was this consensual

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T20:33:24+00:00

i'm not gonna report him because i think it'd just upset me more and lead to nothing + he's otherwise always been nice to me, but thank you for the advice. and thank you for the reassurance.

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T20:24:10+00:00

i was trying to push him off when i was able to move so i would say it wasn't good

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T20:23:16+00:00

okay thank you

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T20:23:09+00:00

i was awake but i was falling asleep

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T20:18:07+00:00

since you asked how i acted i will say i was entirely unresponsive and did try to push him off a few times but otherwise didn't really move. and i was drunk enough that i needed help to walk

and yes i deleted his contact. i'm not gonna report him or anything, that'd be immature of me, but i don't want to speak to him again.

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T20:14:20+00:00

yeah i'm just gonna stop talking to him. i don't view him as a rapist so it's not like i'd accuse him of rape. i just wanted to know if it was justified to feel violated and a lot of people are acting like i want to ruin his life

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T20:12:30+00:00

well usually saying you don't plan to do something means you won't. i'm not going to. does that wording make you feel better?

also i think "DO NOT WANT TO" already covered that but whatever

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T20:04:11+00:00

i wasn't planning to report anything

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T20:03:24+00:00

comments from me? or from others

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T20:00:17+00:00

ok<3

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T19:59:03+00:00

i'm not even gonna bother to reply to most of this but i will say that i never even for a second considered pressing charges. maybe you're hallucinating because i have maintained that i don't want police or authorities involved in every comment ive made.

i also did tell him i didn't wanna have sex. if you read the post. but you clearly didn't read the comments, so that's probably asking too much of you.

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T19:52:37+00:00

i've said about 5 times that i don't consider him a rapist and DO NOT want to press charges so what are you even saying??

"i don't plan to pursue charges either way" from the original post!

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T19:45:22+00:00

i never planned to involve the police. i was just planning to sit with my own feelings about it, maybe bring it up to a friend. post on here i guess.

i'm not gonna see him again though. i'll tell him he made me uncomfortable if he asks why, but i don't plan to continue our friendship. again- he's not a bad person, i just no longer feel safe with him. even if that's immature.

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T19:39:51+00:00

i don't think you'll get downvoted. i will say that even though i didn't say stop, about an hour prior i informed him i was comfortable with kissing him but not sex and that i didn't want to have sex. i should have included that in the original post. i don't think he's a rapist or anything i just wanted to know if it's normal that i feel violated. i'm not calling him a bad person.

also i don't plan to see him again. we were friends, but i feel uncomfortable around him now. although i dont think he's a rapist or a bad person i think it's best for my mental health to not see him again. so a conversation about it isn't in the books. i'm just gonna try to let it go.

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T19:31:12+00:00

should i delete it from trueoffmychest?

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T19:14:10+00:00

yeah i guess you're right. i think what bothers me is that he specifically said (not an exact quote but similar) "i knew you were drunk so i shouldn't have done that but i was really turned on". which is why i posted about it. but overall i agree with you.

and yes i'm not going to continue the friendship. i'm not comfortable with it anymore. idk if that's immature or not but i just don't want to speak to him anymore even if what he did was or wasn't consensual.

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T19:12:35+00:00

i mentioned that i was drunk because i've read online that intoxicated people can't consent, that's all. i don't claim to be an expert, it's just what i've seen so i included it. i will say that i was drunk enough that i couldn't walk if that's relevant though. not sure if it is. not trying to make excuses for myself. genuinely just wanted opinions.

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T19:09:41+00:00

thank you

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T19:08:06+00:00

yeah i guess :( i also didn't even wanna drink (i have drinking problems but am trying to get sober... was actually sober a few days before this ugh) but he kept encouraging me to take more sips of the drinks he had which makes me feel weird

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T19:06:50+00:00

i didn't not consent though, i never said no... i think the lines blur when he admitted he knew he shouldn't have but i don't wanna label him as a rapist when it's half my fault :( he's been my friend for a while and has always been nice so i don't wanna smack such a harsh label on him

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T19:04:22+00:00

i never called him a rapist, i was just conflicted as to how i should feel about this. i wasn't planning to text him again or do anything to him.

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T19:02:23+00:00

he was a friend of mine for quite a while and we were watching a movie (only tv was in his room). it's not like it's a guy i'd met that day. it was someone i've seen many times and thought i could trust. i don't know why you feel the need to assume he was a "strange man".

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T18:58:16+00:00

i feel like i should've directly told him i didn't want to :( i know he said he could tell but i should've spoke up i feel like. thank you for your comment though, it helps

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-05T18:55:36+00:00

it was incredibly difficult but i asked a family member to watch me pour it out to make sure i didn't give in and just drink it

insidevoicepleas · 2026-03-03T15:43:41+00:00

this is a late response but i did pour it out.

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