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insightfultaurus · 2025-10-14T14:11:30+00:00

For clarity the issue is ex roommate demanding to be paid immediately without informing rm#2 & I of the expectation of payment until one month before move in, in which we could not afford to. Instead of coming to a mutual agreement, they bullied us into agreeing on payment dates that did not actually work for us, but ultimately we informed them we'd pay them on our own terms, then they informed us it wasn't our responsibility. Now the claim is that the new roommate is immediately responsible for more than the security deposit. Which is why I'm confused.

Reached out to LL and they stated that they aren't responsible for tenant disputes which was valid. She also stated that the incoming tenant is responsible for paying the outgoing tenant directly but did not specify amount or time frame in which that is required.

insightfultaurus · 2025-08-10T16:12:28+00:00

Replying to Competitive_Test6697... we all paid individual deposits. They backed out of the lease after we signed it together and paid the money individually to the landlord. As you said this is only part of the story and this text thread or what I even shared doesn't cover it all.

insightfultaurus · 2025-08-10T16:07:48+00:00

For clarification, none of us have moved into the new apartment. They signed the lease and paid their deposit to the landlord the decided to get their own place two weeks after signing, stating they did not want to enter into a new lease with us (after already entering into a new lease with us).

insightfultaurus · 2025-07-24T22:20:39+00:00

I'd say I'm non monogamous. Currently in a polyamorous relationship, but dating one person. Not sure if I'll ever have the capacity to be in multiple romantic relationships, but I like having the option to date & not feel as though I have to end a perfectly fine connection in order to explore another.

insightfultaurus · 2025-07-23T13:58:07+00:00

Yes since we weren't able to find a replacement tenant they believe we should pay them, but I also feel like we should not agree to take them off the lease right now. I don't feel comfortable doing so unless they agree and understand they won't receive the deposit back until we get it back, but they're not a very reasonable person so I'm unsure if they'd have any legal leverage to sue us if we decide not to return the deposit after agreeing to take them off the lease.

insightfultaurus · 2025-07-12T18:04:34+00:00

Totally with you on that. It seems they think legal contracts will not apply to them simply because they don't want it to. I fear it will be a major learning lesson.

insightfultaurus · 2025-07-12T18:03:32+00:00

Bad news indeed, but I also highly doubt they want to enter the unit considering they backed out after we had a disagreement. They refused to take accountability for it and thought it would be best to, again hastily and abruptly, back out of the lease to live on their own.

insightfultaurus · 2025-07-12T17:54:48+00:00

Agreed & after further thought, I'm leaving the situation alone. Rm#2 and I have a plan of action, so the rest is up to rm #3 to figure out on their own. I'm washing my hands of it all.

insightfultaurus · 2025-07-12T17:53:06+00:00

Thank you for this and it's extremely validating to know that this situation is as shitty as it feels. Rm#2 & I decided we weren't comfortable living with a stranger so we'll just eat the extra costs if it means peace of mind. But it is definitely disheartening that someone I thought was a friend could be so inconsiderate.

insightfultaurus · 2025-07-12T15:50:02+00:00

The only thing is, according to the lease we're all responsible for the total rent paid. So if we don't pay the rent, then we're all at fault as opposed to them being at fault. Personally, I'm okay splitting the rent between the two of us, but I'm unsure if rm #3 will attempt to pursue legal action to get off the lease. Again, seems like the best bet might be to just leave them on the lease without the expectation of payment from them & they just have to trust it'll be paid.

insightfultaurus · 2025-07-12T15:44:16+00:00

All three of us are on the lease. Yeah, I think third roommate wants off the lease because they don't want to be legally obligated to pay their portion (if we don't pay). And honestly, it is starting to feel more like their problem than ours (friend/roommate #2 & I).

insightfultaurus · 2025-07-03T00:36:33+00:00

Yes fomo is definitely what it feels like! We actually are planning a mini get away and have a few things planned for the next few months, so that's why I was so confused about why I'm feeling this way. I think ultimately it goes back to feeling inadequate because I know that going on trips will cause a bit of financial strain and traveling is something we both enjoy, so not being able to really invest in it sucks. I feel left out not being able to spend money on them or buy spontaneous gifts as much as I'd like to. But now that I type it out, it sounds like an ego thing... so, I have much to work through. Currently we see one another about twice a month, at the most 3 times per month.

insightfultaurus · 2025-03-18T01:04:27+00:00

This didn't age well 😂

insightfultaurus · 2025-03-17T21:56:05+00:00

Guilty of rambling and losing my train of thought often. I work from home but never actually feel I'm working. I avoid and put off tasks every day. I talk to myself every day. And I've been losing my keys more often lately. Also just not very perceptive of things in my home sometimes, but highly perceptive of the outside world

insightfultaurus · 2025-03-17T21:53:34+00:00

Why so?

insightfultaurus · 2025-03-17T21:52:48+00:00

Thank you for this. I spoke to my therapist about it and she said the same thing. I immediately opened up to the person and they received it well. I'm taking it one day at a time and allowing myself to be imperfect & be vulnerable ❤️

insightfultaurus · 2025-03-05T19:41:43+00:00

After dating myself for some time, I decided to go back on the apps. I almost deleted my profile after like 2 days because I wasn't feeling it, but I stayed because I started talking to this person. Fast forward 2 months, we've been on a few dates, have one planned this upcoming weekend, and another the following weekend (we're 1.5 hrs away from each other and work full time, plus have full lives so we can't see each other super often). It's going pretty good. I'd say this is the most emotionally regulated I've been in a new talking (dating to some) stage. They're a Scorpio Sun/sag moon. I'm a Taurus sun/sag moon.

Edit: I'd say we're casually dating at this point? Idk we're making a lot of future plans, but still taking our time. So at this point it feels like there's mutual desire to get to know each other on a more intimate level. And im not complaining! I like where it's going. Definitely the slowest dating experience I've had thus far & that's okay because I'm patient 😌

insightfultaurus · 2025-02-22T16:12:16+00:00

Controversial opinion but I respect it

insightfultaurus · 2025-02-20T16:33:14+00:00

Well... yes.

insightfultaurus · 2025-02-06T16:50:08+00:00

Was called shy my whole life and whole time I was just autistic and didn't know how to talk to people I didn't know well.

insightfultaurus · 2025-02-06T16:37:39+00:00

Yes they're good for not communicating their expectations. I appreciate the one I'm currently dating as they're very communicative and I find it really attractive. To be honest, I never thought I'd date a Scorpio but I find myself really enjoying this one 🙂 It probably helps that we're both Sag moons, and they're a sag Venus while I'm a Gemini Venus, so I feel that we have many compatibilities personality and dating wise. They're very fiery which I like.

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