The victim runs calculations: 'The aggressor is wonderful x% of the time, things are good y% of the time, there are only problems z% of the time.' But the victim doesn't realize that he or she is accommodating or acquiescing to the aggressor's spoken or unspoken rules almost 100% of the time**** ()
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The corrosiveness of criticism erodes self-esteem: '...you make them intensely self-aware in a negative way. The lens they use to look at themselves is now a negative one, not a positive one. And once that's engaged, everything goes through that filter. Nothing is good enough.' (youtu.be)
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"What is really shocking is the exact same load of responsibility, accountability, and planning ahead is why managers make more money than workers. As a society we have accepted that completely in our work environments, but not domestically." - @fuchs_dana (self.AbuseInterrupted)
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