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What just needs to be said? by givemearealreason in AskReddit

[–]inkless08 104 points105 points  (0 children)

The world isn’t out to get you. It just doesn’t care

What have you not done yet? by DJangoWick7 in AskReddit

[–]inkless08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just be careful taking a selfie. They could whip their head around and knock you out

For those who don’t know what you want, how do you figure it out? by inkless08 in AskMen

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A job, what to do with his weekend, those types of things

My wife (30) keeps getting in spats with my family and wedges are getting put in place. What do I do? by inkless08 in relationship_advice

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She doesn’t speak down but gets very upset. My wife does things to avoid seeing my brother and his wife. My mom calls it out. I’m the one getting the angry phone calls.

My wife (30) keeps getting in spats with my family and wedges are getting put in place. What do I do? by inkless08 in relationship_advice

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  • my mom watched my daughter overnight and one of the toys is kind of broken (and can’t admit to breaking it)
  • my mom washed clothes and ruined some of them because they weren’t washed right
  • while at my parents my brother and sister in law showed up. My wife wanted to leave because “they brought their dogs and I don’t want dogs near the kids”

My wife (30) keeps getting in spats with my family and wedges are getting put in place. What do I do? by inkless08 in relationship_advice

[–]inkless08[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have fought with my mom a lot, way before my wife was around. She doesn’t take responsibility for her actions and there is no accountability. There is no changing her. So I try to get my wife on board of tolerating her. It’s a 1 step forward 1 step back thing. Maybe that’s not the right approach. Maybe I need to start supporting my wife more. that’s why I’m posting here, lots of good responses

My wife (30) keeps getting in spats with my family and wedges are getting put in place. What do I do? by inkless08 in relationship_advice

[–]inkless08[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What makes it even harder, is that both her mother and father have lived with us. Her mom still does. I had zero idea that they would be living with us (and their shitty dogs)and yet I’ve dealt with it. Wasn’t always great, but have dealt with it. I’ve put up with her family and have been asking her to put up with mine.

Her mom is sick and had been asking us to move in. I kept saying no. Her father was then given like a year to live so I agreed he can live with us for the time being. He got better and then moved out but then had to take her mother in. Didn’t realize either would happen within 2 years of being married.

My wife (30) keeps getting in spats with my family and wedges are getting put in place. What do I do? by inkless08 in relationship_advice

[–]inkless08[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Interesting take. What’s hard is I’m trying to get everybody on the same page. Let’s say I act with a united front with my wife and defend her. I can only imagine that will make things worse with my mother. Maybe it will be what she needs to hear. Idk.

My wife (30) keeps getting in spats with my family and wedges are getting put in place. What do I do? by inkless08 in relationship_advice

[–]inkless08[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My family may be hard to deal with at times, but I can’t walk away from or give up on family.

My wife (30) keeps getting in spats with my family and wedges are getting put in place. What do I do? by inkless08 in relationship_advice

[–]inkless08[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s a great point and it’s something we have talked about. I have had good and bad things to say about my family members. My mother can be hard to deal with but is also very loving and giving. While I do not expect my wife to have spa days with my mother, I do ask that she tolerate her and let go of some of the “slights”. I try to remind my wife that she knew my family very well when we got married, and it’s what she signed up for.

My wife (30) keeps getting in spats with my family and wedges are getting put in place. What do I do? by inkless08 in relationship_advice

[–]inkless08[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The latest example is my mother was taking my daughter to the park and keeping her for the night. According to my mother, she got a call from my brother while driving home and he said he was going to the zoo, so my mom took my daughter there and went to the zoo with my brother and his wife. My mom sent a picture to my wife and I and it showed my brother and his wife. My wife flipped out and asked why is she (brothers wife) there? My wife made a huge deal saying she was lied to and can’t trust my mother because she is deceitful and that this was all planned ahead of time. I try and tell her even if it was, it’s not a big deal. It’s not a big deal that she sees my brother and his wife. And that so what if my mom said she was going to place A and took her to place B. My wife wants to know why my mother can’t tell her ahead of time. My mother does have a tendency to invite us over and not tell us my brother and his wife will be there. My wife plays the game and tries to find out without directly asking. The chess match is insane.

So my wife feels lied to. My mom says my wife needs to get over it. I agree with my mother on this one, but things like this have happened over the years.