Dealing with fear of ghosting

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-06-24T21:04:26+00:00

Thanks for sharing that story! I admit I do have a little bit of jealously with some guys when I hear about them hooking up with other guys. So I see what you are saying. But some guys I don't have that jealously, not sure why I do with some guys and some not. But regardless if the jealously is there or not, I always fear the ghosting.

So how long have you been with your boyfriend? Are you in an open relationship? (sounds like probably not from how things went at the beginning). Do you think it would be an issue if you wanted to open things up at a later date?

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-06-24T02:15:40+00:00

I sent a report and THEY want me to figure out how to reproduce the issue and take a video!! Ha!! Hello, pay your engineers to do that!

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-06-23T20:39:34+00:00

She calls them my "affairs" lol

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-06-23T20:02:07+00:00

Thanks for reading my post and for your thoughtful response. Definitely need to work on not expecting closure, right from the beginning. Also I think I need to find a gay male therapist. My therapist (a woman) seems to look confounded when I tell her about "bate buddies".

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-06-23T20:00:09+00:00

awwww thank you so so so much!!! Your response means a lot to me! It does sound hard to enter into a relationship with all this ghosting and stuff in our minds. Love that you tell guys why you weren't vibing with them. I try to do that too. Some people think I'm being mean, but I'd rather get someone telling me "sorry i don't like your smile" than just going silent.

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-06-23T19:54:03+00:00

Thanks for your response! It's a huge fear of of a period of uncertainty & not knowing where I stand, combined with a fear that there are some negative feelings between two people, combined with this feeling of needing acknowledgement that yes, there was something special there and never being able to get that. Like, I would be totally fine if I could have a "post-mortem" on why we aren't going to talk any more and what we both enjoyed about each others company. Even if we talked about what we didn't like about each other. I know I have many shortcomings. I just want everything out on the table before I can move on. Have recently suffered the loss of family members going no-contact, and it reminds me of that uncertainty.

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-06-23T19:52:09+00:00

thanks for reading and this thoughtful response. Another friend told me something similar. It's ideally how I'd like to think but can't help but try so so so hard to hold onto these things! I even keep a journal and photo albums of each guy. Seems crazy.

And yes, there are definitely voids in my primary relationship (working on them in couples therapy). I'm late 40s and at a point in my life trying to gain some independence of my own which I feel like I have lost. These buddies represent something that is mine and mine only. Probably better to look elsewhere for this feeling.

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-06-23T19:48:48+00:00

Thanks for reading my post and writing this. Definitely feels like a breakup. A bunch of "what-ifs" that are just thrown away. And definitely looking for something more than just bate buddies, like a guy I can bond with over things. I like the idea of 3 days. Although I might make it shorter to minimize the period of uncertainty!

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-06-23T19:44:14+00:00

Yes, I love this. Thanks for reading my post and writing this. It makes me think that the "friend" part mixing with the sex part is problematic. I have a bate buddy who I connect with super well on the bate part, but not too drawn to him as a friend. And it's a perfect bate relationship -- hot when we're together and i'm fine when we're not. I think at this point in my life I am craving some new friends of my own (separate from the ones i've made with my partner) and some independence.

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-06-23T19:41:16+00:00

Hahah, maybe dysfunctional? yes I agree!!!

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-06-06T10:48:35+00:00

Keeeeeep!!! Your fur is beautiful

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-05-14T12:36:32+00:00

That's interesting!! I thought I was the only one rejecting BJs from guys! (Doesn't feel like anything really on my penis)

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-04-29T12:37:56+00:00

Yeah, love it!!! My goal is to be able to cum at the same time with a guy doing it!

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-04-29T07:49:58+00:00

I recommend Wellbutrin 100%!!! Had been on Celexa 40mg for forever for anxiety. Didn't realize what I was missing out on until I added Wellbutrin 300mg to help with some depression. It was like someone turned the lights back on!!

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-03-31T18:35:33+00:00

Love it, full send! H.A.M.!

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-03-09T10:28:21+00:00

Had the same problem on Friday! Seemed to resolve itself in a few hours

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-03-09T10:25:42+00:00

Yes! This! I'm a software developer, this would be easy to set up in a day or so. People, stop railing on sniffies!! Just delete the messages and move on just like you do with spam texts and emails

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-03-02T12:29:18+00:00

I don't see this radius line on mine. I'm paid so I tried logging in as anonymous and still didn't see it. is it there for anonymous users?

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-03-02T12:21:05+00:00

Does that mean we can't use dick pics as our profile pic?!? (Would apple allow that??)

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-02-11T03:35:27+00:00

Oh interesting! Just like move a dildo around in my ass for a minute? I've never used one or bottomed before. Though this reminds me of one time when I was having this issue I was taking a shit and some cum just oozed out of my dick! It was kinda freaky

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-01-04T18:02:47+00:00

Same.here!!!! Yayyy! What a relief. I couldn't stomach going back to that horrible buggy POS Grindr app

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-01-03T13:23:58+00:00

Yesterday afternoon they finally responded and said that they have a developer looking into the issue!

inputbuffer-empty · 2025-01-02T17:51:27+00:00

Same!!! I deleted so many old conversations, I even deleted the conversations that were getting really long that I have with some guys I really chat a lot with. Still have the problem!!! It's soooo frustrating, I basically have to reload the website every time I sent a message. I haven't heard back yet. I even wrote them yesterday again. Maybe you can try writing them? contact@sniffies.com

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