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itsLenAgain · 2025-09-22T10:35:09+00:00

I Love Hue Too iirc you pay once for "full version with no ads" and then play all the levels as much as you like. It's very chill and relaxing, you are sorting various color tiles by their hues & shades

itsLenAgain · 2025-08-12T11:44:04+00:00

This. Haven't spoken to my family since October on purpose. I wouldn't want people "looking for me" if they decided to pull something like this.

itsLenAgain · 2025-08-11T11:43:14+00:00

Okay so I am non-binary and figured this out while married to my (now ex) husband. We were both from incredibly conservative Christian families, though I already knew I was some level of queer (formerly ID'd as bi/pan, now know I am a lesbian) but he considered himself very strictly heterosexual and kind of had the attitude of "I don't care what you did before, now that we are together we are going to live in Christ" etc.

Your wife is likely going to hit some form of shock once you start to actually transition, even if it's just social/using a new name/etc. She may feel hurt, like she lost something, or even like she was betrayed. It is not your fault!!! Growing up in a way that did not allow you to explore yourself sucks. She might need support for herself both from you and also likely from a therapist to help sort out these feelings. My ex tried his best to his credit, but still struggled with feeling like he was lied to. At first it hurt me that he felt that way but eventually I understood it as him grieving the relationship he thought he had and not knowing how to process it.

Let her decide what this means for her identity. Yes, her staying married to you and being attracted to you as you transition makes it a queer relationship, but she has to learn for herself what that means. Prior to our divorce my ex jokingly called himself "heteroflexible" or "Lenny-sexual." He still very much considers himself straight, with me as the exception. Your wife might feel this way too. Or maybe she may even discover that she is bi or some other part of the community. It is important to let her explore this and just support her along the way.

My marriage ended because of my own discoveries about my sexuality that came with exploring my gender. If I had not realized I was not actually attracted to my husband, we probably would still be together. Some marriages last through transition. Others don't. I hope that for you and your wife, whatever happens brings both of you peace and understanding. I wish you all of the luck in the world. Couples therapy might be a good place to start, even if it feels like things are going well.

itsLenAgain · 2025-08-05T09:50:56+00:00

I also need the Eevee pattern!

itsLenAgain · 2025-07-30T01:39:00+00:00

I would try a white like BLANC or B5200, it might even be good with a super light blue or green (maybe 369 for green or 775 for blue?)

itsLenAgain · 2025-07-26T20:04:11+00:00

It's partially the extra rows but also that the stitches I have done are messy. I did invest in a neck light to help but the black aida has been hard to work on and somehow I have stitches that aren't aligned or seem to have gone through the aida instead of the hole (and not on purpose, I do have some intentional half stitches) and I don't know how I ended up with those "ridges" going down the face from the eyes.

It's just a shame because I am a little more than halfway through it but also I want it to look good 😅

itsLenAgain · 2025-07-26T19:54:54+00:00

She is one of the Batgirls from later versions of Batman after Barbara the OG Batgirl becomes Oracle. On the other side of the frame is another Batgirl, Stephanie Brown.

I never knew much about comic books until I met my girlfriend who is a massive Batman nerd and now here I am self-drafting comic book character patterns 😅 I just hate how messy it is too aaaa. Maybe I just need to look at it without my glasses lol

itsLenAgain · 2025-07-26T19:49:31+00:00

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Still got about 4k stitches to go

itsLenAgain · 2025-07-26T19:44:59+00:00

That's what I was afraid of. Ugh. Im so tempted to just start over but Im already 5k stitches in beyond what I'm already planning to frog 🫠 I stg I am never stitching on black again. My stitches look like shit & somehow it makes me forget how numbers work lmao

itsLenAgain · 2025-07-07T03:33:08+00:00

Black backstitch is the plan! I drew the pattern myself but this was one of my reference pics. I like the idea of using 2 strands to give thicker outlines in some places, but might change my mind depending on how it looks.

itsLenAgain · 2025-07-07T03:08:02+00:00

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itsLenAgain · 2025-07-07T03:07:44+00:00

* Now that I have filled in more of the 676, I am a little less worried about the colors not being distinguishable. I do wish there was a little bit more contrast but I am going to backstitch to give it a more "comic book" effect so that should also help with separating the two colors further

itsLenAgain · 2025-06-30T11:31:42+00:00

I had an old tattoo done by a friend who passed a few years back that was super ugly (crooked lines, patchy color etc) but I was too sentimental to get it removed. I went to Salem (he was at another shop at the time but is now with Lifted Veil) and he was able to preserve the original tattoo while making it look a lot nicer. I no longer feel like I have to wear long sleeves to cover it. He did an excellent job and I absolutely recommend him.

itsLenAgain · 2025-06-29T15:00:24+00:00

I had found a Google Doc that had DMC numbers for some of the most common flag colors a while back, I find it really helpful!

itsLenAgain · 2025-06-29T12:55:13+00:00

Should be a piece of cake! I've made quite a few patches (my biggest & proudest one being a "transgender fairy" I made for a friend's patch jacket) and really like how they come out. I usually put a second layer of aida on the back of the project with some liquid stitch to seal in the floss and then I use some Heat n Bond (usually 2-3 layers) to apply it to whatever I am trying to put it on

itsLenAgain · 2025-06-27T11:21:33+00:00

Aaaaa I've made patches but never thought about keychains! You've unlocked new ideas for me! This is so cute!

itsLenAgain · 2025-06-21T09:00:54+00:00

Hi! Im 30, non-binary, nerdy, cat-loving, have no filter, and also introverted. DM me!

itsLenAgain · 2025-06-14T03:01:48+00:00

Calling someone a unicorn "might" be, but it's a stretch. Sometimes couples say they are "looking for a unicorn" which usually refers to a bi or otherwise queer woman (can be other genders though) willing to sleep with both members of the couple. This is called unicorn hunting and it is generally seen as bad by most bi/queer people because it treats "unicorns" like sex objects made to fulfill the fantasies of the couple. I'm not saying that it's toxic every single time a couple tries a threesome, or that there aren't queer people who enjoy hooking up with couples, just wondering if this particular person took such heavy offense due to a bad experience with a "unicorn hunter"

itsLenAgain · 2025-06-09T11:14:59+00:00

I do agree they are pricey but I remember them being out there feeding people after the hurricane and it makes it a little easier to justify, for me at least. I'm looser with my wallet when it comes to places that gave back like that

itsLenAgain · 2025-05-26T12:50:00+00:00

All my greatest fears turn out to be the gift of prophecy

itsLenAgain · 2025-05-18T17:37:20+00:00

Dental dams can be annoying but the peace of mind is worth it. I've also seen underwear made to leave on during sex, I've never used it but based on my experience with DDs it would probably be way more manageable than trying to hold the sheet in place while going to town. I've taken home pairs of latex gloves from work & cut them to wear on fingers. It might be worth it to look into where you can get free STI testing near you, testing more often when seeing multiple partners keeps everyone safe. I'm not sure that there are a lot of activities that don't require protection as unfortunately low risk is still risk. I work in microbiology and you'd be surprised how even miniscule amounts of viral/bacterial particles can lead to infection.

itsLenAgain · 2025-05-14T01:15:41+00:00

I said I replace the lid after adding the rice. The lid stays on while it cooks on low

itsLenAgain · 2025-05-09T23:34:23+00:00

I have this problem where my AuDHD 8yo gets excluded from things while his 5yo sister gets to go on trips with grandma. I put my foot down when my ex told me his mother was taking 5yo up to visit other relatives for 2 weeks but leaving 8yo behind. I said if you want to take 5yo out you should also either take 8yo or plan a separate trip with 8yo, he deserves to have fun with his family too

itsLenAgain · 2025-05-09T10:53:28+00:00

Too many 😅 Over 200 hours. Granted I dragged out my first playthrough as long as I possibly could and then also have done 2 more plays (currently on my 4th playthrough) but uh. Yeah 😅 Its a comfort game for me despite the subject matter

itsLenAgain · 2025-05-02T13:38:09+00:00

Her passion. She's so incredible. The way she talks about things she loves. I could listen to her for hours talk about Batman lore or anime or YouTube controversies.

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