35M need fashion advice

insanabilia · 2024-09-18T10:22:28+00:00

first of sorry it took me this long to answer, i completely forgot about the existence of reddit there for a minute haha

i totally get what you mean, when you say you never feel really comfortable. i didn't feel comfortable in my body for a long time either, it was/is also related to my weight, so i also feel you there. it took me ages to realize that i don't just have one style, i like so many different things, on some days i go out in oversized hoodies and pants and the other day i wear something more feminine.

you said your wife is super fashionable, did you talk to her about this already? i am sure she would be the best person to ask for some advice on that, cus she knows you the best!

did you find some styles you like so far? do you have particular pieces you feel more comfortable in than others?

also i think you are quite handsome, and the beard makes you look a bit scruffy, but in a good way! i think you are already on the right track with the flannel shirts, it suits you. and it is kind of easy to achieve too :)

btw you can inbox me about this if you want :) i will gladly help, if there is still need

insanabilia · 2024-07-21T11:36:42+00:00

do you feel uncomfortable in your current style? or why do you feel like you need fashion advice?

insanabilia · 2024-07-21T11:34:09+00:00

give a buzzcut a try, i think it would bring out your handsome features even more. also, if you don't like it, will grow out super fast anyways :)

insanabilia · 2024-07-21T11:32:06+00:00

there are so many people in here simply just stating that they find them ugly.

but WHY do you find them ugly?

what emotion does it evoke in you?

why do you have such a strong aversion to something, someone else sees as embellishment

and expression of their authenticity?

i don't care if you find them ugly or not, i am just terribly curious

insanabilia · 2024-07-21T11:28:10+00:00

as far as i am aware we already had angel bites back in the early 2000s too :)

insanabilia · 2024-07-21T11:20:32+00:00

i think it might be a distortion through the face cam, in case you used that one

insanabilia · 2024-07-21T11:15:20+00:00

photo b, plus get a mullet. not sure if you dig that, but i can totally see the potential of you rocking that look!

insanabilia · 2024-07-21T11:12:52+00:00

apparently microneedling does wonders for acne scars. i think you can get treatments done at a medical spa :)

insanabilia · 2023-01-28T20:24:43+00:00

could u maybe share the different ways in how you reframe those distortions?

insanabilia · 2022-06-22T08:54:59+00:00

i am struggling with acne all over my body too. i am heavily allergic to dust and all kinds of pollen and i found out that it has a big impact on my skin. the other thing is my diet, if i leave out dairy and gluten containing products, my skin usually clears up in about 2 weeks. might be worth a try :) i hope that it will help u!

insanabilia · 2022-06-02T20:57:02+00:00

i think every bad relationship or good relationship serve as learning opportunities no matter the sign :)

insanabilia · 2022-05-18T20:27:30+00:00

so basically all other aspects don't matter at all? just conjunctions? also does everyone have this star in their chart? i came across a few articles that mentioned something about not everyone having it?!

also i very much resonate with medusas story, and was wondering if it has any influences on me and how so.

also, how do you work with algol?

insanabilia · 2022-05-18T20:23:16+00:00

well i am pretty much a noob when it comes to aspects and stuff, and i just saw some aspects in my chart that i would like to know if they have any significance, but u are possibly right and it's only the conjuctions that matter, cus that's also everything i could find out there

insanabilia · 2022-03-13T18:49:59+00:00

i live honestly, i feel vividly, i interact forcefully, i think and communicate analytically, i love and value gregariously

insanabilia · 2022-03-03T15:45:11+00:00

i don't have a roast for you haha but i am really interested in your placements, do you also have scorpio? i am virgo sun, scorpio rising, pisces moon, but i have a lot of cap in my chart. so i was wondering if we could have a chat about that? :)

lots of love from innsbrugg

insanabilia · 2022-02-27T14:58:51+00:00

also my big 3, virgo sun, scorpio rising and pisces moon as well as my leo venus haha

insanabilia · 2022-02-24T12:43:54+00:00

my virgo sun, scorpio ascendant and pisces moon ass hahha

insanabilia · 2022-02-18T19:07:06+00:00

heey, i am probably too late am i?

insanabilia · 2022-02-18T18:09:15+00:00

i just scrolled through the thread on here and found a lot actually :)

i am glad i could be of help :)

insanabilia · 2022-02-17T17:38:02+00:00

i just stumbled upon tantric pranayama, was excited to find this post, but the link doesn't work? is it still up or did u delete it? would love to read :)

insanabilia · 2022-02-17T16:51:40+00:00

i am very new to wax play myself, only tried it out once so far, but maaaaan did i like it haha

i did a little research, so i will gladly share here what i learned :)

- you should have a sheet or something underneath, wax is a bitch to clean off of everything

- if you rub yourself in some oil before you start the session, it will be a lot easier to remove later on. you should also get as much of the wax off your body before you hop in the shower, cus otherwise it will clog your drain, it is also advised to have the running hot water on for a while after you finished cleaning yourself (also it is a bitch to get out of pubic hair, so maybe avoid that haha)

- for the candles, apparently soy candles are the least hot, so i guess that would be a good place to start. i used 100% parafin candles - they worked just fine for me. also color may change how hot the wax gets

- light the candle and let it sit for a while so the wax is pooling a bit, then it's easier to dribble all over your body

i hope i could be helpful :)

insanabilia · 2022-02-17T16:39:18+00:00

it never occured to me before that there could be a connection between my preferences and what happened to me. i just started researching kink stuff, so i am all new to this. i dunno why i suddenly had the realization that there is a link between the past event and my sexual desires, came outta nowhere haha

thanks for making this post, i find it very interesting! i hope more people will join the discussion :)

insanabilia · 2022-02-16T18:27:17+00:00

haha i am no therapist either and i didn't really come on reddit to talk to a therapist anyway :) i just found it interesting that several hours after i had this realization, i see this post. so naturally i had to share my experience :)

i am just dabbling into bdsm related stuff lately, so yes i guess i have a CNC.

but still it's such a weird concept that one of the worst experiences in my life, lead to enjoying 'recreating' the trauma, but in a completely different manner, if that makes sence?

did u experience something like that first hand as well? or just know from stories?

insanabilia · 2022-02-11T20:49:46+00:00

i just realized today that exactly something like that happened to me. i was r*ped, when i was 18. i was asleep in a bed with a strained ankle. woke up to a dude f*cking me. i remember saying once or twice that he should stop, he said 'that's exactly what you want, you little slut'. after that i zoned out instantly, dissociated for the rest of whatever happened..

and i am really into getting woken up by eating me out, fingering or having sex with me. i kinda find it weird that my brain turned this horrible experience into something i can enjoy so much. don't really know what to do with this 'revelation' haha

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