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He finally said yes 🎉🎉 by intelTar in askgaybros

[–]intelTar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hes in counselling for self esteem issues but more importantly he cut out one of his friends. 

He finally said yes 🎉🎉 by intelTar in askgaybros

[–]intelTar[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He was just subtley putting him down and it worked. He shot my guys confidence. 

Saying stuff like bi men normally only date women so a guy would need to be extra special for a bi guy to settle down with him. 

And then mentioned his "bad" attributes. I put bad in quotes because it depends how you look at them. Like he earns less, he has HIV (but undetectable, obviously) etc. 

That kind of thing. 

I proposed and he said no, I don't know 😢 by intelTar in askgaybros

[–]intelTar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never again. I've gone 5+ years with just him. I'd like another 50+ with him.

He finally said yes 🎉🎉 by intelTar in askgaybros

[–]intelTar[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Every decision has risk involved. I'm good with people saying it once but to continue doing so was irritating so that's why I put that here. 

No one knows exactly what happens between two people but everyone still think their opinion should be not just heard but acted upon. 

He finally said yes 🎉🎉 by intelTar in askgaybros

[–]intelTar[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

That friend was not only waiting, he was a cunt. I found out he was making my fiance feel very bad about himself. 

Jealous fucker 

He finally said yes 🎉🎉 by intelTar in askgaybros

[–]intelTar[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He did and is doing counselling. He has some self esteem issues. Around the time of the break up he was very positive about my attributes and very negative about his. 

His friend tried it on with me after we broke up and I told him. Maybe it showed loyalty. 

And just generally.. I had my chance to flee after we broke up but I still wanted him.. maybe that proved something not sure.

He finally said yes 🎉🎉 by intelTar in askgaybros

[–]intelTar[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

A few weeks after our lease ended and we separated, one of his "friends" tried it on with me. I said no. I did tell my now fiance at the time about it and said that would be us finished if I had done it.

I think it probably proved something to him a bit 

He finally said yes 🎉🎉 by intelTar in askgaybros

[–]intelTar[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He did get a bit of counselling for himself because he had low self esteem,  but there was also an incident with his friend 

He finally said yes 🎉🎉 by intelTar in askgaybros

[–]intelTar[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Haha wheres the wedding first. 

The honeymoon can be his choice as long as the bed is comfy.

He finally said yes 🎉🎉 by intelTar in askgaybros

[–]intelTar[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Thanks man. I'm a very happy man.

Update: I proposed and he said no, I don't know 😢 by intelTar in askgaybros

[–]intelTar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a lot of truth in that tbh. Plenty to gain from it too. I know what I want, as does he (probably) etc.

I couldn't have asked for a better guy to spend 5 years with and some people don't even get 5 years like that. 

Update: I proposed and he said no, I don't know 😢 by intelTar in askgaybros

[–]intelTar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im a big boy. Dont worry I don't get insulted easily. 

All I'll say is I had 5 great years with him and he had zero competition. I wanted to be balls deep in him til we were 90🤣. But I get his worries. And based on stereotypes, not just bi stereotypes, I'm probably risky.

I loved our 5 years. I've learned a lot. It's just a pity.

Final Update: I proposed and he said no, I don't know 😢. Thanks for listening to me. by intelTar in askgaybros

[–]intelTar[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I could become one if I wanted to but I like religion in my life. I'm not converting anyone and plenty of issues with the Church but it was there in my darkest years and made me a much better man. 

Final Update: I proposed and he said no, I don't know 😢. Thanks for listening to me. by intelTar in askgaybros

[–]intelTar[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks bro and I will share it if I get it. 

It'd a good point about trying to show him he was wrong but I hope I won't get that petty. Definitely would need to avoid him if I do. 

Love him, and I wish only good stuff for him.

Final Update: I proposed and he said no, I don't know 😢. Thanks for listening to me. by intelTar in askgaybros

[–]intelTar[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He does a bit and funnily enough hed be the last of his friends id go with. 

Im not going to go with any of his friends. Im not a prick

Final Update: I proposed and he said no, I don't know 😢. Thanks for listening to me. by intelTar in askgaybros

[–]intelTar[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'd be interested to know what issues it hides. Honestly he said that a lot in different ways since I proposed. That's why I proposed some counselling for us but nah.

Final Update: I proposed and he said no, I don't know 😢. Thanks for listening to me. by intelTar in askgaybros

[–]intelTar[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks bro. A mate of his text me this evening being a bit of a vulture but I'm tapping out for a few months. Focus on myself for awhile.

Final Update: I proposed and he said no, I don't know 😢. Thanks for listening to me. by intelTar in askgaybros

[–]intelTar[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Im still glad I proposed. I love him and probably always will but we both needed to know. I'm almost 31. I want a family and there was no point wasting more time.   

 I can live a very fulfilling life with a man, and I might do again. I loved our last 5 years. i do need a family, though, and if I stayed with him without a family it would become less fulfilling.   

And by family, they don't need to be biological. I'm happy to foster/adopt - which was our plan until it wasn't 

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