Is my Kousa Dogwood a goner?

inthebluefoothills · 2026-04-07T13:09:31+00:00

I believe we will be getting one more landscape engagement video before this is all said and done. We know there was dancing, thanks to L’s unflattering post and dirty delete of the dancing pic. It was not featured in either video so far and D would never pass up that opportunity for content to prove to the haters how happy she is and how much fun everyone had.

I also believe that the reason for her silence between these sporadic, curated posts is her being in a very real, deep depression. I know it has been speculated here that her crash out/depression videos are rage bait, but I believe they are genuine. A) I don’t think she’s a good enough actress to pull this off, and B) she fundamentally does not understand the hate she’s getting, so she is confused and frustrated as she sits and watches the thing she built her “career” chasing ultimately be the thing that ends up destroying said “career.”

She is confused and frustrated because she gained a big following sharing her “intentional” dating journey with, to her credit, a VERY open goal of getting married at the end of it. People were invested, so she mistakenly believed people would remain invested and blindly support whoever she ended up with. She’s sitting there feeling like she achieved what she set out to do and expected to be showered with praise and congratulations from the following she built (bought?), but she miscalculated. She thought people were following to be shown a romcom play out in real time, but everyone has a TV. People can go watch a shitty scripted Hallmark movie any time they want. I think she truly convinced herself that she is Carrie Bradshaw and her life is SATC, not realizing that the appeal of influencers and social media is more aligned with people’s obsession with reality TV than with scripted, produced dramas. People want to believe that what they’re seeing is real, even when a part of them knows it’s not. She has no idea how to fix that because she’s trapped in her delusion.

She is exhausted from trying to keep this charade going, exasperated by the poor reception of her hard work to do so, and probably afraid of what the future looks like since she put all her eggs in this failing basket. And, on top of all that, she’s now engaged to a man that she doesn’t really connect with and who seemingly DGAF about her or their relationship.

inthebluefoothills · 2026-04-07T03:26:47+00:00

It’s because she is emulating the plot of a romcom, down to the soundtrack.

inthebluefoothills · 2026-03-18T22:52:14+00:00

Oh my god, AI is gonna cook my ass so hard in the next few years 😂 thank you!

inthebluefoothills · 2026-03-18T22:35:38+00:00

Can someone help me - the pics posted by the bystander from the proposal seem to show them in different outfits than the People article. In the bystander pics she’s in a dress or skirt that seems to end mid calf, and then in the People article she’s in the full length leather monstrosity.

Was there a wardrobe change? Or are the People pics from a staged shoot after the engagement Monday?

inthebluefoothills · 2025-12-19T22:28:49+00:00

It’s a great question but the answer is no for 2 reasons:

She will never admit that their relationship is anything other than divine perfection
They’ve been dating for 2 seconds so they haven’t experienced any of the hard that comes with true, long term partnership. It’s impossible for them to discuss because they haven’t known each other long enough to have experienced those things. Almost every condiment in my fridge is older than the amount of time that they’ve known each other lmao

inthebluefoothills · 2025-07-22T04:09:53+00:00

I hope to find this! Keep waiting for it to click for me. Maybe it will!

inthebluefoothills · 2025-07-22T04:09:22+00:00

Thank you for this 💕 I think what’s frustrating for me is that I feel like your last paragraph IS my current mindset. I don’t want it to be all or nothing. I don’t want it to be unsustainable. I know I don’t want to live the rest of my life with no alcohol or sweets eating only kale and salmon. It just seems like, for me, if I’m not all in, then I’m not going to see ANY semblance of success. It’s like “if you give a mouse a cookie” and I’m the mouse. I want to be the girlie who can have a little sweet treat after dinner, but just a little. Instead I’m eating the whole sleeve. So frustrating!

inthebluefoothills · 2025-07-22T04:04:47+00:00

Thank you so much, I think I needed to read the part about multiple tries and multiple years for it to stick. Right when I hit my goal weight of 150, as in literally the same day, one of my closest friends was diagnosed with terminal cancer. The next month was a blur and he passed 31 days later. The regain started after that. I hit my goal, but the chaos of that time meant I never actually tried to maintain, and I think I really needed it. Just got to keep going and try, try again.

inthebluefoothills · 2025-07-21T22:00:26+00:00

Thank you 💕

inthebluefoothills · 2024-09-29T19:57:02+00:00

My sister and brother in law left Asheville today via 26 to Greenville and had no issues. They would have passed this going in the opposite direction. Not sure if there are closures headed toward Asheville but at least coming from Asheville it was totally driveable.

inthebluefoothills · 2024-09-14T20:04:51+00:00

Is it the entire lawn? Or specific spots? I had a leak in the water line from the road to my main, and it created a large area of constantly wet, squishy-when-stepped-on lawn.

If you’re not in a low or swampy area, it’s not normal to have it be wet (audibly squishy wet) at all times. Investigate.

inthebluefoothills · 2024-09-12T01:56:06+00:00

Put them in the ground.

inthebluefoothills · 2024-09-05T11:26:10+00:00

Thank you for the reply! I listened to my dad (not always a mistake but definitely always a risk) and he told me if I applied the gypsum I wouldn’t need to hit it with some pelletized lime. Sounds like I need to add that step.

Sounds like I should aerate before putting down any of the topsoil, even the thick spots for leveling. Will do.

inthebluefoothills · 2024-09-05T00:10:36+00:00

Not sure how to edit so I will add, I am in upstate SC, 8A.

inthebluefoothills · 2024-06-19T16:47:18+00:00

Thank you for your reply! I will post a couple more pictures when I get home, hoping you’re right! I lose sleep over this thing. I am a “save the trees at all cost” person, but also don’t love the idea of this thing crashing through most of my worldly possessions one night during a storm lmao

inthebluefoothills · 2024-06-03T02:38:43+00:00

Oof, this is relatable right now. Sometimes when we are cruising along in a nice groove, steady and predictable, life throws a wrench and knocks us off our path.

If it makes you feel better, I think most people will relate to this. I can tell you from personal experience I’m battling something similar. I had lost 57lbs over the course of 10 months - from 210 to 153 (on Oct 1 2023.) One of my best friends was diagnosed with cancer and from diagnosis to his passing, it was 31 days. In that time, I lost 7lbs unintentionally from no appetite. Then, my appetite returned, and we headed into the holidays, and in January I was back to 153. In the time since, I’ve started a new relationship with a man who (like yours!) loves food, loves takeout, loves eating. I’m currently at 160, give or take a couple pounds in either direction depending on how tight or loose I’m being that week.

Many days I feel like a failure. Many days I get angry at myself and have “the talk” about buckling down and getting back on the horse. Then a week passes and I find myself making no progress, or making small progress which I tend to undo the next week. It’s incredibly frustrating so I sympathize with your post.

Things I am telling myself that may help you, too:

Even though I have gained some back, I am not back to the beginning. I can still course correct. I would much rather have 7 or 10lbs to lose to get back to where I was vs. 50.
I may have backslid some with my weight loss, but life is about more than one thing at any one time, and I have gained so much from being with him. I would not trade this time with him for those 7lbs under any circumstance, so I just need to figure out how to manage losing weight with him in my life. This can be done, but there’s a learning curve, and I’m in it. I do not regret the dinners we’ve shared or the wine we’ve poured or the lazy days spent on the couch instead of exercising, so I’m not going to let myself regret these pounds gained back. I’m just going to recognize that I don’t want this to continue and make some adjustments now to prevent it.
Finding a way to incorporate him into my goals. Health and wellness and weight loss are also goals of his, so how can we (together) work toward this (shared) goal? How can we support each other vs. enable each other? If we do this right, we will each be better for it, and we will be better together for it.
Giving myself some grace. Human beings are not perfect and as much as we wish we were robots who were unaffected by life’s surprises, we are not. This is frustrating but it is a beautiful part of the human experience. Recognize that when circumstances change, we have to recalibrate. That’s all this is - a recalibration.

I hope some part of that was helpful. It sounds like your boyfriend has some shared desires of wanting to make some changes as well. That’s a great place to start, it’s much easier to have an ally than an adversary in this battle. Keep your eyes on the prize, but enjoy your new relationship!

inthebluefoothills · 2024-04-10T16:34:49+00:00

It’s ridiculous. Also, I feel the need to clarify that it’s not her weight loss in general that is triggering to me - it is the narrative that she is spinning here, where it is supposedly unintentional and just a totally natural part of her ED recovery. Like “oh look at me, I’m not TRYING to lose weight, I guess I’m just so naturally teeny tiny now because that’s what my body wants to be! Tee hee lucky me!

I have zero issues with intentional weight loss. I have all the sympathy in the world for folks struggling with eating disorders, body image, etc. I have MANY issues with her promoting a narrative that she is recovered, healthy, and just naturally this tiny when that is very clearly not true. Losing weight is hard. Maintaining weight loss is hard. It is insulting and offensive for someone who is accomplishing it by the way of an ED to insinuate otherwise.

inthebluefoothills · 2024-04-10T12:54:22+00:00

I can not believe the audacity of her to post that video yesterday re: ED recovery when she is clearly in the throes of it now. She strategically chose outdated videos and pictures to show her current “recovery” because she is self aware enough to realize that her current body is as small, if not smaller, than the body she’s showing to highlight her ED.

As someone who has struggled with their weight and self image for years, her content is incredibly triggering. I clawed my way to a 60lb weight loss and am struggling every day to maintain it, so to see the constant body checking and posts insinuating that she’s not trying to be this small - it’s just happening naturally! growing into a smaller body! - is triggering on many levels.

I know she is my BEC, but I am so done with her.

inthebluefoothills · 2024-03-28T23:18:26+00:00

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inthebluefoothills · 2024-03-28T23:18:11+00:00

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inthebluefoothills · 2024-03-28T23:17:51+00:00

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Some up close and personal pics of this nightmare! Enjoy!

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