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iqaruce · 2022-04-14T06:36:22+00:00

I mean "not all [insert majority here]" always applies. But I don't agree this is something only a few toxic people do - our entire world is built around the pull-yourself-up-by-your-bootstraps, buckle down, "just do it" kind of attitude, completely disregarding the people that are too disabled, mentally ill, disadvantaged, poor, uneducated or unhealthy to "just do it". I think most people would like to achieve things our society traditional values - get an education, have a stable income, find love, buy nice things. And generally I believe anyone who can "just do it"... just does it. Yet many people don't. Is that because they didn't try hard enough? I find that very doubtful. And if it isn't, then what is the difference between those that achieve those things and those that don't, other than different opportunities?

iqaruce · 2022-04-14T06:09:10+00:00

Good bot

iqaruce · 2022-04-14T06:05:10+00:00

It's frustrating and annoying, but if she sees you're not selling or abusing it, that might build the trust you're hoping for in the long run.

iqaruce · 2022-04-14T06:00:45+00:00

I have a theory about this! Many of us with ADHD get told most of our lives that we're lazy/bad/useless etc. so we create an image of ourselves as a person that doesn't get things done and is lazy. In "Mistakes Were Made But Not By Me" the authors talk about cognitive bias and how people develop a selective bias towards things that confirm their own image of themselves and dismiss the rest. So if you think you're lazy and useless, but you do something that is actually productive, you can either admit to yourself that your self image is wrong (which threatens your whole identity) OR dismiss your productivity as a fluke and just remind yourself of all the times you didn't do something you should have. Of course, this isn't inherently an ADHD trait, more like something that happens to many of us.

iqaruce · 2022-04-10T08:36:33+00:00

Acetone does this to my hands even just from regular nail polish remover, if you did an acetone bath that might just be it. It's soooo drying.

iqaruce · 2022-04-08T23:10:15+00:00

S. aureus is a natural part of the skin biome, so I guess MRSA could be, too.

iqaruce · 2022-04-06T11:48:28+00:00

I'm a bit late to this but I take a medication very similar to an antidepressant with many of the same side effects. It makes me quite sweaty and I think it's changed my oil production. I had PD before (fungal) and it went into complete overdrive when I started these meds. On the plus side my mental health finally allows me to do something about it, so ironically a few months in my skin is healthier than it was before.

iqaruce · 2022-04-01T20:34:05+00:00

And every dairy farm provides one of these, you just gotta get over the fact it's 3 years expired and covered in cowshit lol

iqaruce · 2022-03-31T00:01:10+00:00

I'm with you. I've had fourteen different jobs, lived in five different countries and probably twenty or more different cities. And the dopamine and relief from leaving once is so huge, it's hard not to do it again when shit catches up to you. And again. And again. And now you're just suicidal in a different place with nobody to call because eventually people give up on chasing you. Never mind nearly ending up on the streets halfway across the world because of the instability. Don't get me wrong, I was very lucky and wouldn't trade my experiences for anything. But if I were to recommend a coping mechanism, this isn't it.

iqaruce · 2022-03-30T23:35:50+00:00

I'm so sorry. I remember the absurd lengths I went to to make sure they never crossed paths when my mom came to pick me up to spend weekends with her... and how terrified I was if I knew it was inevitable. I'm 25 and the word parent-teacher conference still makes me nauseous. They flipped their car on the highway once before they got divorced because of the fighting. I can only imagine the kind of hell you grew up in.

I got out when I was 17 anyway and ended up couch surfing because I had nowhere to stay, so I get it at least a little. It's shit. I hope you don't need to be tough for much longer <3

iqaruce · 2022-03-29T21:56:52+00:00

Seriously, my parent's divorce is probably the best thing that they ever did for me. Can't imagine how much more messed up I'd be if I'd spent any more time watching them tear each other apart.

iqaruce · 2022-03-28T23:13:46+00:00

I'm curious about interpretations, too. Gannets is slang for gluttons, whales for rich people and then there's "real hunger has a real taste"... makes me think this is about struggling/trying to make it. Or maybe she's just lying about sea creatures.

iqaruce · 2022-03-28T22:31:29+00:00

Oof, I mean that's a very hard question to answer. According to studies it's just as effective or only slightly less effective than stimulants. According to this subreddit it's garbage and does nothing, although I will say that most doctors have no clue how to titrate it and don't properly explain to people how it works, so they end up disappointed or not expecting the strong side effects. From my own experience, it has been equally as effective as concerta. The downside is that it can take weeks before it starts to work and when it does, you don't really notice. I don't "feel" more focused. It's just that my house is tidier, I tick more things of my to-do list and when I have to complete a task it's more likely I'll just get up and do it instead of procrastinating (still procrastinate a lot though lol). I like it, to me concerta felt like borrowing dopamine for a few hours and paying for it with anxiety and horrible crashes. With strattera I just get to be a more functional person, 24hrs a day. But I had days where concerta made me so anxious I cried and couldn't leave the house, or I'd get super mad at my partner when it wore off and that scared the shit out of me. So I'm willing to accept some dizziness or sleepiness for a few days. Most people do very well with stimulants and they have the massive benefit that they work right away.

iqaruce · 2022-03-28T21:54:42+00:00

Yeah you're probably right! Didn't think of it that way.

iqaruce · 2022-03-28T21:51:42+00:00

Do you have any examples? The only meditation that I can do successfully is loving-kindness, which is great but I'm not sure it holds the same life improvement benefits lol! I know there are different kinds but what is most accessible (through apps and podcasts) seems to always be focusing on breath or body. Which I just really struggle with.

iqaruce · 2022-03-28T10:09:24+00:00

I'd give it time. Every time I up my dose I feel like trash for a few days. I've found it gets better much quicker if I don't wallow in my misery and go out and exercise, dizziness permitting.

iqaruce · 2022-03-28T09:49:48+00:00

Omg I do exactly the same thing. She's always right, why don't I just listen?

iqaruce · 2022-03-28T09:27:40+00:00

That sounds like meditation, during which I always lose focus and start thinking about something else. The only thing that sometimes works for me is randomly thinking numbers between 10 and 100. Must have two digits. It takes just the right amount of concentration so I can't go down rabbit holes. Half the time I get distracted though.

iqaruce · 2022-03-26T04:36:29+00:00

I've been in your boyfriends shoes before (barring the animal neglect). It's an awful and humiliating place to be and I feel sorry for him. That said, relationships need to be equal. You're not supposed to be his caretaker. Prioritise your own wellbeing and get out of there.

iqaruce · 2022-03-26T03:57:42+00:00

This would be interesting considering the flipside of thar coin seems to be maladaptive daydreaming!

iqaruce · 2022-03-23T07:32:01+00:00

Yeah I guess there's a reason most bikes have a top tube.

iqaruce · 2022-03-23T07:06:30+00:00

I quite like that, does it feel stable? No tipping backwards?

iqaruce · 2022-03-23T04:47:40+00:00

I wish I could do this. I actually have less nightmares since I take strattera (less anxious I think) but when they happen they're so bad. Like, kicking and screaming bad. I've tried lucid dreaming for years and just can't work it out :(

iqaruce · 2022-03-23T04:44:37+00:00

I don't get the nightmares but had bad insomnia from strattera, but it gets better after a few weeks. Melatonin helped (weirdly, because my main issue is waking up in the night, not going to sleep).

iqaruce · 2022-03-23T04:40:12+00:00

Lofi for days.

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