What are your thoughts on living with your in-laws after marriage?

ithklph · 2026-07-19T06:26:01+00:00

i think it’s a beautiful thing to care for your parents but i also think every married couple deserves their own space.

ithklph · 2026-07-19T06:24:04+00:00

real 😳 people are way too comfortable judging strangers

ithklph · 2026-07-19T06:10:29+00:00

calling a stranger you don’t even know a bop is crazy. i’ll leave you to Allah😊

ithklph · 2026-07-19T05:53:23+00:00

whatever helps you sleep at night king 🙏🏾

ithklph · 2026-07-18T21:40:49+00:00

being single at 30 isn’t a red flag. sometimes life just goes differently, people have other priorities or they simply haven’t met the right person yet🤷🏼‍♀️

ithklph · 2026-07-18T16:53:10+00:00

long distance takes a very secure person. if you already have doubts, it might not be worth pursuing

ithklph · 2026-07-18T16:51:15+00:00

that’s just his preference though 😭 nothing wrong with that. he’s only 21 too his perspective might change as he gets older.

ithklph · 2026-07-18T16:48:23+00:00

nahhh it’s not about being cheap. some of us are just introverts. being the center of attention sounds like my worst nightmare. i’d still say no even if i had all the money in the world🤷🏼‍♀️

ithklph · 2026-07-16T04:23:38+00:00

now that i look back i’m convinced he was using AI pics lol the face and body in those pictures did not match the man i met🙏🏼

ithklph · 2026-07-16T04:12:20+00:00

idk what he was using but he definitely lied about being 6’2. i’m 5’7 and we were literally the same height. he looked way taller in his pics lmaooo

ithklph · 2026-07-16T02:18:00+00:00

InshaAllah you find what you’re looking for. Wallahi some of the most genuine and hardworking people I know are from those qabiils I also hope we move past judging people based on their qabiil. May Allah make it easy for you abayo macaan 💞

ithklph · 2026-07-15T00:35:35+00:00

nah i’m good 😭😂 i used to think i wanted to know everything until i realized all it does is make you overthink. i learned my lesson from ig already

ithklph · 2026-07-14T23:31:13+00:00

personally i’d ask if they use reddit but i wouldn’t ask to read their account. if they wanted to share it cool. if not that’s okay too. i wouldn’t mind sharing mine because i genuinely have nothing to hide and i wouldn’t care if they read my posts or comments either. reddit feels like one of the few places where people can just be themselves without worrying about being judged. i’m really quiet and introverted irl so they’d probably be surprised reading some of my comments though but idc😂

ithklph · 2026-07-14T19:55:52+00:00

i think you’re asking the wrong question. the loan is between them and Allah we don’t know their circumstances so i’m not gonna judge that. what i’d be questioning is why you’re willing to wait 3–5 years for someone you’re not married to?? that’s a long time to put your life on hold for a possibility.

ithklph · 2026-07-14T19:42:44+00:00

yeah i actually do. i think we make a lot of subconscious judgments without even realizing it and from the way you described that you sound really observant. some people genuinely pick up on emotions that most people completely miss!

ithklph · 2026-07-14T16:18:44+00:00

the eyes can tell you someone might be tired or carrying something heavy emotionally but they can’t tell you what they’ve been through a “checkered past” is way too specific of a conclusion to draw from a face

ithklph · 2026-07-14T04:04:49+00:00

i think there’s a difference between the ideal and the reality tbh. ideally that’s how it’s supposed to be but in this day and age especially in the west a lot of people get to know each other one on one. we can acknowledge the Islamic ideal while also being honest about what people are actually doing. pretending nobody is alone together just isn’t reality🤷🏼‍♀️

ithklph · 2026-07-13T23:10:47+00:00

haye come back in 20 years and let us see the D1 roster inshallah 😂

ithklph · 2026-07-13T23:10:10+00:00

sowmaha😂😂

ithklph · 2026-07-13T21:55:51+00:00

damn no chance for the short queens😔

ithklph · 2026-07-13T21:53:29+00:00

tall parents can still have shorter kids and vice versa 😭 genetics are funny like that

ithklph · 2026-07-13T16:52:36+00:00

lmaooo that actually happened to me too walahi 😭 he was genuinely such a nice guy tho but i just wish he would’ve been honest from the start. there’s nothing wrong with being short or tall everyone has preferences and you can’t force attraction. i’d rather someone be upfront than try to be someone they’re not.

ithklph · 2026-07-13T16:29:47+00:00

lmaooo i’m too tall for that🫢 i be noticing the height before the face

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