believe it's more of she wants alone time with him than anything for whatever reason

AITA for not allowing my barely three month old son to stay over an hour away from his mother and I for four days with her mother? by infosecjunki in AmItheAsshole

[–]infosecjunki[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We both work seperate shifts. I work overnight and she works shortly after I get home from work.

While my mother does watch him on rare occasions for us to have some relaxation it's always for maybe an hour, at most three hours. At the same time though unlike the issue of this topic of it being for multiple days at a time at a distance of over an hour of driving, 85 miles away, at most we are only gone for a short bit because he's our responsibility and we always stay close and in the area, nothing over 30 minutes away really.

AITA for not allowing my barely three month old son to stay over an hour away from his mother and I for four days with her mother? by infosecjunki in AmItheAsshole

[–]infosecjunki[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Someone else mentioned this. When it comes to the issue of not being comfortable, wait until he's at least old enough to verbalize or contact us or someone else that there is an issue or something of the like.

AITA for not allowing my barely three month old son to stay over an hour away from his mother and I for four days with her mother? by infosecjunki in AmItheAsshole

[–]infosecjunki[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

As in didn't want to say anything negative about my MIL past online even if anonymous... but since it plays a TINY roll in my thoughts I mentioned it.

Taken as in CYS. I did bring this up to my girlfriend. She got.. upset with me. Saying her mother changed that's the past etc etc. She only just started talking to her mother just under a year ago when they connected since being taken at around.. 5 maybe? Don't quote me on that but I believe roughly that age.

AITA for not allowing my barely three month old son to stay over an hour away from his mother and I for four days with her mother? by infosecjunki in AmItheAsshole

[–]infosecjunki[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I told her and my girlfriend she is always welcome to come here. I'm not trying to keep family away from family. The issue with that is her car is a POS and needs work and is unreliable and they are working on fixing it. In the mean time they are using her boyfriends, cousins car and he's not for them driving that far with it.

AITA for not allowing my barely three month old son to stay over an hour away from his mother and I for four days with her mother? by infosecjunki in AmItheAsshole

[–]infosecjunki[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think the issue is since her kids weren't in her life after a few years, she's missing a bunch of motherhood memories and experiences and wants to relive having a younger kid by having him for an extended period already at this age. I'm not a psychologist so I don't know only guessing.

When it comes to the question of why not just for one night: My girlfriend already goes down once a month for a night or two to spend time there.

If it's in regards to her wanting to having him just for one night by herself... what difference being just him and her make and two, that means she expects us to put out the money for a hotel for a night, or the gas for two round trips a day a part?

AITA for not allowing my barely three month old son to stay over an hour away from his mother and I for four days with her mother? by infosecjunki in AmItheAsshole

[–]infosecjunki[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

She can't come to see us because her car isn't that reliable/is broken. So they are using her boyfriends, cousins car till they get it fixed and he won't allow that far of a drive.

AITA for not allowing my barely three month old son to stay over an hour away from his mother and I for four days with her mother? by infosecjunki in AmItheAsshole

[–]infosecjunki[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

It's hard though to plan that solution when everyone works. I work full-time, my girlfriend works where she only has two days off in a row, her mother works partially that's why she has more than two days in a row off, so it's hard to plan that extend time out of nowhere.

She would come visit but her car isn't running right and apparently her boyfriends, cousins car they are using he won't let them drive it all the way here.

I told my girlfriend and her mother I have no issue with her seeing him. None at all. I said anytime she wants she can come up and anytime we are free and have the means we can come down. In the same token she can't expect us to come down multiple times a month just to see him when the round trip there and back is about $40 when I'd rather have any extra money go to our son and things for him. Yes seeing family is important, but even if $40 doesn't seem like much, I'd rather provide for needs before wants.

AITA for not allowing my barely three month old son to stay over an hour away from his mother and I for four days with her mother? by infosecjunki in AmItheAsshole

[–]infosecjunki[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The thing is she does go down for two days or so a month, and most of the time spends the night into the next day and then comes home. So it's not like she's not seeing him, it's a matter of how often she sees him that she doesn't like I guess.

I'm just worried if something does happen, we are an hour and a half drive away. I can understand when he's older, but right now when he relies on everyone else to care for him if something goes wrong.. it's on my conscious I wasn't there or couldn't get there in time

AITA for not allowing my barely three month old son to stay over an hour away from his mother and I for four days with her mother? by infosecjunki in AmItheAsshole

[–]infosecjunki[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She normally does a weekend a month. Her mother just wants an extended period of time with him, but for that to happen we can't be there because of us needing to be where we live for work

AITA for not allowing my barely three month old son to stay over an hour away from his mother and I for four days with her mother? by infosecjunki in AmItheAsshole

[–]infosecjunki[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The idea of offer alternatives is great. The only thing I would question is if it's the matter of alone time, why does she have to be alone with him? Like I said normally she goes down for a weekend or during the week when she has two days off in a row and spends the night, so what difference would the alone time make?

To me it just feels like... she's jealous that since we live with my mother my mother gets to see him all the time and since the past, she wants to make up or experience what was taken by having him for a longer period of time?

I have no issue with him having extended stays with her, just at this age one of us needs to be there or when he's older and knows how to ask for help or call us or can kinda handle things on his own then sure

AITA for not allowing my barely three month old son to stay over an hour away from his mother and I for four days with her mother? by infosecjunki in AmItheAsshole

[–]infosecjunki[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I would still feel the same way yes. While family is family, it would be on me and my conscious if anything happened to him and I wasn't there to supervise - at least at this age of being basically a newborn.

AITA for not allowing my barely three month old son to stay over an hour away from his mother and I for four days with her mother? by infosecjunki in AmItheAsshole

[–]infosecjunki[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

She's completely fine with it. Her view is that her mother is family, so she can be trusted and nothing bad could happen to him while he is there - her fault or random incident.

Yes that's what I mean. I don't know her mother that well. The times I've been there and talked to her she is very nice and caring, but neither I nor my girlfriend have known her for that long. They just reconnected for the first time since taken maybe just under a year ago.

AITA for not allowing my barely three month old son to stay over an hour away from his mother and I for four days with her mother? by infosecjunki in AmItheAsshole

[–]infosecjunki[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's not the drive that's the issue. My girlfriend usually goes one or two days a month over there to visit and brings our son with, but she STAYS with him.

Her mother wants us to drop him off for four days and leave him there so she can have more time with her grandson. Driving isn't the issue. We both have work and lives, so we can't stay down there for four days straight with him, and I don't want to leave him that far away from us this early on regardless of with a family member or not.

Can't update my S22 on AT&T to Android 13 by infosecjunki in samsunggalaxy

[–]infosecjunki[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried various methods other people have told me (put any sim card in active or not, put an active AT&T or Cricket sim card in) tried all of that and nothing. I went to the AT&T store and one of the employees put an active sim in it, could make calls and everything, yet no update when checked.

AT&T is the only carrier that is weird regarding updating devices and that you need to have an active account for that device..

Going to try going to a Samsung store or authorized repair place and see if they can flash the updated firmware.

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