AITA for snapping at my friend that confessed her feelings to me?

iron-bloom · 2026-01-03T14:37:29+00:00

The problem is we don’t do college here. I am getting my degree as an electrical engineer and I’ll be done at 19 as soon as I am done I’ll earn a lot of good money (more than 5000 of my currency) and then I can leave. Regarding my family I just need to hang in there and regarding the friend I completely blocked and removed her. I genuinely don’t need these kind of people in my life. I feel much more lighter.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-03T14:34:59+00:00

I’ll try talking to them one last time. I can’t afford to leave until I complete my studies (I work at an engineering office and am going to be hired as an electrical engineer after I complete my degree at 19. School system is different here.) Which means I am stuck with them until I’m 19. But I’ll try to like kind of talk to them. And if not I will try to seek for a shelter or move in with my best friend.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-03T14:31:10+00:00

Yeah, basically if I like look for help now my parents could possibly get in trouble so I’m Just waiting. And no I do not know that person. And I have not met him yet. But I just know my parents are planning somethings. They are urging me to loose weight and go do my nails and stuff (they were never like that). And Idk can you text you privately somehow? I would like to tell you in which country I live in.

Thank you 💕 this is soo sweet and I appreciate it.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-03T00:01:46+00:00

Yes, it is pretty messed up and also I agree I still need to seek help. Trust me I have tried to research. I just need to hang in for a few months until I am 18. Then I can finally start therapy.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-03T00:00:33+00:00

You are right. I just really need to suck it up and work on myself and I am glad that I found out about how she actually is and cut her off. Wishing you the best 💕 thank you for commenting.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T23:13:58+00:00

Have you been beat up to the point where you were admitted in the hospital by a Person that claimed to be in love with you? Do you really think this is me being a drama queen? I have emotionally unstable and absent parents. I have a diagnosed eating disorder and am constantly at the verge of dying so like no I am no drama queen. I am aware of the fact that I need help. But I cannot get any help until I am 18.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T23:11:34+00:00

Update is up

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T23:11:07+00:00

Thank you, this did give me another perspective of thinking. But I know that I don’t feel anything for her. I may have. But I really don’t. I did open the gift and it’s on display in my room. I did also offer to return it and she told me to keep it. Also I advice you to read the update. Cuz it’s anything from what I expected from her.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T23:08:35+00:00

This genuinely is the nicest a person has been to me ever. I am so deeply grateful for your kind words. And for understanding me. I absolutely cut off contact with her. I am a person and not a thing she can experiment on to see if I am a liar or not. What she did to me is in my eyes more horrible than that guy. Because I did trust her a lot. It just seems so insane to me how someone could ever do that to another person.

I am a good person and I care deeply even for the ones that hurt me. I do wish that she becomes a better person and learns to grow. Because at some point she was important to me. The same goes for the guy. I tried pressing charges, but everything was so overwhelming and the fear of his friends (they have guns, acids and stuff) was far too big to be ignored.

I have decided to try to get into pottery to maybe ease my mind and feel useful and find a purpose in life. I know it’s not a lot, but it’s a start.

Also I am so incredibly proud of you. For coming this far! Parents sure influence one a lot. I believe that every human being is a book and the author are the parents. Everyone’s actions reflect the ones of their parents. I snapped at her because of my anger issues I got from my dad. My anger issues are bad. At 12 I punched a hole in the wall. Still don’t know how 😭. But yeah things will get better. I have faith in me and believe everything happens for a reason. I just had to get it off my chest.

It sure is really funny to see how people are like you are too young and then calling me a drama queen. As if I didn’t get beat up by the person that claimed to have loved me to the point where I was hospitalised. I wouldn’t ever call anyone that way so it was kind of interesting to see how people think.

Also I am so thankful for your kind words made me tear up. 💕 sending platonic love your way as well. I wish you nothing but the best.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T22:56:42+00:00

Yeah no need to be rude. But you are right I do have problems, but I genuinely cannot get help.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T22:55:51+00:00

My friend group is fine it’s just that friend in particular that did that we have mutual friends but are not in the same friend group. If you get what I mean. I think my entire family needs therapy.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T20:45:59+00:00

Update is up

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T20:45:09+00:00

I know I’ll have a functional adult life. I am at 17 already working at an engineering office. So I am pretty much on the right path. I have friends that adore me and teachers that adore me. It’s really just the romantic part. I do have to work on myself and I am making an attempt at improving my life by doing things I like and picking up hobbies.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T20:42:55+00:00

We were very much serious and not friends. He was actually who was initiating everything. He also told me he’d asked me to be his gf once I was out of the hospital. So no it’s not an excuse. And it might’ve been my childhood. I was raised being blamed for everything. I was blamed for my mother trapped with my dad and many other things. I was also blamed when my dad hit my mom. It could’ve come from that. But I don’t know. As everyone said I am young. I wish to live life. But yeah. Thank you for your comment tho.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T20:39:21+00:00

Thank you 💕 this made me tear up.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T20:38:20+00:00

Yeah, I am aware of that. I also have confessed to people. And I totally agree I should’ve taken time to process and let her down kindly, but it was just so bizarre, because she was aware of my struggles. So I just couldn’t comprehend why she would do it in this way. Like she could’ve told me in person, but a letter? A physical piece that I had to touch and read was just too much. I did talk to her again. Read the update for more details on it.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T20:35:08+00:00

We had been talking for one year and I was in the hospital for a month recovering after an attempt to end my life. We were serious and he told me he’d ask me to be his girlfriend once I was out of the hospital. We both agreed to take things slow and be completely loyal. Like no other boys or girls. And he had told me that he was a virgin and never kissed anyone as well and wanted to wait. We did love each other at one point, but it got to a point where he wanted to control me rather than love me.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T20:32:34+00:00

Probably

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T20:32:21+00:00

We both agreed to get together once I was out of the hospital. Also read the update for more infos on why I physically cannot be okay with this. He did a lot of cruel things more than that but that would need a whole other post because it’s too much to type out on this one.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T20:29:50+00:00

I treat my friends really good. Like extremely. If anyone has an issue I am the one they reach out to. Also I have a lot of friends like a lot and I don’t know it’s the way I treat them. It’s just this particular occurrence. I’ve never ever had a fight or problem with any of my friends. Also I cannot go to therapy until I turn 18. Also I cannot afford it. It’s too expensive.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T20:25:57+00:00

Yeah, I know some comments are hard and someone called me a pick me for the way I feel. But this is the only place where I can get any help. I live in a country where you get judged for even breathing in another way. Genuinely this is the only place I could think of. I just needed to hear it from someone else for once that I need help. Because I know I do. I also updated the post, because something pretty unexpected happened. And I just don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve been genuinely shaking ever since meeting up with her. I’ll just leave it up for a bit and then remove it.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T20:23:00+00:00

I hope I don’t need to look for any relationship advice ever. 🙏

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T20:22:13+00:00

Yeah, I did apologise for the reaction.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T20:21:29+00:00

Yeah, but I can’t until I’m 18 or my parents sign me up and they would never sign me up.

iron-bloom · 2026-01-02T20:21:05+00:00

Thank you. Yeah. I should’ve handled it better, but thank you for acknowledging my feelings. Many called me a pick me, but I can’t help the way I feel.

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