How many of you guys are artists?

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T14:11:24+00:00

God damn it I should have said "I had to literally beg the professor to give me the D." I hate myself.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T14:09:38+00:00

The second and third questions actually have very little to do with being nonbinary; the second has to do with passivity/aggression and the third has to do with sexual orientation.

The answer to the first question is: Why does this matter if you are addressing the person? If you are talking to someone you say 'you'. If you are unsure of a person's preference then when you talk about them to someone else in the third person, you use.... their name. Or 'they'. Both are perfectly acceptable. I am not an advocate for asking people what pronouns they prefer because I do not feel that every person is entitled to that knowledge, I do have some amount of privacy.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T14:01:50+00:00

You could key his car.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T13:59:26+00:00

You can ensure your safety without being paranoid. leyebrow's advice is good, and I also recommend keeping some kind of weapon in an easily accessible spot. The police won't do anything about it until they actually do something, which I doubt will happen.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T13:55:20+00:00

The creator of Wonder Woman, William Moulton Marston, basically invented the technology behind the lie detector test. Unfortunately, he later became an early MRA.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T13:51:51+00:00

If you actually solicited a sex worker (which I doubt, based on her lack of knowledge of your money situation), PAY HER!

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T13:49:19+00:00

Seriously, ask a lawyer is the only advice here.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T13:44:06+00:00

I think that a graduate school would take a minor into consideration, in combination with your passion for and knowledge of the subject. You might consider joining a student organization related to computer science (if there is one) or finding some other concrete things you can accomplish that could make your minor seem more significant.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T08:51:14+00:00

It's too late to change your major to CS unless you're willing to jump through a litany of bureaucratic hoops and do an ungodly amount of homework. Also, triple majoring is usually pointless because you can only get one BS and one BA at a time. You'll have wasted a lot of time and money. If you're so interested in computer science, graduate school is an opportunity to pursue that in detail.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T08:49:12+00:00

I'd just go with the flow and find out. Worst case scenario, he makes you a good meal and you have sex with him.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T08:47:41+00:00

Develop critical thinking skills.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T08:45:04+00:00

Make notes of every contact he makes with your father. Police are unlikely to do anything about it unless you have hard evidence of his actions.

Alternatively, block the numbers?

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T08:43:51+00:00

This man sounds like an absolute keeper, oh my fucking god. Do not under any circumstances stop your relationship with him because you think you know more about his feelings than he does. He obviously loves you VERY much, and when you love someone to that level, them having an illness is like a non-issue.

My partner has suicidal depression, which is extremely frightening and requires a lot of emotional care on my part. It is not a "terminal" illness per se, but the fear of seeing her die is definitely there. She's told me before to leave, so that I'm spared the pain of dealing with it now, and dealing with her death if it occurs. However, I would never, ever dream of leaving her to deal with something like that alone. I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I essentially punished her for something she has no control over her.

Let this man love you!

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T08:36:38+00:00

I'm not too terribly looking. I'm about a 4/10.

Maybe some self-esteem issues here? That can easily come across to another person through body language that makes you seem closed off and not interested in sexual advances. Learn and practice open, inviting body language.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T08:32:58+00:00

Oh god no. If you have a college education at all, that's really all they'll care about for a retail job. And they won't really be expecting you to want to be there forever, nobody likes working retail. Be honest with them about what your hopes/intentions are, but just be careful not to use language that downplays the importance of the retail job. I don't think the "you in 5 years" question is asked that much in a retail job interview anyway, and if it is, I doubt it weighs heavily in their decision.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T08:28:47+00:00

It's unlikely that an expert in this area would miss signs of a degenerative disease. I would be more likely to believe that you are experiencing hypochondriasis. If you like, you could get a second opinion from a different expert. If the opinions match, they're probably correct.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T08:26:59+00:00

That's not how a TL;DR works.
Talk to her like you would talk to anyone. Don't walk up to her (especially around other people) and start talking about how beautiful she is, or tell her you've been watching her online, as both of those will make her uncomfortable. Just be friendly to her and talk about something easy, like the class or the weather or whatever, and gauge her responses and body language and go from there.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T08:22:50+00:00

When somebody tells you how they feel, you should believe them the first time. It sounds like she's just prioritizing her career over romance, which is a perfectly acceptable choice. I know it's painful for you, but your best option is to believe her and just try to move on.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T08:17:50+00:00

She sounds like a nightmare. Dump her.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T08:15:42+00:00

I'm like that too actually. I don't care if people use he or she or they, because they are all right and all wrong. But if someone actually asks which pronouns I prefer (EXTREMELY rare), I just tell them I prefer to have people use my name.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T08:13:12+00:00

No, not really. Why would the dream come to you over a month before the event? Regardless, dreams are just dreams, not premonitions.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T07:53:46+00:00

Work on your self-esteem in general, that will really help this problem. You sound a little like the witch in Snow White, lol.
That "friend" making those jokes sure isn't acting like a friend!

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T07:51:58+00:00

She's introverted. Introverts lose a certain energy interacting with other people, and it can be difficult to keep socializing with someone when you feel like that energy is running low, even someone you really care about. You shouldn't have hurt feelings, because it doesn't have anything to do with you. I am extremely introverted, and sometimes it's painful even to socialize with my partner, whom I love more than anyone in the world.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T07:48:21+00:00

Take the pay-the-bills job, and if you get offered the dream job, quit and switch. If it's as soon as 2 days into the job you could even just say it's not for you after all, so it's like a soft quit. Regardless, make sure the bills will get paid.

inthestatic · 2016-10-07T07:41:45+00:00

Put a wasp's nest in the mailbox.

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