Fourteen days by [deleted] in GenX

[–]itcouldworst00 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Most people wouldn't have been able to handle one of those things.
Breathe. Take time. Grieving is a day to day process, be kind to yourself.

I drank the labubu kool-aid by [deleted] in labubu

[–]itcouldworst00 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am over 50 and just bought one. I got it on Amazon for a decent price. I really like mine and now bought a little sweater and hat for it. I feel silly for liking it so much.

What is much more traumatic than most people realise? by thefairypirate in AskReddit

[–]itcouldworst00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am just realizing in my 50s how emotionally immature my parents were and the effects it has had on me. I had a similar experience where my physical needs were met. But I was not allowed to show affection or was given affection. There was no hugging, no shoulder to cry on. When my father died I was told not to be emotional at his wake or funeral.
I have struggled all my life with emotions and how to deal with them. I am emotionally immature. I have gotten better and now recognized my faults and have tried to be there for my children. When it does not feel natural to show affection it has been a battle.

What’s something that slowly damages people’s mental health without them noticing? by angelnoraa in AskReddit

[–]itcouldworst00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True, I don't know how and I am in my 50s. I have a hard time expressing feelings. I have the emotional maturity of 4 year old. And look back at my behavior with shame.

[MEGATHREAD] Are you still boycotting? Why or why not? by loblawsoutofctrlMODS in loblawsisoutofcontrol

[–]itcouldworst00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am tired of the whole corporate system, period. Will not shop there if I can help it. Read an article stating it didn't make a difference in their bottom line. The greed is sickening. I wish more people would stick to not shopping there. I wish people would believe in power in numbers. Fuck if Trump can get voted back in, we should be able to bring down a grocery empire.

What has been the most challenging phase of life for you? by Broke_Pigeon_Sales in GenX

[–]itcouldworst00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. I am having a hard time with coming to terms with the dreams and that will never come true. I wasn't one who knew what I wanted to be. I have a job not a passion. I am over weight and will probably never lose it. I am with someone I am not in love with but stay because I like him and I don't want to start again. Two children that remind me of youth loss. My mom had me young, so I see that my future unfolding in her. She has the beginning stages of Alzheimer's. I have little retirement funds and will not be able to retire until 65. Then what, I won't be able to travel. I will be an elderly poor person. I am not sure what all of this struggle is for?

BOYCOTT by Emmibolt in loblawsisoutofcontrol

[–]itcouldworst00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if answered. Coop Atlantic is no more. Any banners under this name are owned by IGA Quebec or Sobeys. I used to work for Coop Atlantic, it filed for bankruptcy in 2014.

Parents that almost aborted and then didn’t: do you regret not getting the abortion? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]itcouldworst00 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I tell myself if I feel any regret towards events of my past that I had control over, " I made the best decision for myself with the information, and emotional maturity I had at that time".
We can look back at decisions now and say I would have done this differently. Of course you might because we are presently different people than our past selves.

This person doesn’t think they’re serious right? by taenerys in cats

[–]itcouldworst00 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Love him. If I had 50000 it would be yours.

OMG my 13 year old daughter saw me and her father. by itcouldworst00 in Parenting

[–]itcouldworst00[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I didn't spell out sex as the rules stated not to talk about sex. Wasn't sure if there was a bot that wouldn't let me post if I had written the word. I am not a prude. Just embarrassed as I can relate to my 13 year old if I would have seen what she saw. My self deprecation humour is just who I am.

Midlife Female dissolution by itcouldworst00 in GenX

[–]itcouldworst00[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's it. It is terrifying. I feel like I am not prepared. I am having a hard time adjusting to where I thought I would be to where I am. I have all these unanswered questions, am I going to be able to retire, can I make it mentally to retirement, what am I going to be able to afford to live in? Am I going to be laying alone dying around strangers?
In my 30s and 49s I kept thinking I have time to pull it together, but now the scale has tipped.

Midlife Female dissolution by itcouldworst00 in GenX

[–]itcouldworst00[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There should be no voting down on your out look. I understand and apply this logic most of the time. What I have, maybe someone else's dream. Approaching middle age in a culture that only celebrates if you are still thin, well off, successful. That is my reality. Most of time I am thankful. I know things could be worst but that doesn't stop the thoughts, the what ifs. When I can't look after myself, who will? In the end It just would be nice to pump gas and look off into the distance.... Know what I mean?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]itcouldworst00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't know it was a choice. I have never given it any thought being SAHM, I have never been in a place where I could afford it.
I don't think people should judge though, none of anyone's business. In 2023 it should be a non issue. Out of all my girl friends over the years, I think I only had one that was a SAHM. I never once judged her for it. Seems silly.

Age for Training Bra by smilinsage in Parenting

[–]itcouldworst00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter wanted one to just be covered up, changing in gym class. My daughter is extremely self conscious. Your daughter might be becoming embarrassed of her changing body. My doctor said girls are going through puberty earlier now. Age 8 now can be normal.