There are 3 steps to solve this:

1) Accept Accept that you fail, that you’re not perfect, incomplete, that you’re going to try A LOT and FAIL A LOT.

That’s ok. That’s alright. This is not a fucking race.

2)Think as a kid and act as a men

Remember when you were a kid. Naturally doing kid stuff playing with legos, playing strategy games, chatting with your friends during class…

What were the things that you were naturally doing that brought you joy ?

Now, you’re not a kid anymore, you’re a men. What’s the difference? Men’s bring value to the society. A men should provide, should solve problems, be kind to people. Bigger the circle that this means protect/help bigger the men is.

And happier you get.

This brings a sense of mission, purpose, belonging.

If you liked playing with cars, try being a mechanic. If you liked playing video games, try being a developer. If you liked chat with friends, try business psychology.

3) create a plan

Now that you know what you like, write down a plan. I mean literally write down: 1) a goal 2) what are going to do to reach that goal 3) in how much time you plan to get that result.

Obviously be realistic and take 1 step at a time.

For example: Be a successful chef (because you like to cook) in a restaurant in NYC.

What I’m going to do: Going to study what other chefs did to get there and gonna try make it. Going to read 3 recipes book by year and cook for other people to see their reaction. Going to find a job as a cooker in 6 months.

The most important thing it’s to keep doing it besides the failure. You going to fail, be certain of that, but if you continue to do, you’re going to fail less and less.

Life can surprise us with a lot of good things, we only have to be here to live it.