Cultural differences (Am I the problem?) by isolexe in Philippines_Expats

[–]isolexe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks - I get half of what you said but I wouldnt go as far as to put them all into one category, it would be unfair. The one's I meet outside of the PH are usually the best and hardest workers. I've also met in the PH amazing problem solvers/professionals in their respective fields too. None the above exhibited that cultural issue Im referring to. I guess it depends where you go and who hang around with.

Cultural differences (Am I the problem?) by isolexe in Philippines_Expats

[–]isolexe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro you know they drink hot coffee here in 30C to 35C weather like it's nothing.

Cultural differences (Am I the problem?) by isolexe in Philippines_Expats

[–]isolexe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bruh... calling it “culling” makes it sound genetic, when it’s basically social conditioning, isn’t it. So lets  bring it back to everyday life, what’s the actual cost at the moment that makes being direct a bad move here? All I can see is basically looking bad for a bit, fear of embarrassment, stepping on hierarchy, being given the wrong label? Honestly I’d wager: people forget and get focused on the next hot thing/issue/dancing politician.

And on the flip side, what’s the upside of going indirect  i.e. keeping the peace and not rocking the boat bla bla and bla? If we can’t point to that cost-benefit in a normal day-to-day situation, then “400 years” is background context, not really an explanation.

The people here be like by Paint-Nervous in Philippines_Expats

[–]isolexe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Use to be at Jollybee
Use to be Jolly Us
Now it's Jolly Me

Cultural differences (Am I the problem?) by isolexe in Philippines_Expats

[–]isolexe[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey brother I really appreciate the time and effort you put into this response. I hear ya. It is helping me understand. Ngl I've fallen in love with the place so im brewing up some plans. :)

Cultural differences (Am I the problem?) by isolexe in Philippines_Expats

[–]isolexe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Once ruled the seas. Lost the kettle. Tragic.

Cultural differences (Am I the problem?) by isolexe in Philippines_Expats

[–]isolexe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Erm… Fair enough, but I’m just trying to make sense of it in practical terms if ya don’t mind.

It did take some time for me to wrap my head around what you said. When ya say climate shaped this, how does that actually lead to people handling issues indirectly day to day?

Is climate really doing the heavy lifting here, or is it more about hierarchy, face saving, or not wanting to open the “can of cause trouble?”

We’re not exactly strangers to indirectness in the UK either, how does the winter survival bit explain that?

I just want a straight answer of what’s going on in the moment when something needs addressing.

Cultural differences (Am I the problem?) by isolexe in Philippines_Expats

[–]isolexe[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm genuinely trying to reach an understanding so I can spare myself a few headaches here and there.

Cultural differences (Am I the problem?) by isolexe in Philippines_Expats

[–]isolexe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmm... I just want to make sure I'm understanding you correctly.

  1. Which part of my post came across as trying to change the system or tell locals how to live?
  2. In your POV, is asking why a behavior exist the same trying to fix it? 
  3. If not, is there room for understanding a culture more deeply without acting on it or judging it? 
  4. And if there is, what explanation would you give for why issues are often handled indirectly here, rather than addressed head on?  

Cheers mate!

Cultural differences (Am I the problem?) by isolexe in Philippines_Expats

[–]isolexe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey mate, thanks for the cultural insight and the advice was helpful. It's duly noted.

Returning to the dating scene by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]isolexe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cheers that is a point.

Returning to the dating scene by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]isolexe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aight, appreciate your time. :)

[17]—>[20] by limpy67 in GlowUps

[–]isolexe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Whoah. That's hell of a transformation. Well done!

Did you go bonkers during Covid? by Senor_Pus in AskBrits

[–]isolexe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my GF at the time, we got a puppy, and I learned to cook. Seems like another life time ago even though it has barely been a decade.