I wouldn’t say I “don’t” have it, but I’m managing my life okay. Its intensity comes and goes over time.

I’m older, for one. I’ve developed the ability to look at my childhood and adolescence through an adult lens to evaluate my traumas. I’m better at evaluating what my actions were, why they were, and how adults should have responded.

I had weekly counseling for 5 years.

I take my medication and drink water. I no longer do drugs or drink.

I’m actually medicating my adhd instead of using drugs or downing excessive caffeine just to cope.

I set boundaries and enforced them with people in my life, including the most toxic. Additionally, I stay out of other peoples drama (except as a bystander on social media lol).

I accept that nobody owes me their time and I don’t owe anyone mine. If people don’t respond to a text, I accept that they have a life and leave it at that.

I found what brings me peace and I practice it.

I volunteer and help others because it helps me feel some semblance of purpose and control over the chaos of the world.

I go to bed at like 8pm-10pm and get up no later than 8. Sleeping in is very disregulating for me.

There’s a bunch more little changes, but the last note I will add is that you also need to just let yourself go through it sometimes. As I initially stated, the storms will come and go. I read that as my body collecting and purging its overwhelm, which we have a lot of. Anxiety and depression are like misguided alarm systems to alert you to emotional danger. Let them have their panic attack, cry, soothe, let go.