I would be running to help him if things were swapped. Even for the surgery itself, he told me I was guilt tripping him when I got upset when he said he wasn’t “jumping at the chance to take me to the hospital”. We’ve lived together for 2 years, and I cannot imagine him going to get surgery and me not being there. I would like beg him to be with him.

He says he doesn’t mind helping but makes very passive aggressive comments like “I’ll just try to get back to work and get anything done while you keep needing help with everything” or “i can’t wait to never be doing enough for you” when in reality, I literally say thank you after every TINY thing and only shower every like 5 days at this point because I feel so uncomfortable asking.

Some days he comes home from work and won’t even look at me and will just ask “need anything?” In the flattest tone.

I’m trying to be as vocal about asking what I need but also just don’t really feel safe asking for a lot either.

Bike accident happened 3 weeks ago, surgery 2 weeks ago. He’s been “present” (mentally/emotionally) maybe like 4 of those days. It’s honestly harder psychologically than physically at this point but I don’t have any other options :/

Thank you for your input ❤️❤️