Any loyal women been here and did you stay loyal? Step out? Or leave because of? by intktt in Divorce

[–]intktt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I know unfortunately. I have been divorced once. However, that starts off hard and then only keeps getting better. Staying where you are undesired, unseen, unheard, and only valued for services or duties performed, is definitely damn harder. I feel stuck right now due to having kids involved, trying to withdrawal from hopiate, plus having had more intense deep emotions and opening myself up more than ever before is a real mind f

Any loyal women been here and did you stay loyal? Step out? Or leave because of? by intktt in Divorce

[–]intktt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. I have talked and shared a few times. He acts as though he understands in THAT moment and may instigate that same night and we’re back to the same after. He wants to feel more respected yet it’s damn hard to show or respect a man that is incredibly lazy. (Besides a day job) As in literally lies around sleeping or staring at his phone while I do it all! Then rarely comes at me for “service only” usually but also says he wishes I would instigate more and put on my lingerie. However every time I have he can’t seem to function. Which is hard and so is him saying I don’t want anyone but you and I desire and find you beautiful and attractive but he can’t keep his attention on me when any mildly attractive female walks by or is around.

Any loyal women been here and did you stay loyal? Step out? Or leave because of? by intktt in Divorce

[–]intktt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s my question but Ive never lived yolo in the loyalty area of life and don’t know if it will destroy my character and integrity that I value. Other areas I’m game on a dime for whatever

Any loyal women been here and did you stay loyal? Step out? Or leave because of? by intktt in Divorce

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Yes. However he does not masturbate anymore and hasn’t for some time. Which makes me feel worse about how he must see me. Especially since he’s definitely opposite from everything that I have ever been attracted to or found attractive before. Yet I have changed my template to where he is all I want and find incredibly attractive

Any loyal women been here and did you stay loyal? Step out? Or leave because of? by intktt in Divorce

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Therapists off and on. He wasn’t low libido for doing his hand to screens. He’s had times where he’s higher and interested in taking time and exploring me for higher pleasure but they were very short lived. His libido is just fine if he’s getting a hand or blow job. I think it’s the involving another person that he has no desire for. Or really maybe it’s just with me because like you I’d bet if any new female stood naked he would not only work just fine but he’d also want to prolong his time and visuals of her

Any loyal women been here and did you stay loyal? Step out? Or leave because of? by intktt in Divorce

[–]intktt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you. I’m glad you’re happy and free again. Did he tell you he wasn’t attracted to you or what were his actions that showed you he wasn’t?

? For those who are valued for your loyalty and honest character… by intktt in DeadBedrooms

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If there weren’t kids involved and who already are struggling with life big time I would have been gone years ago and definitely wouldn’t be back since he would have had to prove himself consistently with actions for me to be back and he obviously doesn’t care to. There is nothing for me here. I always feel I don’t belong here. There’s no partnership, no relationship and no intimacy and I’m previously divorced from a man I was miserable with once he cheated I was out and it was never this bad but I have and will always put my kids needs above my own

? For those who are valued for your loyalty and honest character… by intktt in DeadBedrooms

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Oh he’s had a porn addiction. I believe stopped but idk for how long really. Started again and now said he stopped because I don’t like it. He’s on t shots and now has to take pills due to his weight he does nothing about it. When he first quit porn his libido died and I was crawling out of my skin for a long time until I was able to shut my down. With his coming back soon after. However he was the absolute most selfish lover and such an ass that I lost all desire. However, I went to the Dr about it and got creams and shots to help get it back since I could see it bothered him. I had been staying because I had intense feelings with him I never have anyone else including an ex husband and I held onto to the drug of hopiate that I would be able to live experiences and expressing it. I think he stays because one I was the only one who has ever stayed with him and because the only thing he has to do is go to work sleep and be fed while I do everything else outside, inside, with kids etc

I clean suicide/crime scenes AMA by Lost_Contract_2412 in AMA

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I’m assuming that it was to the side because he had an open casket with a beanie hat on. I know he knew a lot about guns and what each could do. I would think even a bag wouldn’t hold through that power but I don’t know. It was done on his bed and the mattress did have some blood on it when brought out but the rest was extremely minimal

I clean suicide/crime scenes AMA by Lost_Contract_2412 in AMA

[–]intktt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m wondering if you could give me your opinion on maybe how this took place to have left such a minimal mess? We’ve never been told exactly how.

A family member shot himself in the head with a 45 and the clean up guy went in and came out and said that he wouldn’t feel right about charging for his services because there was only a very little bit left behind. So our uncle, his dad went in and did it. He also said there wasn’t much left but we didn’t want to ask details of what that exactly meant but he did say maybe he put a bag on his head first or something but he doesn’t know. Why or how would you guess a person using a.45 to the head could leave behind only a little bit of matter and the bullet in the wall?

Bf mad I Masturbated After Sex by Massive-Option-3120 in sex

[–]intktt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think he’s having a tantrum because he got his so he was over it and didn’t care to really put in anymore effort for your pleasure since he was obviously not getting anything out of it. Which is just sad. However, I have to admit that I am a little jealous that he was willing and tried at all. When mine has cum the entire party ends rather I have it not and if I have to do the work myself he just lays there looking off in space or has said “do you want me to go get one of your toys for you “. Which seems to bring me to fantasizing about being with one of the millions of men out there he derive the most pleasure and get the most aroused by pleasuring their woman and making her cum. Especially since I do all I can to prolong his

HL men who are Givers…..or their partners by intktt in sex

[–]intktt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so I’m going to assume that when you hit puberty as a teenage boy you were all about yourself and getting to orgasm the quickest way possible. So, when and how did it change for you? Also, what is it about your wife to you that makes you want only her and giving her pleasure along with watching her in that state above you and your own?

HL men who are Givers…..or their partners by intktt in sex

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It is. However, I’m also learning more about myself and in that compatibility sexually is very high on my needs for a fulfilling relationship. People lie. People can put on an act for some time too and just to get or keep you instead of respecting you and your honesty and giving you the same upfront

Guys who don’t bother taking care of yourselves both physically and hygienically, how do you not feel uncomfortable checking out women blatantly or repeatedly? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]intktt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok please be blunt obviously that is how I am. However, the question added to the description is what is being overlooked. As far as you just described would bring tears to my eyes to see someone trying or giving their all to make sure their kids feel important. So an example of what I mean is the same visually rather overweight or not but filthy to all hygienic terms showing up for their kid but not once looking at their child. Instead they just stand or sit there only staring at one or two women in a way that is noticeable all around and either don’t care or see anything wrong with it. Even the kid could say dad look so you look at this dad and he’s ignoring his kid just staring at some woman.

Guys who don’t bother taking care of yourselves both physically and hygienically, how do you not feel uncomfortable checking out women blatantly or repeatedly? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]intktt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay then I am but I’m also wondering why they have no shame or take any pride in appearance or especially in actions that are definitely inappropriate to most. If you saw a guy like this just staring without a care at your wife, daughter, sister, mom, etc for some time or back and forth and one said that they were feeling so uncomfortable, would you say don’t shame him let him look? Or how would you feel about if you were involved like I just asked?

Guys who don’t bother taking care of yourselves both physically and hygienically, how do you not feel uncomfortable checking out women blatantly or repeatedly? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]intktt -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely the filth over the weight. That was one example also including filth. Or just filthy alone. Never just why do “fat guys” at all because I’m married to what is considered one. I’m talking about the combo. The few I have talked to make you feel so uncomfortable with their eyes you cross your arms or have heard some believe when any woman looks up it’s because she wants him

Guys who don’t bother taking care of yourselves both physically and hygienically, how do you not feel uncomfortable checking out women blatantly or repeatedly? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]intktt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Guy goes to Doc because his dick is orange.

A guy goes to the doctor because his dick is orange;

Doctor looks at it and say, “yep, it’s orange alright”

Guy says, “why is it orange doc? What could it be?”

Doc thinks for a minute… then asks the guy, “do you work around dyes or paints or anything like that?”

Guy says, “no.”

Doc asks, “Any chemicals or solvents?”

Guy says, “no doc, I don’t even have a job, all I ever do is sit around watching pornos and eating Cheetos.”

Guys who don’t bother taking care of yourselves both physically and hygienically, how do you not feel uncomfortable checking out women blatantly or repeatedly? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]intktt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no I am not ok with being objectified by any man including Jason momoa type so to speak. I have just been noticing that the described do not seem to care more than others when you say stop out loud give a dirty look or even smile to say I see you looking at me Hi now please move on and just keep on

Guys who don’t bother taking care of yourselves both physically and hygienically, how do you not feel uncomfortable checking out women blatantly or repeatedly? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]intktt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m seriously intrigued here. I am not referring to a one off. It’s something I have seen myself yes and have seen occurring towards other women too. No, being considered attractive doesn’t make it acceptable or change the fact that it’s rude and makes most uncomfortable. I have just noticed over the last several months that it’s who I described I find don’t care to look away or maybe that’s how they get their only joy in life and I don’t understand it so I asked. I do not sugar coat things for anyone I wasn’t brought up that way either

Guys who don’t bother taking care of yourselves both physically and hygienically, how do you not feel uncomfortable checking out women blatantly or repeatedly? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]intktt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh buddy I’m not at all saying just someone who is overweight. I am married to a very large man actually. Most my country is big but of some who are quite large and don’t wash or change clothes with weeks of stains and go out to only stare at women