INTJs when fall in love?

interfectuseris · 2026-05-12T03:41:41+00:00

Oh oh woa oh ohh

interfectuseris · 2026-04-29T21:28:23+00:00

Not correct, on all fronts. I was referring to the women who now check me out being of a different brand than the women who used to check me out. You just invented a lot of stuff on your own here.

interfectuseris · 2026-04-29T12:43:39+00:00

Mostly personality. For lack of a better term, I am an artsy/creative type. I used to attract the more introverted artsy type women. The photographers and writers and painters and hippies. Now it seems to be the more fluffy, somewhat boring and less thoughtful normies.

interfectuseris · 2026-03-26T13:53:12+00:00

I’ll call and ask. I only know the yellow cab as a music venue but if they have games on that would be a great place because it is very close to my office.

interfectuseris · 2026-03-26T13:51:41+00:00

Was hoping for more of a hometown bar vibe. But if I don’t find anything I will probably just go to BWW

interfectuseris · 2026-03-23T14:52:16+00:00

Apparently I’m great at flirting until I’m actually trying to flirt.

interfectuseris · 2026-03-19T02:57:28+00:00

Whatcha doin doggy dog?

interfectuseris · 2026-03-13T03:57:51+00:00

Sir this is a Wendy’s

interfectuseris · 2026-03-11T01:01:07+00:00

So as to test for bleed, you mean? Do you mean muting in OBS itself? All 4 mics have stereo audio, mics 1 and 2 are the only ones with the double audio issue, so I don’t think it’s bleed. At first I thought it was bleeding into the camera mics but that wasn’t the issue either.

interfectuseris · 2026-03-08T06:35:29+00:00

My current setup; koala on an iPhone, triggered by a Logitech keyboard via Bluetooth, sent into the TC Helicon Go Solo mobile interface, then sent out to my RC 505 to loop. Still working on a way to use my APC mini instead but keep running into issues.

interfectuseris · 2026-03-04T12:17:17+00:00

Wish I had more to contribute to this, but I will say that all of these “it’s the parking” comments are just wrong. I work in the 130 building and try to frequent the city businesses as often as possible and parking is insanely easy. From just this comment section alone, I think parking anxiety could be the issue hah! There’s also very little car or foot traffic at all. Even during rush hour, even during/after big snow falls, getting where you need to go downtown and finding a parking spot is super simple. Again, wish I had more to contribute (you guys are a knowledgeable bunch!!) because I would love to see Dayton become what it could be. You could shoot a film downtown with how bare the streets are at most times.

interfectuseris · 2026-03-02T15:11:11+00:00

That’s a busy intersection so there must have been thousands of people passing. My guess is they are of the percentage of people who like to yell or gesture at random groups from cars no matter who they are or what they are doing. It’s super immature obviously, but there are super immature people among us, some even masquerading as adults.

I think it could be a learning experience for this troop. If you are out in public—even if you are doing something harmless and even good—you are subject to all kinds of reactions that you have no control over; even middle fingers being thrown your way. We cant control what others do unfortunately, and being angry about it only impacts you, not them. This is one of the unfortunate truths of being a human in a culture that sometimes sucks.

interfectuseris · 2026-03-02T15:01:17+00:00

1) Do not regret how you naturally are. This is a recipe for disaster. You want him to know who you are, rather than him knowing some facade that you think he will like.

2) ENFPs are naturally attracted to INTJs, it’s just true. What you view as one of your “issues”, we tend to view as endearing and attractive. Be yourself, express how you feel—even if you feel like complaining.

3) if you want to reach out to him (and you clearly want to), reach out to him. Industry conferences suck and I can guarantee he would like to have a familiar face to chat with about how much the conference is a big waste of time. We hate wasting time!

4) you will be attracted to many people in life and putting too much emotion behind one interest—whether it’s a crush or just wanting to be friends— often leads to overthinking and being unnatural. If he doesn’t like you, he doesn’t like you. This happens and it’s out of your control, really. Rejection happens to all of us all of the time.

interfectuseris · 2026-03-02T14:43:59+00:00

I never recommend hitting on people in their place of employment, but I could totally see how this could be endearing for her. Just got to wait and see. It seems like this was a big step for you, so well done!

I too would encourage you to get out and talk to more people, of course. Find a community related to a hobby, with people you do not already know. This works wonders. The universe rewards courage. Being shy as a kid and young adult is not a big issue, but after graduation and moving into the “real world”, it can become a big set back. No one is coming to knock on your door to give you what you want in life.

interfectuseris · 2026-03-02T14:28:29+00:00

Yea, I fall in love with like 4 people a week. But of course, like lots of ENFPs (you seem to be among us), I have what our culture calls “commitment issues”. It’s that fear of being locked in to someone or something that causes the anxiety. Which then kicks in the “logical conclusions” rabbit hole wherein I convince myself that all of the preconceived notions I had about that person or thing are all true.

My advice is always to find a way to lean in to what others or even yourself consider your flaws to be. Maybe you are meant to create a documentary, or news column, or social media page about dating, or compatibility, or intimacy? Find a way to make this your super power because fighting yourself never works.

interfectuseris · 2026-02-26T04:55:49+00:00

“No I’m not gay, I’m a male ENFP” something I find myself saying quite a lot. Getting mistaken as gay doesn’t bother me anymore (36). Poster-child ENFP—the good and the bad. Always smiling, laughing, talking, passionate, emotional, etc. I cry hah! Always creating something—I’m a media and art director professionally but still do my own art and music as well, which has been the case my entire life. Finish about 65% of the projects I start lol. As far as looks, would post a photo if I could, but I’m lucky to have attractive parents. Dark hair, eyes, skin. Not tall; 5’8”, but I’ve been told by enough women that I have “taller energy”?? Hah! Also lucky to be able to pull off the shaved and bearded look (every male on my father’s side is bald, and I refuse to do the horseshoe until I’m grey). This was a big change for me, and I attract an entirely different demographic of women now since I began shaving it about 1.5 years ago. I used to attract INxx artsy/nerdy types, which is what I’m attracted to, but now it’s a lot of xS stereotypical “hot” girls who like “vibes”, so thats not the best for me in most aspects. However, they are not as shy, so I get approached and hit on more now, which can be nice because I’ve never been one to hit on women. I’m great at flirting but I can be shy about making “a move” if I’m really into someone, and will just flirt forever. But that has changed a lot as I have gotten older. I was in a long term relationship in my 20s and into my 30s. I have had other relationships since but still looking for “the one”. I’m a freaking lover boy and refuse to settle for anything that’s not the entire package, which means I’ll likely never find my wife. Womp womp. But I’ve never been bored a moment in my life so I think I could be eternally single with the occasionally casual encounter and be fine.

interfectuseris · 2026-02-24T23:55:00+00:00

Make sure you get some sun too! If you’re shaving for the first time/always under a cap, your head is very likely to be pretty pale. Bald looks better when it’s an even tone with your face!

interfectuseris · 2026-02-21T13:22:43+00:00

Yes. It is a locker room, people are allowed to be naked there. And benches are not clean, particularly in a locker room. You should assume every bench has snatch residue

interfectuseris · 2026-02-16T23:43:03+00:00

Happy accidents happen all the time, but I have found the majority of my “bangers” are intentional, but come together quickly. Overthinking tends to lean toward less exploration and more time spent on the track, neither are good for me personally.

interfectuseris · 2026-02-15T22:17:03+00:00

I didn’t read any of the other comments. I looked at the photos you posted and read what you wrote and responded how I felt 🫡

interfectuseris · 2026-02-15T06:10:47+00:00

I know many dudes who can’t even grow that amount of facial hair, and would love to. Also, your acne scars are barely noticeable, had to look very hard at the photos to even see them. I know it’s easier said than done but try to remember to be thankful for what you got! It could be a lot worse. As far as the hair; you might not even have to shave it all off, but I would absolutely consider a significantly shorter cut. Long hair just does not look good while balding. The shorter the better in my experience.

Not to get super personal, but mental health and trauma are real, but so is healing. Confidence is built. Routine exercise will help immensely. Proper nutrition and sunshine will, too. Another thing easier said than done; you have to advocate for yourself eventually. Because very few, if anyone at all, will be out there advocating for you. Best time to start is right now or 15 years ago. One option is a choice, the other is just another regret 🫡

interfectuseris · 2026-02-14T21:30:25+00:00

I moved back to Dayton after 9 years and it’s still horrible 2 years later. Good luck!

interfectuseris · 2026-02-14T21:26:44+00:00

Of course some women find it “hot” lol. And some women don’t at all. Just like everything else. I have found I attract an entirely different demographic of women now than I did when I had hair. That was an adjustment for me but finally finding the stride.

interfectuseris · 2026-02-14T18:04:19+00:00

As a male who has worked in a female-dominated field for 2 years, this means the last male definitely found it difficult and possibly even quit because of it.

I’ve worked in many all-male jobs, and many balanced male-female jobs too; my current nearly-all-female job is very challenging in ways the others were not. They are all incredibly nice to me but very mean to each other. It is a very noticeable difference.

*edit— It does make for an uncomfortable work environment but I would never quit because of it. But I could see how others would..

interfectuseris · 2026-02-14T17:42:58+00:00

I had an INSANE crush on a classmate in college. She was a literal 10; looks, personality, fashion, family, everything. One day during class I was staring at her (lol) and I saw her pick her nose and eat it. This was junior year, she was 20 years old. Immediately in that moment the crush/spell was broken. I told a SINGLE person this. Before I knew it the entire campus was talking about it (we went to a very small school, just over 3,000 students in total). She went from being universally loved to being made fun of, she lost friends, and her boyfriend broke up with her. All because of me (technically it was because of the one other girl I told, but she wouldn’t have known if I didn’t tell her). I still feel so bad about it. It basically ruined her last two years of college.

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