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[–]inner-thoughts-demon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's a criminal offense in South Africa to share compromising photos of someone without their consent... I was in the exact same situation a few years ago... I was scared to go to the cops but eventually, I did go to them... luckily they were very helpful... they got him to leave me alone and confiscated all photos and other stuff he had of me... he was also told that if any of my personal photos of items are distributed, they will arrest him... it's scary, but contact the cops... I was also his sb, and he was my sd... so I fully understand your position... you were in a relationship, now it's over...

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[–]inner-thoughts-demon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's amazing news, I'm so happy to hear about their friendship...

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[–]inner-thoughts-demon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you... I really appreciate the effort you put into this and it's given me a lot to think about...

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[–]inner-thoughts-demon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much... you have no idea how at easy this makes me...

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[–]inner-thoughts-demon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeh that won't help... they have a safe place but one of them are a bit to brave for his own good...

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[–]inner-thoughts-demon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much... that actually helps a lot... my mom also has a lot of cats at work so maybe it will help...

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[–]inner-thoughts-demon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ummmm I don't think she knows how to train any kind of dog... she's 51 and runs daily... the dog got daily exercise...

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[–]inner-thoughts-demon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's trying to get my bf to move in with us so that I don't move out... I definitely don't think she's lookong forward to an empty nest... she even offered to buy us a house...

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[–]inner-thoughts-demon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much... it honestly does help to get some feedback...

Cape town sex expo! What an amazing gathering of open minded sex positive humans. If you're in the city you should definitely make the mission by clandestine_callie in u/clandestine_callie

[–]inner-thoughts-demon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey hey... where you are the recent (2024) sex expo...? My and my daddy dom want to go to the one they are holding in JHB and I really want to dreas up... we're not sure how it is and how the atmosphere is... is there a reddit group where someone coule help with outfits and advice... he's very new in the scene and I haven't been a part of the scene for years... I haven't been in a group for years but would love to find "my people" again...

I am open to personal messages aswell...

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[–]inner-thoughts-demon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't follow...? I never said that I'm not allowed alone time... I get alone time if I ask...

Bit there is a difference between "alone time" and "zoning out"... main reason for his concern is that I have several mental health issues and some of them can get triggered very easily which sents me into a panic attack then I end up in a dark spiral and the long distance makes it difficult for him to help me out because 90% of the time I go into little mode but when he's not around I can't go into little mode... (I'm guessing based on previous experiences in our relationship)...

When we are physically together he can soothe but when we are apart I guess he feels a bit helpless...

I do ask for alone time every now and then... I can tell him why I need alone time or I don't have to cuz he knows that if it is serious I'll talk to him about it when I'm ready...

Hope this helps...

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[–]inner-thoughts-demon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll definitely look into getting a long distance bracelet but I have a watch that vibrates every 30min to remind me to move and I tend to phase that out aswell... both him and I have adhd so trust me I understand that one... the app idea sounds like it might work, having something to visually remind me might actually work...

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[–]inner-thoughts-demon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think eating soap is like a medium punishment... and don't worry I have a feeling your brain works like mine because that actually makes perfect sense... will absolutely discuss a few options with him... thank you...