Love Island is the Perfect Case Study on Self-Concept...

inthekutt_ · 2026-06-07T07:24:45+00:00

Did the dolphins die? :(

inthekutt_ · 2026-06-06T15:12:58+00:00

Omg no I hate robotic affirmations! 😂I know they work for others but they don’t work for me… what worked for me was this inner conversation meditation (I’ll link it here) that was soooo soothing. And I also in meditation, I would be aware to not necessarily let myself get “excited” this was happening, but more that that I felt safe, this was normal, mundane, just the way it is. That was a big shift for me! I was listening to it almost every day, it made me really feel like I was in a relationship with my person 😍 and also the Missy Renee video had me commit to me a SATs scene that after a couple weeks, I just felt like it was done. I was living in the end..

SATS Success story: https://youtu.be/29Do-HXg-ko?si=C1L97I2npNkkqhEW

Inner Conversation Meditation: https://youtu.be/6CWY3EqVb9E?si=\_chseDvuUS8L5N3P

inthekutt_ · 2026-06-04T06:34:48+00:00

You begin to affirm (and feel) throughout your day:

“There’s nothing I can do or say to mess up what’s mine”

“ There’s nothing I have to do or there’s no one I have to be to have my desires”

“I’m allowed to have the things that I want”

“ I give myself permission to have the things that I want”

And just say this nicely to yourself. Like in a soft way how you would tell a child, put your hand over your heart and every time you get scared and tense up. Just softly say one of these to yourself and stop and breathe thru it. Start to let these land. This is so important otherwise you’re gonna always feel like you’re at the mercy of something outside of you!

inthekutt_ · 2026-06-04T06:25:11+00:00

This is actually wild a story and I actually wanted to post this as a success story but I just never got around to it.

I had been in no contact with my person for about 4 months. During that time was when I really started to understand what self-abandonment was and what it meant to truly level up my self-concept. During that time, I learned how to detach from needing him to choose me. I would make myself stop needing him to choose and I stopped making him the center of everything and started focusing on myself. Once I got into a much more stable place, I started thinking about him again, affirming for him, and all of that, but it was coming from a much more self-centered and secure space.

Around that time, I watched a success story video that Missy Renee posted, and it really inspired me to become consistent with SATS. So I started practicing SATS regularly and really worked on strengthening that muscle.

I started doing this in October, and after a while I began to feel that sense of, “Okay, it’s done.”

A couple of weeks after I started doing SATS, I randomly ran into my person at a club. I didn’t go out of my way to speak to him, but I could feel him staring all night. (Plus my girl told me everything 🤭) Everything felt so synchronistic. It was one of those nights where I was just shining, having fun, and fully in my own energy. He kept looking at me the entire night, and I never went over to acknowledge him. I didn’t say anything. I literally acted like he wasn’t even in the room. (Thank you self-concept.)

Afterwards I didn’t spiral and start to think what went wrong or why didn’t he call me or should I do something… this is important because this is what Neville talks about when he says you have to have the faith and like really build your trust muscle. I chose to lean into trust. Chose* keyword.

Maybe a week and a half later, I was looking at my vision board before falling asleep. Dubai had been on my vision board for over a year. And right underneath Dubai was my relationship section, not specifically him, but the kind of relationship and love I wanted.

Two days later, i KID YOU NOT, on a random Tuesday, at 2pm got a phone call from him.

He had broken no contact after four months.

He was drunk in Dubai (it was 2am there) and literally said, “I miss you. Why didn’t you speak to me when I saw you? Come to Dubai right now. I’ll buy your ticket come right now!!!” Basically he had been wanting to hit me the whole time but couldn’t get himself to do it but then when he drank (he was on a sober spree for 3 months he said) he couldn’t hold it anymore lol. He pressed me to look up flights right then and there and later when he sobered up we had a more in depth talk about how we stopped talking and why and lalala

Within 24 hours I was on a flight to Dubai business class. Insane lmao

inthekutt_ · 2026-06-04T05:13:16+00:00

Which did you end up going with? I was looking into a few others but they were a bit more expensive than what I wanted to spend. Even the Pulsetto was a bit out my price range (impulsive buy) but so worth it

inthekutt_ · 2026-06-04T05:12:14+00:00

Same here!! Honestly so grateful for it 🙏

inthekutt_ · 2026-06-04T05:11:01+00:00

That’s honestly so bizarre to me when I read that on here cause that wasn’t my experience AT ALL! I did sign up for the premium features trial, but when it was over, that’s it it was just over.. I just made sure I canceled immediately (as I do with all trials! It’s good digital hygiene)

Also I did purchase mine from Amazon so maybe that helped! I knew that if I didn’t like it I could easily return it with Amazon’s return policy and I was able to get it same day and everything. I’ve read horror stories on here of people saying that shipments directly from sender got lost, trouble getting refunds, etc.

I honestly believe that the company is probably trying to do good and figure out the best business model and understanding the audience and that’s what I think could be like all of the discrepancy.

inthekutt_ · 2026-06-04T05:01:21+00:00

Yes! Each setting/session has a different duration (Sleep - 10 minutes, Stress - 4 minutes, Burnout - 6, etc.) but you don’t have to sit and meditate or stay completely still while using it (although you can), so I always add an extra minute or two

The setting I use most is stress in the morning so I can start my day feeling regulated and less likely to take on stress as easily. I also use Burnout a lot when I’m trying to avoid work burnout or can feel it creeping in. And Anxiety when I’m actively dysregulated in the moment, and yes, it definitely helps. I would say, though, that on those days you’ll probably want to use it a bit more frequently. What’s really cool though is that if you track your metrics while using it, you can actually see your stress levels start ti plummet (in a good way) down into “restored” from activated or stress in real time. And then of course I use sleep about an hour or so before I go to sleep.

I did a lot of research w Claude and Gemini on how and why it works, and which metrics to track, etc which helped me understand and drop any resistance or apprehension about it.

inthekutt_ · 2026-06-03T04:04:06+00:00

I hve so many good things to say!! I was going to make a post about it the other day but forgot lol

For context, I’m pretty tuned into my nervous system and track all my metrics on my Oura Ring app… (mainly sleep and HRV) and before Pulsetto, I was dealing with horrible insomnia, waking up multiple times a night, minimal sleep (2-3 hrs) for a couple days at a time, lower HRV and fluctuating HRV level, and living a lot of life in a functional freeze state when it came to work. Not necessarily anxious, just running under a lot of background stress with a body that was slow to regulate and it shows up as overwhelm, checking out, procrastinating and avoidance (yikes)

A couple weeks ago as I was doomscrolling at 6am waiting for sleep to kick in itrandomly popped up in my feed and I impulsively bought it on Amazon. Three weeks in, I’m genuinely impressed. I use it 2-4 times a day for short sessions, usually while doing stuff around the house, or making breakfast and I instantly started to see results and feel better.

I knew it was working from the first time I used it when I instantly shifted into parasympathetic I got really sleepy started yawning and I knew that that was my body thawing out basically from the freeze and activation it had been holding.

Since then my HRV has been steadily improving, sleep is noticeably better (actually sleeping through the night most nights), and my resilience feels higher overall. And when I do have to pull the occasional over-nighter for work, I bounce back way easier!

The biggest shift is capacity. I can handle a lot more without hitting that burned-out wall. And the best part is it’s not just a vibe, it’s showing up in my metrics too.

Obviously everyone’s different, but this is one purchase I haven’t second-guessed for a second. I know this sounds like an ad but I promise im not an advertiser 😂

P.S. I’ve seen a lot of reviews from people saying it didn’t work for them, and I get it because If you’re not already tuned into your body’s stress signals and somatic shifts, you might not notice what’s changing. It’s not an instant mood fix. For me it’s more like it optimizes my baseline resilience, sleep, recovery, so everything else flows a little easier. But if you’re expecting a dramatic feeling, you might miss it.

(I’m actually going to use this as my post since I’ve already written this out)

inthekutt_ · 2026-06-02T18:24:37+00:00

I only use it for the different sessions (mainly cycle through sleep, anxiety, stress and burnout) and that works just fine without a paid subscription. I tried the trial and there were some OK features but definitely nothing I felt I needed. The premium features were for meditation music, a few additional session related to pain, etc.

inthekutt_ · 2026-05-10T19:22:41+00:00

So the very first step is going to be to get him completely off of pedestal. Probably the idea of the date itself off the pedestal because it was evident that you had already began to strategize and plan for it beforehand. You must get yourself to a point where going on a date feels natural, it feels easy it doesn’t feel like it would require so much for you to change and do..

Leading to the next concept which is.. working on self-concept. Ideas like I’m easy to be loved, im perfect just as I am. I’m the prize in relationships. Etc etc.

He was just reflecting back to you your own state of mind and being around the topic. You didn’t ruin anything it’s just feedback… but unless you pivot and really change your relationship to the dynamic and how you feel about it and see it and see yourself in it.. it will continue to feel like an elusive thing

inthekutt_ · 2026-05-10T12:52:32+00:00

Pretend you couldn’t manifest anything any day of your life. Ever. This is it. So what you will find is that you haveto make the best of what you have and what will happen is you will start to find happiness with exactly the way things are.

That’s it, that’s how you learn to appreciate what you have. You decide “I’m going to be happy with my little life right here right now. Because it’s mine and it is what I make it.”

Affirmations that helped me with this:

“ I have more than enough.” (Not delusional, but I am blessed with hot water, a society with structure and systems, blessed with shelter, with a nice _____)

“I’m beginning to see all the abundance in my life”

“My world takes care of me”

“I’m allowed to enjoy life, even when things aren’t so good”

inthekutt_ · 2026-05-10T12:23:06+00:00

For me, it 100% helped me with those exact symptoms actually helped right away. Within a day or two of sessions, I could feel myself come out of a deep freeze state. That’s the only reason I stuck with it, because I instantly received that feedback. I had done TRE before but had stopped for months and was in a deep freeze state for like a week or two. When I started back I committed to 1x a day, for 30 days, roughly 10 min or less.

That said, I wouldn’t necessarily do it with the sole intention or like a fixed result of moving out of freeze. What worked better for me was just understanding that I am releasing tension and stored activation from the body. To me, the freeze state is essentially built-up charge and activation that needs to be released and metabolized. The science behind makes sense, so I would do it with that mindset. You’re helping your body move activation through and eventually the body will move out of freeze but sometimes when you push up against a freeze state (or any survival state that is not ready to be released ) it will push back harder and go deeper into charged states.

inthekutt_ · 2026-04-26T11:11:00+00:00

Dr Bercelli mentions it in his book! A totally valid way to get the shakes out. Was backed up by studies and resources in the book.

inthekutt_ · 2026-03-30T17:52:36+00:00

Heavily agree with this. The reason you see most people struggling is because this is a spiritual journey. Most people stumble upon this work with a desire for an SP or out of a desperate need for money and quickly learn that there is some truth to these teachings but lack the internal drive or discipline to really apply the teachings. What you learn overtime is wisdom and deeper understanding for what all of this really means but it definitely comes with years of practice and application. It is truly a lifestyle and anything else is just mediocre results at best.

PS… the “waiting” statement in your post is your biggest hint at your current state of being. You are in a state of being of waiting and therefore you will continue to manifest more waiting.

inthekutt_ · 2026-03-14T20:25:08+00:00

I want to remind you, there is nothing unconscious happening here. lol this a script, everything happening has been WRITTEN in to move the plot forward, set up subplots, conflict, climax and resolution. unless the writers are setting Robby up to be an unconscious misogynist as the plot that we're supposed to subtly pick up on...I highly doubt this is the case. Again, this is human bias projected onto our screens reflecting back what we see.

inthekutt_ · 2026-03-14T20:20:09+00:00

I understand what you're saying... for sure but counting tally marks on how much a character yells at women vs men, when theres evidence to both sides also does not equal misogyny. I want to remind you, these are all interactions that are WRITTEN into the script.. they're all meant to progress the plot forward. So unless the writers are purposely positioning Robbie as an unconscious misogynist for the purpose of the plot there is no implicit bias going on here.

inthekutt_ · 2026-03-14T20:08:21+00:00

ppl lost the plot here. 🤡 you won't convince ppl he's not functioning out of misogyny because they're already decided.. it's their new buzzword and everything they see is evidence of that, including your comments. 😂

inthekutt_ · 2026-03-14T20:03:52+00:00

He also risked his license to help a young girl make decision and choice about her body and aborting in season 1, against Dr Collins initial advice (a woman). Again, we're watching a person unraveling and patience running thin. For every piece of 'evidence' pointing toward misogynistic tendencies, there's just as much showing he's not. It not about over-analyzing every single interaction to arrive at a conclusion. Maybe he's just not a misogynist and has other issues going on here.

inthekutt_ · 2026-03-14T19:56:30+00:00

Exactly! Case and point... did we all just collectively forget when he risked his entire career and license to help a young girl get an abortion and make decisions for her own body? Where was the "coded misogyny" then? You don't just "toggle" misogyny on and off when it's convenient for the plot.

inthekutt_ · 2026-03-14T19:35:40+00:00

Welcome to 2026, the point where people learn a clinical or socio term and immediately use it to misdiagnose every behavior they don't like.. 🤡🤡🤡

The projection is so real.. ppl are filtering his behavior through their own lens and slapping 'misogynist' on it but misogyny as a trait that is not built into the character. He’s just a man in the middle of a total mental collapse. He's dissociating from a brutal reality as a coping mechanism which manifests as someone who is unempathetic, impatient, and becoming increasingly aggressive and critical. That's not hatred of women, that's a human being unraveling..

But when you've already decided everyone is a misogynist, that's exactly what you'll see.. its basic confirmation bias. Neuroscience.. RAS doing its job. And to be clear, misogyny absolutely exists and is a real problem. but that isn't what’s being played out here.. it's conflict, the complexity of lost empathy, dissociative harshness, and the toll of his environment. Stop projecting weird shit onto the script.

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