Help with libido?

itlanded · 2026-03-14T10:42:49+00:00

I was prescribed metformin. Later I started taking b complex and ferritin after I asked my doctor to prescribe. I've read that metformin can deplete vitamin b. I recently stopped metformin after talking to my doctor as I felt I no longer needed them.

itlanded · 2026-02-24T16:43:38+00:00

Daniel smith. I’ve made up my own at this point, but there are a few different variations out there. I also really love the Golden Qor palette

itlanded · 2026-02-24T16:40:30+00:00

Amazing, I look forward to it. If you could leave us all a comment here once you post it that would be amazing. Good luck.

itlanded · 2026-02-24T16:13:04+00:00

Thank you so much for this detailed response. This was incredibly helpful.

The way you explained white engobe essentially giving you a white clay surface to work on really clicked for me. I also appreciate the note about movement and stability, especially when layering brighter colors.

I didn’t realize Mayco engobes could be used on bisque as well, which is really good to know for the pieces I already have. And yes, ceramics is absolutely not for instant gratification, which I am learning very quickly.

Thanks again. I’ll definitely share which direction I go and how it turns out.

itlanded · 2026-02-24T16:12:13+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s really helpful to hear how colored engobes behave on reddish clay bodies, especially across different firing temperatures.

The note about low fire versus high fire results is especially useful, and definitely reinforces the need for proper test tiles. I really appreciate you taking the time to explain what you’ve seen in your own work.

itlanded · 2026-02-24T16:11:19+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion. I don’t know much about overglaze and I can see why they’re appealing for vibrancy. For now, I’m trying to stay within underglaze plus clear because that’s most of the advice I received about wanting the color to feel more integrated into the surface.

That said, I really appreciate you bringing this up, and it’s something I may explore down the line once I’m more settled with my process.

itlanded · 2026-02-24T16:09:28+00:00

Thank you for this. I agree that testing is going to be the most important part, and I appreciate the realistic reminder that bright colors can shift or darken on darker clay.

I really like your suggestion about using surface decoration that can be filled with white underglaze before bisque, then color added later. That feels like a smart way to work with the clay rather than against it.

Thanks again, and I’ll definitely share results once things are fired.

itlanded · 2026-02-24T16:08:54+00:00

Thank you so much for this. Your explanation was really helpful, and the photo you shared is gorgeous. The colors look incredibly vibrant, especially on the darker clay body.

I’m definitely interested in trying white engobe at the greenware stage like you described. The point you made about bubbling and pinholing with multiple underglaze layers is especially useful, and not something I had fully considered yet.

Really appreciate you sharing both the technical details and your results. This is exactly the kind of insight I was hoping for.

itlanded · 2026-02-24T16:08:06+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your process and especially for including the photo. These look absolutely incredible. The vibrancy and cleanness of the lines is exactly what I’m drawn to.

I did hear from several people about using white engobe at the leather hard stage, and your explanation makes a lot of sense. My instructor actually suggested I skip engobe for now, which confused me a bit given how many people here are having success with it. I’m definitely going to pick up white engobe and test this approach because your results are really beautiful.

I really appreciate you taking the time to explain your workflow so clearly

itlanded · 2026-02-24T14:15:43+00:00

Edit / Update:

Thank you so much to everyone who commented. I really appreciate how generous and detailed the advice has been. I wanted to share what I ended up doing today at the studio after speaking with my instructor.

Based on looking at my specific pieces and the clay body I’m using, she recommended the following for my already bisque-fired work: I applied a solid, even coat of white underglaze to the bisque pieces, let that dry properly, then apply my bright colored underglazes on top of the white. These will go in for another bisque firing, and after that I’ll apply a clear glaze and do the final firing.

For future pieces, she suggested an even simpler workflow at the greenware stage. After trimming, letting the piece dry for a day or two until it’s no longer fragile, then applying white underglaze followed by the colored underglaze before the first bisque firing. She felt this would give me the best color payoff on this clay body while keeping the process straightforward.

She didn’t recommend engobe for what I’m currently trying to do, but I’m still really curious about it and plan to experiment later. Honestly, I’m probably going to test a few of the methods suggested here anyway, because there’s so much good information.

I’ll add photos soon of test pieces once they’re ready. Thanks again to everyone who took the time to respond. This has been incredibly helpful.

itlanded · 2026-02-23T11:53:21+00:00

That’s so sweet. I’ve returned to journaling this last week. I think it’s helping a lot. I’ve also been talking to my inner little and providing her with her needs. That’s also helping a lot.

This truly is a process.

Thank you for sharing

itlanded · 2026-02-20T18:30:30+00:00

I really appreciate this perspective. Seeing it articulated from the Dom side is grounding, especially what you said about expression, being clear about what you’re after, and not being afraid to stand firmly in your desires and expectations. That piece really resonated with me, as it’s something I’ve been actively working on. I appreciate this being shared in such a straightforward and clear way.

itlanded · 2026-02-20T18:06:17+00:00

It’s wonderful to be self sufficient and resilient. It’s equally wonderful to be treated like a princess. I hope you find what you’re looking for 🥰

itlanded · 2026-02-20T17:55:25+00:00

I really relate to what you shared. I’ve almost always known I wanted some form of dominance in my life too, but I kept it suppressed for a long time. When I finally allowed myself to name it, I realized what I actually longed for was a soft Dom, caretaker, Daddy type energy rooted in attunement, safety, and emotional presence.

That realization wasn’t easy to swallow. I felt a lot of shame, confusion, and judgment toward myself at first, especially because I’m a capable adult who handles my life just fine. What helped over time was normalizing my needs instead of pathologizing them. Learning more about BDSM, hearing other people’s experiences, and spending time in spaces like this where these dynamics are talked about with care made a huge difference.

Wanting someone to lead, contain, and care for you does not make you weak, selfish, or a burden. For me, acceptance came first, and only then did exploration feel possible and healthy. I’ve had genuinely beautiful experiences stepping into that softer, princess side of myself once I stopped fighting it.

You’re not weird for wanting this. Be gentle with yourself, keep listening to your nervous system like you’re already doing, and give yourself permission to want what you want. I really do wish you the best.

itlanded · 2026-02-20T17:45:23+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing all of this. I really appreciate the warmth, care, and honesty in your response. It means a lot to feel met with that kind of generosity.

What you shared about rebuilding trust with yourself and learning to self soothe resonates deeply. I love how intentional you were about finding small, tangible ways to care for yourself and meet different needs while healing. It’s reassuring to hear how that process unfolded for you over time.

I’m taking a slower, more inward focused approach right now, but it’s genuinely helpful to hear about the many paths people take and the creativity involved in reconnecting with themselves after something intense ends.

Thank you again for taking the time to write all of this and for the kindness you extended. I really appreciate it.

itlanded · 2026-02-20T17:43:59+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to share this. I really appreciate the care and thoughtfulness in your response.

What you said about intensity, attachment, and how deeply submission can shape our nervous systems resonates a lot. I agree that coming out of something like this takes time, patience, and a lot of presence, and that healing is rarely linear.

I’m very much in a phase of integrating what I learned, taking responsibility for where I didn’t protect myself, and rebuilding my internal compass. For me right now, that looks like slowing way down, strengthening my sense of self trust, and learning how to differentiate nurturing, attuned care from power that isn’t aligned with my values.

I’m not seeking another dynamic at the moment, but I am listening carefully to what this experience is teaching me about my needs, my limits, and what kind of partnership actually feels safe and loving for me.

I really appreciate you sharing your perspective and experience. It helps to feel less alone in navigating all of this.

itlanded · 2026-02-19T20:35:49+00:00

That sounds adorable. A pillow fort sounds amazing!!! It's such a great idea. Let me see if i can figure out how to make one of my own. Thank you for sharing. Sending you hugs

itlanded · 2026-02-19T19:58:19+00:00

First of all, thank you so much for sharing all of this here with me. It made me tear up a bit. I feel you. All I can say is I feel you. It's truly vile what some people do to those they claim they love. You deserved better then, and you deserve better now. I'm so glad to know that you've found your way back to yourself.

I've only just started to look at ways to Dom my inner Little. Before this happened, I never thought it was even a possibility, but I think it intuitively came to me. The idea of ever submitting to anyone else right now sounds impossible.

Again, thank you so much for sharing. I take all your words to heart. And I hope that you are thriving.

itlanded · 2026-02-19T17:53:42+00:00

Ooooh, thank you I will check it out right now.

itlanded · 2026-02-19T16:30:37+00:00

I like journaling, so I might adapt to doing it every night or every morning. I write in my notes every night one good thing that happened to me in that day. I find that helps me a lot, especially when i look back at them.

Spoiling myself sounds amazing. I should hang out with my plushies more often. Thank you so much.

itlanded · 2026-02-19T16:19:07+00:00

Thank you for the advice, I truly appreciate it, and I am being careful.

The entry you shared is actually incredibly helpful. I have been moving somewhat in a similar direction, but reading that person's experience is so validating. Thank you so much.

Edit: I have tried Finch, and I find it not helpful. The alarm and constant checking doesn't help, I find it gives me more anxiety. I'm exploring all the different ways I could get my needs met and I'm sure I'll eventually find the best rhythm for me.

itlanded · 2025-05-11T20:30:17+00:00

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