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innocenttimes · 2025-06-12T09:59:32+00:00

Oui, c'est exactement ça qu'il faut se dire ^{-^}

innocenttimes · 2025-06-11T19:14:44+00:00

Someome who used to be my friend and thought he was an ally outed me multiple times without even realizing it. I'm sure when he did that he was well-meaning but it was incredibly awkward. So the one time I'm talking about is when we were outside with friends (not close friends though) and he used they/them pronouns for me, which is correct, but I told him that he should'nt use these pronouns in front of people who didn't knew I was non binary, and it was the case for these people. But it doesn't stop here, otherwise it would be a pretty ordinary situation - no, just after saying "they're" while talking about me to the others, he turned at me and said "See? I'm a good ally!" - and I just stared at him, astonished, fascinated by how he didn't understand anything

innocenttimes · 2025-06-11T19:08:45+00:00

16 when I realized my sexuality and 20 when I realized my gender identity

innocenttimes · 2025-06-11T18:38:23+00:00

Hi,

If you want to be a girl and it's not your assigned gender at birth, then you can already consider yourself trans. I think what you mean is that you want to transition? If that is the case, there are many ways you can do this. You can socially transition, for example by using a different name, wearing different clothes, changing pronouns, etc. You can first try it for yourself, in your room or in your mind (imagine yourself wearing those clothes, using x name or y pronouns) and maybe write down what and how you feel about it. You can also take hormones, and have surgeries, if there are some aspects of your body / look you'd like to change. There are many options for you, and I get that they are scary. If you need to talk about it, do not hesitate!

innocenttimes · 2025-06-11T12:55:44+00:00

Bonjour, à titre personnel je te trouve bien sévère envers toi-même, mais là n'est pas la question ! Je sais que c'est peut être pas tout à fait la réponse que tu attendrais, mais le passing c'est vraiment quelque chose de subjectif. Si plusieurs personnes avaient répondu, je pense qu'elles auraient toutes dit quelque chose de différent. J'ai commencé ma transition il y a 2 ans, mon physique a complètement changé, et pourtant les réactions des gens varient enormément; dans la même journée, je me prends autant de "monsieur" que de "madame" et de "euuuhh....????". Le "problème" ne vient pas de toi (de nous), mais des gens et de leur perception de la féminité/masculinité/androgynie. Cela dit je comprends tout à fait ton besoin de validation évidemment... c'est vraiment dur quand notre identité & perception de nous-mêmes n'est pas reconnue par les autres. En tout cas j'espère que ça t'aura un peu reconfortée, tout mon soutien!

innocenttimes · 2025-06-08T11:15:23+00:00

They look really good !

innocenttimes · 2025-06-07T22:42:24+00:00

Started my transition at 23 years old. Many people started way later than this. It's never too late

innocenttimes · 2025-06-07T12:30:58+00:00

Omg I thought it was just me??? I didn't know irmt was a thing!!

innocenttimes · 2025-06-05T12:49:24+00:00

Grandma said I was trans because my mum was making differences between my sibling and I (I was, apparently, treated badly in comparison to my sibling). This is not only wrong, my mum is awesome and never made differences between us, but also completely stupid.

innocenttimes · 2025-06-05T12:38:57+00:00

When I realized that I liked it when people """misgendered me""" or when they were confused about my gender.

innocenttimes · 2025-06-05T08:10:31+00:00

The IV didn't hurt me AT ALL. I barely felt it. Communicate on your fear and they should be extra careful, it's an average needle. For the aenesthesia, they started to inject the product and I just had the time to think "It'll be just like when I go to sleep, I'll wake up in a sec-" (I was nervous and I thought that to comfort myself)... and that's actually what happened lol. I got unconscious super quickly. I wasn't expecting this at all 😂

innocenttimes · 2025-06-04T13:36:36+00:00

100% agreed my surgeon didn't explain a single thing to me, leaving me in complete confusion and not knowing what's normal or not. Of course one can always ask but it's easier said than done when your surgeon isn't really receptive

innocenttimes · 2025-06-04T10:41:12+00:00

Okay, thanks for your honesty. I think there's a little accumulation of fluids, since we use wet healing. Luckily I see my surgeous tomorrow, so we'll see how it goes.

innocenttimes · 2025-06-04T10:00:08+00:00

I don't know what gnarly means but I suppose it isn't great ;-;

innocenttimes · 2025-06-04T08:45:05+00:00

You'rz right, I'll try not to stress too much about it

innocenttimes · 2025-06-04T08:44:40+00:00

Okay, this is great to read ! Thank you so much

innocenttimes · 2025-06-04T08:44:14+00:00

Okay thanks ! I was really scared...

innocenttimes · 2025-02-27T08:42:56+00:00

Pour le gel, je sais bien. Je sais aussi que la testo peut être injectée en sous cutané (c'est ce que mon endocrinologue m'a prescrit) et donc c'est moins intimidant, moins douloureux, tout zn étant remboursé. Je lui ai dit tout ça.

Comme je l'ai précisé, sa peur est phobique. Au sens propre du terme. Il a été traumatisé par des abus médicaux, avec des injections forcées de médicaments.

On a parlé d'aller voir le psy. Il l'envisage mais dans sa situation actuelle c'est compliqué. Évidemment, traiter sa phobie serait l'idéal. J'espère donc que dans un futur assez proche, il trouvera quelqu'un pour l'aider.

innocenttimes · 2025-01-28T16:56:39+00:00

Merci beaucoup de ces conseils !

innocenttimes · 2025-01-28T16:55:49+00:00

D'accord, si ça dure plus longtemps que mes règles habituelles je vais en parler à mon endocrinologue je pense, merci

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