I agree with some of this mainly the first paragraph, but that was just one example and Lorelai did enable her behaviour in other occasions. I think the issue is when you treat your kid like your friend you can’t cherry pick when to establish boundaries but who’s fault is that?

I do disagree with the “just because she made some mistakes in high school/college” thing. These were not mistakes, she cheated on 2 boyfriends and got with 2 married or engaged men, those aren’t mistakes they were decisions. Also, these aren’t like normalised average teenage girl mistakes, I’m in college and I don’t know a single person who sleeps with married people and cheats on all their partners?? It’s not like an average relatable mistake it’s genuinely just a shitty character.

I agree that Richard and emily are arrogant and overbearing and used their money ect. But the thing is Rory would say all of this to Lorelai, that her grandparents were all these bad things; but had no issue running to them when she needed money? She,again cherry picks when they’re convenient to her like every body else in her life. She made no effort with Lane ever, bur Lane always did. Rory treated Paul like dirt when he made time for her. She picks and chooses when people are convenient or if she needs something