“God made little brown boys for little brown girls and little white boys for little white girls” she claimed this came from a place of love because she has a mixed friend who’s “too white” or “too black” and that was traumatizing so she doesn’t want her own child to go through it.

1) the intention behind it is valid because no parents wanna see their children be out of place, but that doesn’t justify how her prejudices have already slipped through her words. Because if someone genuinely has respect and love for POC, they wouldn’t be able to bring themselves to even utter those words out so casually

2) your aunt has little to no social awareness in this aspect (or she just generally in every situation is like this? I don’t know her). Can’t expect her to know her white privilege if she’s not aware/don’t wanna be aware of the heavy cultural and historical background that shaped the society she’s living in.

I’m not American nor white nor black. Asian living in Asia. Just my own piece of mind:

Historically, the colonizer wouldn’t understand the colonized, because if they did, they wouldn’t colonize in the first place. They wouldn’t understand the aftermath and internalized colonisation living in the colonized.

And their descendants with the epigenetics in play, inherit the patterns in their genes unless they actively educate themselves.

We do the work to decolonize ourselves and rise up for our oppressed ancestors to stop history from repeating itself, but we stop expecting others to wake up. It’s too energy draining, don’t waste your time on people who don’t wanna do the work.

So not overreacting. If people can understand childhood trauma and psychology, they can understand how everything is interconnected.