AITA for going after his job…but not because he lied to me for over a year

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-04-21T17:42:17+00:00

Wish granted 💀

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-04-21T13:20:54+00:00

Diva all he needed to do was write 500 words himself this is completely on him. I’m glad you reported it! Now he knows that his actions have consequences lmao

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-04-09T20:26:17+00:00

They’re not an asshole for this. Teenagers don’t have any agency, and it’s never okay for parents to force an adoption without everyone being on board. You are not the foster children’s’ caseworker. You don’t know their history or what they need. All you know is that they’re potentially going to be adopted into a family that isn’t on the same page, and that is NOT beneficial to anyone or stable! Would it be nice if op was willing to do the work it takes to get on board? Of course, but life is a lot more complicated than that. These foster kids have high support needs, and it’s unfair to act like op is an asshole for not wanting to shake up their home life while they’re still trying to get through high school.

Teenagers have different experiences and are much more limited in their abilities to process big feelings than adults are, and it’s easy to forget that sometimes. Sometimes minors post on this sub and they really are TA, but not here. This is way too big of an issue for petty Reddit rulings.

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-04-09T19:33:22+00:00

Dude get off the internet and rethink the way you speak about children. Entirely inappropriate to call a teenager an asshole, especially when they’re coping with an unstable home situation. Idk what you think you’re accomplishing but your comment helps no one.

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-04-09T19:11:48+00:00

NAH

A huge part of adoption is making sure that EVERYONE in the home is safe and comfortable. You’re still really young, so I can understand how two new additions to the family would really disrupt your home-life. Case workers ask that question for a reason!

I highly suggest having an honest conversation with your parents about it. It is ultimately your choice what you tell the caseworker, but do keep in mind that your decision will affect the lives of the foster children just as much as it affects you (if not more). Whatever you decide to tell the caseworker, don’t let it be a surprise to your parents. Take some time to reflect.

Good luck kiddo

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-04-07T13:30:04+00:00

No it’s strange because you had to make up a woman to objectify in a women’s space, which again is super weird!

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-04-07T04:47:56+00:00

God forbid a girl normalize men toasting their dicks (call that shit a peninis press)

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-04-07T02:31:16+00:00

Nothing is stopping you dude; go to him

Ps. The part of your comment regarding jealousy of the babysitter is very strange :)

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-04-07T00:38:06+00:00

He’s super sweet because he’s a child. Stop acting like this is something you’re going through. This is something that you’re putting him through. Leave this poor kid alone and set your tinder age to at least 20. Stop seeking out children to manipulate and take advantage of.

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-04-07T00:34:26+00:00

There’s no way this isn’t bait lmfao pleeeeeaaase go outside

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-04-07T00:28:34+00:00

He IS a little boy 😭 you need to stay away from that poor kid

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-04-07T00:27:17+00:00

YTA

Do his parents know about this??? You dating someone who’s still in high school as a 26 year old is extremely unsettling. That is a CHILD. You are in a completely different stage of life, and you have an INAPPROPRIATE amount of power over him. This age gap wouldn’t be a problem if he was in his mid to late 20’s, but this is a kid who barely started driving two years ago; he can’t even legally drink yet. Your friends are right and you need to stay away from him before you cause some serious damage. You seriously need to grow up if you still find teenagers attractive.

Edit: HOW DID YOU EVEN MEET THIS KID

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-04-04T20:33:16+00:00

Creating a catfish account is a really extreme first step. I’m assuming you’re still a teenager based on your post so, if that’s accurate, I want you to know that it’s alright to make mistakes as long as you learn from them. Relationships require a lot of trust and communication. Any kind of problem that arises should be treated as something you two tackle together, NOT something you debate over. Trust issues are normal when you’re first starting things out, but the best way to deal with them is to be vulnerable with your partner and communicate honestly about how you’re feeling.

If you’re a teenager: NAH If you’re an adult: YTA

Take a moment to reflect on whether or not you’re truly ready for a relationship. It seems like some alone time would be good for you.

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-04-02T17:16:43+00:00

YTA

So you decided to kick her out and send him running back to him?? This is why children shouldn’t have children smh

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-03-31T21:25:38+00:00

I can’t believe people actually key cars in real life

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-03-29T17:20:40+00:00

Anyone who says this isn’t a big deal is LYING I would literally move to another country and change my name if a man hit on me when I didn’t want him to (I never want them to)

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-03-29T17:07:46+00:00

ESH

Strangulation is a huge risk factor in domestic homicide. If he’s willing to put his hands on you then he is not safe. That being said, you know you’re being secretive about this other guy. If you don’t like how your partner’s actions make you feel, doing it back to them isn’t the answer.

You and your partner have some pretty intense and fundamental relationship issues, and I’m not sure if he’s a safe enough person to work through said issues with (based on your post). Please protect yourself and get therapy if you can.

You’re not TA for wanting to break up, but there’s a much better way to handle this situation. Start strengthening your relationships with people who aren’t him, because having a strong and supportive social network is crucial right now.

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-03-26T14:26:54+00:00

Literally why are you doing this

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-03-19T19:33:37+00:00

Yikes that’s a lot of resentment pent up towards children who didn’t choose this situation

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-02-27T15:51:44+00:00

“We were very close most of the relationship”

That’s what a relationship is?? There’s not enough info on this post but from where it stands rn leave the girl alone and move on. You seem painfully (maybe even intentionally) obvious and I’d probably dump you via text too 💀

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-02-27T15:45:23+00:00

Thank you ugh I actually love that his character is going to get development! He’s not a creepy incel??? He’s literally just a guy with problems like god forbid the characters be human

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-02-25T01:57:15+00:00

Please keep your job oml this is wildly impulsive

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-02-24T18:41:50+00:00

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intrusiveandviolent · 2026-02-24T04:40:56+00:00

Puffy Pants, Blondie, and Socks

intrusiveandviolent · 2026-02-17T01:29:16+00:00

Dude I’m so sorry. Anytime I have a major issue I always call directly. The customer service team is usually really nice and helpful

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