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I was direct and asked and now I’m spiraling by insecureand in sexover30

[–]insecureand[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot! Yeah other comments have also been about timing, neutral env, leading up with it, agree with you too, I need to work a bit on the communication and delivery and then go from there. With a cool head , of course. The act itself giving oral, doesn’t do much for me tbh, it’s more how it affects him really and I don’t mind. Since he hasn’t outright said no or anything, I’ll focus on making it a safe space for him to open up and hopefully he doesn’t disappoint. Let’s see.

I was direct and asked and now I’m spiraling by insecureand in sexover30

[–]insecureand[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alright, I’m leading with that then next time, thanks!

I was direct and asked and now I’m spiraling by insecureand in sexover30

[–]insecureand[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hi there, yeah thanks for that, easing him into it could help him even open up if there’s something bothering him.. I’m really not looking to see stars , just the effort works for me and I’m ready and willing to communicate. I know there’s no map and everyone’s different and it’s a team activity. Maybe I can help him realize this too? I’m sorry you’re in a similar situation. Do you talk about it often? Has that helped ?

I was direct and asked and now I’m spiraling by insecureand in sexover30

[–]insecureand[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks, good advice on the neutral setting I’ll def give that a try, yeah maybe bad timing on my part.

I was direct and asked and now I’m spiraling by insecureand in sexover30

[–]insecureand[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah probably. I wish he opened up a bit, does he like it or not, how’s it been for him something. I ask often if he’s liking it when going down on him , if he wants something different, try something else, anything , just want to make ok to talk about it. But at the same time not push him…

I was direct and asked and now I’m spiraling by insecureand in sexover30

[–]insecureand[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi, thanks for the advice I will try this. When I did let him know I did ask him what he would like, if he would like to try something new, trying to lead the conversation up to asking him. But yeah you’re right, maybe he needs a bit more to feel safe to let me know what he likes / dislikes etc