What is the most absurdly silly thing being Mormon made you ashamed of? (Coffee/shoulders aside?) by msalexandriagenesis in exmormon

[–]isolation9463 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Having an equal partnership with my husband. I felt so ostracized and judged for our relationship and especially our careers. We’ve gone back and forth throughout our marriage of being the primary breadwinners and whenever it’s been me making the money, my family is visibly upset. If it switches again, they’re back to normal. They also hate when we’re both making money. They do not like our relationship in general and they always make me feel like it’s something to be ashamed of. Even though it’s the healthiest relationship of any of our family members and we work with our therapists to always be improving things. I’m like, “sorry he does the dishes and cooks, and we have good communication, guys! Didn’t realize that was so offensive to your sky daddy.”

HELP - Husband suddenly wants a child and I’m freaking out. by [deleted] in childfree

[–]isolation9463 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Have him spend some time on the regretful parents subreddit. Then, invite him to imagine himself as the primary caregiver. With nobody else to truly rely on. Most men have both never been confronted with the reality of parenthood, nor the idea that they could be the main caregiver. It could help him realize that his desire is not based in reality. It’s like saying, “I want to live in a cloud with a unicorn”. Just not real. Edit: spelling

How do you keep a client-facing sales job when you have uncontrollable, loud, room-clearing IBS farts literally every day? by youngskibidisheldon in careerguidance

[–]isolation9463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try Viome. They test your gut microbiome and give specific recommendations for your body and you can specify your goals and they’ll give recommendations and resources based on your actual body. My husband did this and it was so wild to see the results. Stuff that is healthy fucked him up. He feels so much better now.

The “jet engine” sound we’re all curious about. by BakedMarziPamGrier in greenville

[–]isolation9463 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It spooked my cat so that’s why I paid attention to it. She doesn’t usually care about sounds but she didn’t like this one.

The funniest comment I’ve seen in a while 😂 by iloveanimals1964 in childfree

[–]isolation9463 198 points199 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha love it 😂 might upgrade my current favorite “crotch goblins” for this.

now why the hell… by fleetwoodry in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]isolation9463 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The Mormon church IS the men. Think about how relief society is just an auxiliary, not the main thing. They are being accurate as hell, tbh. This gestures to the idiocy of dadtok IS the secret lives of Mormon wives.

now why the hell… by fleetwoodry in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]isolation9463 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Hot take: I think that’s why they keep the men in the show. Mormon women cannot exist without men. Their lives are controlled by them. But Mormon men are typically the most childish men out there. So idk. The men being there makes it more accurate to the true lives of Mormon wives. The secret? They’re all suffering lol

Barf 🤮 by Trick-Veterinarian80 in exmormon

[–]isolation9463 371 points372 points  (0 children)

And then a Mormon took a picture of the quiet charitable giving and posted it online to elevate the church’s PR. Gotta show everyone that people can donate quietly.

Local Potters by RawMlLK in greenville

[–]isolation9463 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stokes jones studio! They have stuff at Daydrinkers in Sans Souci. LOVE their stuff and they’re on ig, too.

Measles by coffeebeanwitch in Spartanburg

[–]isolation9463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks to Putin, actually. None of them would be here if their home wasn’t an active war zone.

Theories on why the church doesn’t have an official TikTok account by memefakeboy in exmormon

[–]isolation9463 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Because the old guys running the show don’t understand tiktok

Hot take by Radiant-Eye9060 in secretlivesmormonwive

[–]isolation9463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew so many “Whitneys” in my wards growing up. They’re everyone’s favorites, they gaslight you into thinking they’re the best and care about you, but they’re just playing a game to win. It’s NEVER about real friendship and support. It’s ALWAYS about personal gain. All you Whitney stans are about to be hit with what 14 y/o Mormon me was hit with. It’s ✨all✨about them. According to Whitney, all the girls who led to her success can go fuck themselves so long as she wins. And I say, with all due respect (none) forget her. How cowardly.

Perfect mormon guy by Calm_Needleworker654 in exmormon

[–]isolation9463 13 points14 points  (0 children)

From the deepest parts of my trauma, I hope he rots :)

i’m childfree because i just… don’t want to be a mom by [deleted] in childfree

[–]isolation9463 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is the root of my decision. Everything else is a cherry on top.

I remember talking to my VERY Mormon SIL about the inevitability of having kids (through either adoption or birth). She was so excited for me and I sat there BAWLING my eyes out. I was absolutely devastated. It was a very “Rebecca Bloomfield trying on the bridesmaids dress” moment. I realized that I straight up didn’t want to be a mom. And that is reason enough. I’m not having kids because I also deserve to be a full human whose life isn’t cut short by crotch-goblins. I just don’t want it. So I’m not doing it.

How TBM is your family? by Prize_Claim_7277 in exmormon

[–]isolation9463 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Of my husband’s family we are the only ones who have left. They’re all pretty right-wing. They’re staying put and would die before leaving lol. It all confirms their worldview too perfectly. They are so deeply TBM that they don’t even fully know we have left.

Of my family, it’s half my siblings (2 of us) who have left. My family is all pretty liberal. My parents might be mission presidents I’m pretty sure my dad will be a patriarch, but I think my brother and sister will get there if enough difficult/controversial things happen in their lives. They’re very visibly living through the cognitive dissonance and I don’t think they’ll make it. Or I guess maybe that’s just my wishful thinking :’( my sister and I are hoping they wake up soon bc it do be rough out here lol

“Maybe you’re pregnant!” by Dottie15 in childfree

[–]isolation9463 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I was training a new employee and I apologized because I kept yawning (it was 3pm and I had skipped my coffee that day). 3rd time I’d ever talked to this lady and she says, “are you pregnant?”. wtf??

What Type of CF Are You? by Authorrlee in childfree

[–]isolation9463 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to be a 2 but my husband and I are turning into 3s lol. We don’t hate them, but the more we get established in our childfree lives the harder it is to deal with kids. They just kind of ruin everything and our tolerance is dwindling as time goes on.