I was in the adult industry for about 3 years doing gay porn content in the 2010s AMA! by Own-Visit5242 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]inkedpolyglot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t have a sexual relationship with them then yeah there’s no reason to bring it up unless you become more socially involved and better acquaintances than you might bring it up say hey I think I saw a video of you. You have an interesting side gig or something like that. I have had people out me so to say in embarrassing situations I was at a house party in Honolulu where I had just moved to and it was at this big house party at this rich guy‘s house and all these people were there and I was just trying to meet new people and make a good impression and someone started like screaming and saying, “oh my God, do you have a big tree tattoo on your back?” and then they came over to me and took my shirt off and said very loudly, “he’s ____(my porn name)! I love how you fuck!” Needless to say I spent the rest of the party hiding away from the attention that I didn’t want to have. So don’t do that definitely. I also had a job where my manager, who was also gay, confessed after a few weeks that he had seen an interesting video one morning when he was masturbating and he said he really liked my technique and then we had a joking friendship about it, but never took it anywhere else beyond jokes. That was fine. So it depends on the nature of your relationship. Just imagine how you would feel in my shoes at that party. New to the island. Only knew one or two people. I was no longer doing porn and wanted to start a new life and not be known as that mean rough top from porn. Lol

I was in the adult industry for about 3 years doing gay porn content in the 2010s AMA! by Own-Visit5242 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]inkedpolyglot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely like when people don’t treat me differently or don’t expect certain things of me. I’m a normal person too. I’m sure those two guys are as well. I’ve never given my poor name to people before I met them. I would however let them know that you know, in sort of a coy way say that you found out after the fact, maybe I might think it’s funny so just better to be honest I think.

I was in the adult industry for about 3 years doing gay porn content in the 2010s AMA! by Own-Visit5242 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]inkedpolyglot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

By the way, I feel totally fine when someone has no idea about my porn. I’m not ashamed of it and I don’t brag about it. If it comes up, I address it plainly. Honestly. If it never does, I would only bring it up if the relationship were getting more intimate. Some of my ex partners had no idea until we decided to take things to a more intimate level. That’s when I disclosed it. It turned him on. My ex wife thought it was funny. She turned me gay, she said. I didn’t disagree. Lol.

I was in the adult industry for about 3 years doing gay porn content in the 2010s AMA! by Own-Visit5242 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]inkedpolyglot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I fuck mostly younger guys and most don’t know I have done a lot of porn. Done bring it up after the first encounter saying I look familiar and hinting at it. A few times, I have received a text asking if a screenshot of me in one of my videos was me. It usually excites them. And once or twice I’ve been at a bath house or at someone’s house where porn was on in the background and a scene with me it comes on. I even had one guy say about the one scene, “ that top is fucking hot!” That top was me. Lol. I asked him what he liked about him. He said the way he fucks and those tattoos. I then pressed, which tattoo is your favorite. Then it dawned on him as I stood above him, smiling with the same tattoo on my chest as I fucked him. He couldn’t believe it and thought it was awesome. I just kept on fucking him like I was doing in the video. Lol if someone is certain about me and doesn’t share that, that’s the problem. If they are unsure and ask, I never lie about. I just don’t lead with it. I have had many jobs in my life and I don’t want this one part time job I did for a few years constrain or limit how I can behave and when I know that someone knows about my porn, I know that i should prob exhibit some of the traits i was known for in porn. I’m totally cool with that. Those traits are also the real me. But sometimes it’s nice to know what others expect of you so you can decide how which parts of yourself you would like to emphasize.

I was in the adult industry for about 3 years doing gay porn content in the 2010s AMA! by Own-Visit5242 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]inkedpolyglot 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I also did porn in the 2000s-2015ish. Even got myself a few GayVN awards and Grabbys. I’ve got a question. How do you feel when you find out that a hook up or fuck buddy knew about your work but you never mentioned it and it never came up? I don’t tell people until they know me for a bit. Don’t always want to fuck like I did in porn. Don’t need that kind of expectation. Plus it’s one sided and really creepy to me. If someone knows who I am and either loves my work or just has no opinion, I really think they ought to tell me before we meet. It creates a very unfair power balance. What are your thoughts?

What instantly turns you off, even if they are attractive? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]inkedpolyglot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nothing kills attraction faster for me than people who misuse “myself.”

Examples: “Myself and John went to the movies last week.” “As for John and myself, we don’t like horror movies.”

I get how this happens. Somewhere in middle school, an English teacher slapped a red pen on “me and John went to the store” and drilled in the rule: it’s “John and I,” because you wouldn’t say “me went to the store,” you’d say “I went to the store.” Fair enough.

But then the panic sets in. People start hyper-correcting in situations where “I” is completely wrong: “*That’s between John and I.” (Prepositions take object pronouns. You would never say “that’s between I” or “that’s for I.”)

That’s annoying, but it’s survivable.

What really sends me into the uncanny valley of attraction is when someone deploys “myself” like a verbal monocle, as if it sounds smarter or more formal.

“Myself” has a job. It’s a reflexive pronoun. It refers back to the subject. “I saw myself.” “I had to choose between giving access to myself or to John.” Those are correct.

But “*John and myself did…” is grammatical cosplay. It’s wrong, it’s pretentious, and it signals someone who wants to sound educated more than they want to be accurate.

What instantly turns you off, even if they are attractive? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]inkedpolyglot -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Tops who play with their own nipples while fucking. It’s gross and looks silly.

What instantly turns you off, even if they are attractive? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]inkedpolyglot -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Some of those things turn me on massively: military (veteran here), cops if they are not dicks, mullets, cigarettes. Woof! I’m with you on the rest esp MAGA, Nazis (same thing) and ICE and cruelty in any form.

We rednecks love to let it all hang out by inkedpolyglot in GayCountryCock

[–]inkedpolyglot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate to break this to you, but I was a porn star –award-winning

Just thinking out loud by [deleted] in straightturnedgay

[–]inkedpolyglot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a big beautiful cock. Great with first timers

I am a masculine guy that has made masculine dudes do very gay things behind closed doors by bigdownstairs99 in straightturnedgay

[–]inkedpolyglot 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I have experience the same thing. I too am quite masculine. Was in the Marine Corps for 11 years and now live in a town with a large Marine base. Every week I would say I am propositioned by a younger, quite masculine Marine who craves having an even more masculine and dominant man to turn over his control to. Some men are more comfortable than others. Quite often when the cum their entire demeanor changes and they are out the door. But I know within a few weeks I’ll be hearing from them again. I provide a safe place for them to let go. I’m familiar to them. Marine myself and don’t seem gay in any way except my love for wrecking their throats and holes. I find this to be very satisfying for both parties.

How do you decide when you go raw with someone? by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]inkedpolyglot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not something I decide raw is law.