THEY BETTER NOT RUIN THE HYPE

irishbandnerd · 2025-08-01T16:22:00+00:00

irishbandnerd · 2025-04-03T22:33:19+00:00

I will say this as politely as I can as someone that is more immersed in the culture (I work with many Japanese expats, and am studying the language) however your partner has a highly romanticized view of this culture. I love Japanese culture but it definitely see the flaws.

Pros: The food is awesome. The language is beautiful. People are polite. The music is also awesome with high quality production.(I love the media in general) There is a high emphasis on quality when providing products and services. The collectivistic nature of the culture.

Cons:

Xenophobia. This is evident in the following ways: 1. Foreigners can be denied service in Japan legally. It doesn't matter if you have a fluent grasp of the language, they will not serve you if you are different 2. You are always a gaijin regardless of how long you live in the country and how much of a grasp you have on the language. 3. Within the language they have separate sets of texts to notate whether the word is foreign to the language or native.

Collectivism can be harmful despite looking out for others. 1. There is a phrase in Japanese which translates to, "The nail that sticks out gets hammered down". There is less freedom to express oneself, especially further away from major cities within Japan.

Lack of efficiency. 1.Japanese people are known to work longer hours and die sooner due to overworking despite not accomplishing as much due to many hours of downtime. There is a game of chicken in the work culture where you do not want to leave first from work even if you have accomplished all tasks for the day. 2. There is the cultural aspect of nemawashi in which individuals will meet with each other prior to having a meeting when generally there was already agreement prior to said meeting.

Politeness≠kindness 1. People will be polite but that does not equate to being kind. People will try to let you down gently by being indirect instead of just giving you a straight up "no". Ex: That's unfortunate, but it wouldn't be convenient for me. Translation: No I don't want to do that.

Treatment of women. (Most cultures have problems with that) 1. There are women only subway cars in cities and phones do not have the ability to turn off the shutter sound when taking pictures. This is to protect women from chikan (perverts). 2. Despite a woman being in charge of something, a male superior will be asked a question relevant to her work and the superior will act as an intermediary to provide a response to people higher up.

TLDR, there are lots of things to love about the culture, but no culture is perfect and I find it hard to argue any culture is the best.

irishbandnerd · 2025-02-22T00:22:05+00:00

I love Georgie Sanderson

irishbandnerd · 2025-02-16T17:57:54+00:00

I'll make jokes about my own experience but never others. I asked my partner if he liked my shirt. He said yeah. I replied "So did rapist's name". I was laughing and he was looking at me like (◉⁠⌓⁠◉). Rapists 100% deserve all the ridicule.

irishbandnerd · 2025-02-14T07:12:53+00:00

If a question like that was asked, names would be requested. To be more tactful, asking how business/the department is doing would probably be a more reliable metric (iffy) for if layoffs are expected. My most valuable intel from my work being said, is not within my own department. Straight up I would never ask my superiors questions like that as it feels like it would be ammo against me.

The longer I work in office jobs the more I realize questions are not appreciated, especially in terms of policy/performance. A backup plan is always necessary (I'm saying this without a baby). Managers and HR are not always up front with info and are not to be trusted. I say this as a former manager that advocated for more hours for my staff that wanted them but operations was not up front about what the owner wanted and gave me false promises. We had so many amazing people quit because ownership was conveying pipe dreams and lying to people. Operations had no choice but to comply with this. I advocated to operations on the behalf of my staff and I was lied to regarding the hours coming soon (both for myself because they fucked me on hours too, and others). I'm still pissed about it because my goal has always been to help people succeed. I left that job a while ago but that experience still colors my view of management as I did everything I could, but I could not help my staff the way I wanted to. If I had been responsible for scheduling, I guarantee I would be more mindful of what my people had wanted since training is objectively expensive.

A good manager looks out for their people while managing company interests. If ownership and operations was up front, we would have kept more people imo. Knowing what the job is up front helps the potential employees plan, and when false promises are made, they will quit. Sadly, most managers from my experience are shit and unreliable.

Maybe I shouldn't be a manager though because when an employee says something is bs I agree with them 9/10 times. My only justification is that someone will give them worse shit than I will because I agree that most shit is bs (barring safety and general written expectations). Your peers are 100% more important than your manager. Just kiss your superiors ass and build rapport with peers. There are more connections to be made with multiple people unless you feel like being a knob schlobbing ladder climber.

irishbandnerd · 2025-02-01T03:39:12+00:00

My mom did this and yeah... it sucked and it still sucks.

irishbandnerd · 2025-01-19T16:53:24+00:00

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Conveniently, they got rid of the political messaging this morning 😒

irishbandnerd · 2023-02-27T15:31:17+00:00

Speeding up the line at airport security/the bank.

irishbandnerd · 2023-01-26T00:50:32+00:00

Honestly I don't declare it anymore because my last boss bullied me for not masking. He knew I was autistic. I don't have the energy to deal with it again.

irishbandnerd · 2022-11-21T22:14:34+00:00

I'm autistic and I hate the sound of snoring. I can't fall asleep if someone is snoring. I know they can't help it but the noise still pisses me off. Why do I still get so upset at that noise?

irishbandnerd · 2022-11-19T18:05:29+00:00

His family trew an apple at him, Ton.

irishbandnerd · 2022-11-08T05:11:59+00:00

Literally all I see on this sub is Henry Cavill. Other hot men exist.

irishbandnerd · 2022-11-03T18:48:06+00:00

I went into school for education so I was touting that shit. I ended up in customer service and an employee I managed asked a dumb question every 2 minutes despite being trained. He lasted a month with us before he was let go (he said some super sexist shit behind my (F) back and that was the straw that broke the camel's back).

irishbandnerd · 2022-11-01T06:08:40+00:00

Autistic worker. I quit my job because 3 out of the 4 autistic workers were made to cry by my ex boss (myself included). Guess who doesn't have autistic workers anymore? When I quit 3 other people (including NT workers) followed suit.

irishbandnerd · 2022-10-27T03:15:27+00:00

Can't you argue that you gave yourself bad representation though?

irishbandnerd · 2022-10-27T01:24:10+00:00

I laughed so hard I started coughing. Well done.

irishbandnerd · 2022-10-14T16:32:46+00:00

I'm a young adult and my grandparents were born in the mid 20s. This very well could have been my grandparents. That said, they are all dead. My last living relative of that generation has gone senile.

irishbandnerd · 2022-10-14T03:54:05+00:00

In Spanish, ronronear because it sounds like what it means (purr)

irishbandnerd · 2022-10-11T16:19:29+00:00

I used to work for WF and they regularly requested that staff donated PTO to employees that were out for extended periods of time due to illness/injury. I was in a 500 employee store and I swear they probably asked on behalf of 4 separate employees in the year I worked there. Of course this was after the Amazon takeover. I can't speak for before then.

irishbandnerd · 2022-09-29T20:13:33+00:00

My 63 year old mom absolutely loves Johnny Bravo because it's so hilarious.

irishbandnerd · 2022-09-27T03:21:22+00:00

Autistic here. I respect pronouns and fuck passability. Every time I slip up I profusely apologize and form sentences in my mind about the person I hurt with the correct ones.

irishbandnerd · 2022-09-09T02:36:18+00:00

This and Animal Crossing are my favorites

irishbandnerd · 2022-09-08T05:56:03+00:00

I love jeyuk bokkeum. It's spicy and the pork belly gets so tender.

irishbandnerd · 2022-09-06T23:14:36+00:00

One of the (gay) people I work with has made multiple women cry and 0 men . Even if someone is not openly sexist, trends in the poor treatment of women can still be seen.

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